A word to the wise - 

If you live out of state, and someone's profile indicates they are only looking locally... 

AND 

You send a message, anyway... 

AND

They take the time to write a courteous reply, to restate that it's not for them, not being local, and wish you the best... 

AND

You reply, "can't we still chat?" 

AND

They reply that they are incredibly busy with a hobby, work, family, and the gym, and don't have time to maintain a chat relationship with no reality endgame. And again, end by wishing you success. 

And your choice is to reply, "but we could still chat"

You can expect the courtesy to end, the flamethrower to go on, and receive a cutting reply, with no-hold-barred. 

You'll probably walk away from that encounter, thinking that the other person is a bi+ch, because that's how you are more comfortable, in your egotistical crap mind. And do the same to the next person.

For all of you that I don't send a reply to in the future, you can blame that guy. I was feeling kind and polite, and made the mistake. It'll be a while before I do so, again.

No means no. Full stop. That applies to any interaction. And if you're reading this, and don't live locally - please just save yourself the time. I wish you everything you're seeking, but it isn't coming from me. Thank you! 

I think one of the reasons I'm having troubles finding someone, is that so many of you "Doms" mistake your arrogance to be confidence. Talk about how great your body looks, how big your cock is, what supposedly enviable career you have, or, in particular, how much of an Uber Domly Dom you are - well, it might turn the cyber girls on, but it doesn't impress me. Quite the opposite. Humility is wisdom and strength. You aren't stronger than me, you aren't more intelligent than me, and you are certainly not a Dominant of mine, until you have shown any of that to be so. Think about it - any poser can log into CS and create an account to titillate themselves. This isn't the same as meetings, in person. I will not genuflect in words or deeds, to complete strangers.