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Female Switch, 27, london
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Male Submissive, 46, edinburgh
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About Lorryepet444
" Submission Is A Gift." Discuss.
A gift is something that is given freely, without expectation of payment or of something being given in return.
When I submit to a law I do not choose to gift the legal system with my submission, but I submit because it is the right thing to do and because it is expected of me as a responsible citizen in society.
I submit to the laws because I also am reliant on them to protect me when I need them. I rely on others to submit to them as well, and when they do that it offers me protection. In this way, my submission to these laws creates a transaction.
When I submit to a Dominant I do expect something in return for that submission. I expect his Dominance. In this way my submission is a transaction.
I submit because it is the right thing for me to do, in the same way that it is right for me to follow the laws. I submit because to do otherwise would be against what is right and good. It isn't really that I have a choice, I recognise that I do have a choice as to submitting to particular orders or particular Dominants, but when it comes down to whether I have a choice about being a submissive or not, I don't think that I do. And if I don't have a choice about whether I am a submissive, can being submissive really be gifting? Does it not then become like 'gifting' the air with taking in your next breath?
Submission is like creating a vacuum for the Dominant to fill with his will. It is like the mechanics of breathing.. The intercostal muscles pull the ribs out slightly and the diaphragm pulls down, this creates space and a vacuum in the lungs, a negative air pressure. The negative air pressure causes air to rush into the lungs to equalise the pressure and this is the mechanics of drawing in a breath. I think that submission works the same way. I create a hole for the Dominants will to fill up. I'm not really giving anything to him but space. It is him who gives his will, and my response to that will is a reaction to his gift. I don't think that it is the submissive who gives her submission, but it is the Dominant that gives his will. All the submissive does is take it.
I do not want to be the leader. I refuse to be the leader. I want to live darkly and richly in my femaleness. I want a man lying over me, always over me. His will, his pleasure, his desire, his life, his work, his sexuality the touchstone, the command, my pivot. I don’t mind working, holding my ground intellectually, artistically; but as a woman, oh, God, as a woman I want to be dominated. I don’t mind being told to stand on my own feet, not to cling, be all that I am capable of doing, but I am going to be pursued, fucked, possessed by the will of a male at his time, his bidding._______________________________ I am not really searching for a dominant. I believe in searching for self-discipline, knowledge and self-awareness. I think that this is a way to honour and serve the dominant who will (hopefully) one day take possession of me. I think it is possible to serve someone in this way, even though you may not have yet met who that person is going to be.. if this makes sense?I believe that there is a lack of depth to be found in abundance (is a lack of abundance a possibility?) on D/s sites. This is something that exists as much with the dominants as with the submissives. I believe in honouring a higher ideal behind D/s.. almost a philosophy of service, and it is hard to do that when you are collared or otherwise attached to someone who is only wanting a toy to play with and has no vision for leading the relationship. A lot of dominants believe that there is little else to being in a D/s relationship than getting their kinks met... and a lot of submissives believe that the only way to serve someone is through meeting their kinks. I believe in true service.. in being the personification of my Master's Will and meeting his needs. All of them.
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