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Female Submissive, 36
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Female Submissive, 51, Charleston, South Carolina
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Submissive Couple, 18, atlanta, Georgia
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About lilyophelia
TLDR: I am a 33 year-old, extremely poly, primarily submissive female (with some switchy tendencies). I try not to predefine what I'm looking for; if you find me interesting, feel free to approach me; if it doesn't work for me, I'll kindly let you know.
I'm really, really nice and loving and sweet; I hug dozens of people each week, and I have numerous petting and cuddle buddies.
You can find me on FL as lilyophelia
Please note: I generally like to move to a real-life meeting relatively quickly; we can have coffee in downtown Spokane, or you can find me at numerous munches or kink events in town (and the surrounding areas.) If that doesn't work well for you, Skype video is the next thing I will suggest.
I am generally very busy and social, so endless letters online is not ideal for me.
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In the past, I have always used profiles to try and sell myself to others; that is done and dead. I'm no longer for sale. I have things I am seeking (see below), but I'm not actively looking for anything right now; good experiences and relationships (brief or lifelong) will happen when they happen.
I am here to continue to grow and develop self-worth and value (for myself and for those I choose to love.) I seek to live a life of complete honesty and integrity balanced against tremendous compassion and love for others. Growth and change and new experiences are insanely important to me.
Secondarily, I care very much about community and my impact on other people. I want to see worthwhile communities that I interact with grow in activity and quality. When it comes to others, I strive to love and accept the people around me; I care very much about your comfort, and I will always do my best to build you up as a person. However, I have no sympathy for folks who embrace victimhood or have trouble accepting personal responsibility for their choices.
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More About Me
Words that describe me: accepting, alternative, confident, cuddly, cute, dominant, femme, flirtatious, gothic, happy, honest, hopelessly romantic, independent, kittenish, loving, passionate, polite, polyamorous, powerful, playful, striking, submissive, tall, thoughtful, warm
I'm very, very picky about my romantic and sexual entanglements.
I am polyamorous. I am interested in loving multiple partners at any given time. I have a deep interest in triads and poly families. I do my best to practice compersion.
My romantic orientation is heavily lesbianic. female energy is a primary need for me in love; if I have it, I can subsequently love and appreciate anyone else.
My sexual orientation is both demisexual and pansexual. It is extremely rare for me to find anyone attractive; it takes an emotional bond before anything about you or your body has a sexual impact on me. I can enjoy sex with anyone of virtually any gender expression (it can be pretty lovemaking or primal fucking) if I have a deep emotional connection to them first.
My kinky orientation is emotionally submissive and situationally switchy (with dominant tendencies). Kink and sex are two very different things to me. I never have casual sex as part of casual play.
I have deep, core cravings to belong in an emotional sense; I identify as a pet and a companion and a kitten. I would adore belonging to the right female dominant in something approaching a lifetime relationship. It would have to be a very romantic, emotional/mental D/s relationship; sex and kink are totally optional. A roommate or live-in arrangement would be ideal. I do not generally engage in casual, submissive play and my standards for dominants are extremely high.
I am a wonderful and amazing dominant. I specialize in emotional/mental play, and in D/s relationships.
I do bottom on occasion, but it is almost entirely for the sensual pleasure and the experience of kinky play. I'm very picky about who I bottom to.
I can top quite well, and I enjoy it quite a bit. I am less picky about who I top (and attractiveness is absolutely not on my mind at all.)
Other major non-kink interests include: tribal belly dancing (still learning), gothic music & dancing, henna body art, sewing, bdsm/kink play, and munches/socializing.
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From 1-100 in priority, this is what I'm interested in.
1. Being submissive in a long-term or forever D/s relationship to an amazing, female dominant; insanely picky about who I'd submit to; would likely trump anything else in my life.
7. Triad or Poly Family; probably open poly, possibly something long-term and forever. Insanely picky here, with a list of requirements that excludes most typical unicorn-hunters.
15. A female submissive for long-term play; possibly not forever (see everything above); open poly would be okay with me.
20. Bottoming to a Single-Tail Whip; my favorite love (so far) in kink; have to be relatively comfortable with the top.
40. Nonsexual dating/romance friends; falling in love without the sex; kissing, holding hands, dates, text messages; best friends.
45. Socializing just to explore; lots of time to wander, meeting everyone, and not looking for anything in particular; learning about people, thinking, growing through interaction; making others feel good about themselves
55. Cuddle friends; come hang out (at my place) for cuddles, pets, television/movies, chatting, and possibly even non-sexual napping/sleeping; probably female or gay male (or anyone else who can convince me they won't get creepy.)
60. Play partners for kink play; possible private play for practice/technique or to scratch the occasional itch; primarily trusted friends to play with in public spaces; age, gender, looks are unimportant
75. Casual bottoming; only if it suits me. Mostly for new experiences or because I just feel like I'm in the mood for it. Lots of boundaries and restrictions.
80. Casual topping; playing with casual partners in a public space (i.e. a play party.); age, gender, looks are unimportant |
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