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About Lilviper091
Cheeky, intelligent and a very typical piscean horse... Rein me in if you can ;-) lol I love to laugh, enjoy confident, happy people. Dramas are something I'm too easily pulled into, I dislike seeing ones close to me hurting. Im affectionate, loyal and hardworking... can be somewhat shy when we meet... but if there is a connection on whatever level, I will get over it quickly.
I have a naughty streak...a flirty, fun and positive outlook, with a serious side when the moment calls for it.
I LOVE happy people... even in this situation... there is NO reason fun can't be had ;) ?after all... a secret shared between two individuals makes it all the more deliciously naughty!
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I love the beach, would happily spend my days there if I could, actually, anything to do with water I love.
Camping (although it has been awhile!), random road trips that lead us where ever, I love animals (not in that way you pervert! lol) and was always bringing home, what I perceived, as homeless strays when I was younger. ?
I have a cat and a dog... and a fish... *ponders* I think that's it. :P
Drawing and music (of all kinds) are my calming/feel good agent, as well as a damned good session! ?It leaves me feeling balanced and somewhat 'right' in the world.
I have come to realize, if there isn't a balancing agent for a little while, I tend to get a little lost and wayward.. emotionally anyways.
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I AM impatient (but after a little bit of chastising of late - I am working on this!! lol)... if I like you and we click... a meeting to see if it's there in 'reality' is important for me and I would hope for you! ? ?
The face-to-face connection is important... as we all know, we can be anyone in text. ?You can't edit reality and it has a way of making things clear.
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I am a mum of two younger children - they are my top priority and I love them to bits.
Always careful regarding this situation and them - it would take a special, special person to be integrated into this household.
So, carefully we tread until everyone is certain. ?Otherwise, the two things are very?separate?identities.
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Happy Mischief Hunting... ?I see you! ?lol ;)
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Why Bother with a Brat?
The effort they put into they fun and games is matched by their devotion and deep desire to make you happy. A properly trained brat knows when it is and is not appropriate to be brattish. When pressed to be on their best behaviour and given a good reason, a properly trained brat will not let you down.
There is a difference between a brat and a badly behaved sub/slave. A brat when they act up will make those around at first take a step back and worry about sanity and then smile because there is humour in the action. A brat will only direct their brattishness at their owner or to very close friends who know what they are like. A badly behaved sub/slave will do it without humour and will be disrespectful to anyone and everyone making those around frown and become uneasy. Brats do not act up for punishment. They act up for funishment.
Final Thoughts
I believe brats can me trained/tamed within reason. I think they find a comfort level on what is and is not acceptable and test the boundary. It is up to us, their owners, to set those boundaries and stick to them. With understanding of what your brat does, why and when, you will gain valuable insight into how their mind works and how to keep your brat in perfectly happy health. I believe it is a crime to knock all brattish behaviour out of your charge. It is a denial of who they are. Personally I don?t want a doormat. I like a challenge. Does that make me a masochist? Perhaps. Where are my pills?
.... I'd check the toilet :) |
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Common Brat Tactics
1. Incitement ? They know they shouldn?t do it but they do. ?Is that the best you got??; ?Good boy?; ?Thank you my all knowing fluffy bunnykins?. You can insert your own ?pet? name in here but it will be designed by the brat to be mildly insulting while funny at the same time. ?Master/Sir is always right.? Seems to be a common phrase when they agree with something about you that is not quite complimentary. ?I?m an idiot? ? When you forgot something ? ?You are an idiot, yes Master/Sir. Your pet will remember that.? They can keep up the reminders for a considerable period of time.
2. Pranks ? Toys will go missing or shoe laces tied together while you snooze in a chair. You think that?s massage oil, but no it?s blue food colouring. Your brat is only looking for ways to keep you on your toes and inject some fun into your life. Bear this in mind when you find yourself reaching for the blood pressure pills and the studded paddle.
3. Coy silence ? Be afraid, be very afraid. Your brat is plotting or has already got something set up and is waiting for you to walk right into it. As they do in jungle warfare when something is tied high in a tree, stop dead in your tracks and check the ground. The coy silence is a distraction from the main event.
4. Innocent puppy eyes ? Has anyone seen those vampire programs where the innocent puppy suddenly sprouts fangs and mutilates the hand patting them on the head? You have been warned. ?It wasn?t me.? ?uh huh ?sure. Sugar cuts itself with Ex-Lax does it?
5. Loopholes ? When the urge is upon them they will try and find loopholes to wriggle through. This is a talent I have found most brats to be highly accomplished at.
?Make me a coffee? might result in the coffee being made but not delivered.
Literal loopholes are commonly exploited:
?Behave? ? ?I am? I am behaving badly.?
?Be good? ? ?I am being good at being bad.?
Any time your brat starts a sentence ?You said?.? You can be pretty sure a loophole has been found. Their excuse is that they are promoting clearer communication of your wishes. Sometimes owning a brat can feel like you are a high court judge taking extreme care over your use of language.
Your Response
1. Nuclear ? Sometimes you are so furious you want to beat the crap out of them. Stop. Think. Are you furious with them or at yourself for falling for it? Was there any real harm done?
2. Funishment ? Mostly what they want is a good spanking. If you see the humour in their antics then a funishment is recommended. Some may say you are rewarding their bad behaviour. I say you are rewarding them for expressing themselves and being true to their nature.
Spanking: Never met a brat that didn?t like it.
Orgasm counting: Force them and have them count each one. Failure to count or miss counting, start at 1.
Favourite play: That might be a rope session or flogging or something else that you both really enjoy together.
3. Punishment ? Sometimes they go too far. Sometimes they really do need a punishment. Make sure your brat understands why they are being punished and set the parameters. The parameters may be a time limit or a count. My most effective are:
?You have disappointed me.? - Delivered dead pan. Your brat will cut themselves up for days over that one while trying to be as pleasing as possible. Only to be used when they truly have been a disappointment. Over use will render it ineffective.
Timeout - Kneel them in a corner facing the wall and have them be silent for a period of time. If the move put them back in place without a word and reset the clock. This is about denial of time with you.
Orgasm denial ? Keep bringing them to the edge and stopping. The frustration in your brat should match the level of frustration they caused by their action. This is a tricky one to judge and you will need to know your brat well.
Reason - Give your brat a really good reason why they should cease and desist from a particular activity. Dominants have history as well and some behaviour steps on triggers that are not good places for you to be. As you respect the limits of your brat I would hope they would respect yours. Sharing history can be hard and painful but the alternative of allowing your brat to continue is worse. Trust me on that one.
4. ?The look? ? Practice in a mirror that look that says ?Steady girl.? It might be a raised eyebrow with a slight tilt of the head. You?ll now it when you get it right. Your brat will respond appropriately and be back under control again. This is generally my first line of defence.
5. Stop ? Simply that. Stop. Nothing will focus their minds more than when you stop whatever activity you are doing or go quiet and sit back arms folded. When combined with ?the look? you have an effective limiter on your brats behaviour.
6. Finger Snap ? I like my girls trained to the click of my fingers. When I snap my fingers it is because I need something so their attention is mine. They cease whatever they are doing and focus. It may take some time before this is an automatic reaction. Use it initially when you do want something and the brat can prove they are useful. Nothing makes a brat happier than making you happy by doing something for you. Soon the snap of your fingers will be very effective for attention grabbing.
7. Personal - There will be something that your brat really does not like. Something that can be done quickly and effectively. Tickling is a good one if your brat pleads for you to stop. Do not. I repeat, do not allow your brat to then claim that the activity is now a "hard limit". The precedent will be set for all punishments hitting the "hard limit" list. |
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It's official... Im a freaking brat:
writing:
"There are several guides out there relating to the ownership of brats written by brats for brats. It?s time to redress the balance a bit. To this end I have put together this guide to help those who are considering taking on the challenge of brat ownership.
Pre-requisites
1. Patience ? Saintly levels of patience are an absolute must. Your brat will exasperate you beyond belief to the point where outsiders may wonder if there is any control at all. This is especially true in the early stages of ownership.
2. Drugs ? The legal headache soothing variety. Blood pressure pills. The urge to bang your head against the wall at regular intervals will happen. Ketamine and other tranquilisers, while tempting to calm your brat down, are not recommended and will lead to complications.
3. Sense of Humour ? Realise that everything your brat will try is not meat to hurt you or disrespect you but to be fun and make you smile. Assuredly at the precise moment it may not make you smile and hence the requirement of 1 and 2 above but looking back the humour should be apparent. Mismatch in sense of humour is the cause of most brat owner breakups.
4. Imagination ? Without it you are going to struggle to find ways of getting your own back. Brats are generally ultra bright and devious creatures and you?ll have to at least match them in ingenuity for pun/funishments. You will also need your imagination to pre-empt their antics. Paranoia is a definite hazard of ownership.
5. Thick skin ? It is going to hurt. Brats cannot help themselves. If they find a crop/flogger/paddle or any other toy in their hands they are going to have a practice swot under the heading ?..but Master/Sir has to try all his toys on himself first. It?s in the Brat Constitution.? Let them get away with it at your own peril or devise ways that such things never arrive in their hands. For example: ?Fetch my crop while on your hands and knees carrying the crop in your mouth.? Specific language is important. More on that later." |
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"Submission... Giving Him the power to destroy... And trusting Him not too..." |
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"Well hello there.... You look like a bad decision... come over here!" ;) |
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"A true relationship is where you can tell each other anything and everything freely... no lies, no secrets." |
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SO simple!!! Incase you're wondering... my journal is used for things I find amusing or interesting... not so much a... venting space...or is it? Maybe just in a round a bout kind of way!....
"Sitting across from a romantic partner kills sexual energy.
First off, it has an interview configuration in which you are physically confronting one another. This format is good for asking challenging questions or scrutinizing a job applicant, not for sharing tender caresses or whispering provocative words.
Also, your voice has to project across a table top, so it doesn't have the intimacy of the close-spoken word. In addition, you don't have a shared point-of-view (POV). The value of a shared POV is that you can identify things, comment on people, laugh at something you both see, etc. The opposing POVs which two parties have across a table is more suitable for adversaries than intimates.
Side-by-side seating begins the physical process. With the woman by your side, you can put your hand on her thigh, lean into her shoulder, kiss her neck, hold her hand under the table, etc.
With something as simple as the proper use of seating, you've created a sense of intimacy and unity that could soon lead to something physical. Choose to sit across, however, and more than likely you've increased her sense of alienation." |
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"If you have slept with more than 10 people this year... you have no right to call your reproductive organ a "private" part.... It is now... A Universal Charger!" :P
Bahahaha.... *adjusts halo* |
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"YOU'RE somebodies reason to masturbate!" .... lol Merriest of Christmases and may you rest well knowing that ;) |
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I use sarcasm at work... because slapping the sh*t out of someone is "frowned upon" by management.... *sighs* :P |
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(borrowed lol just enjoyed it, thought I'd share!)
"A strong woman is one who feels deeply.
Loves fiercely.
Her tears flow in abundance, just as her laughter.
She is both soft and powerful.
Practical and spiritual.
A strong woman, in her essence, is a gift to the world."
To all the wonderfully strong ladies out there and the men that appreciate them. x |
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"Someone that really cares for you..
Sees what a mess you can be..
How moody you can get..
How hard you are to handle..
Yet..
Still wants you in their life." |
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"A womans beautiful face attracts a flirter...
A womans beautiful heart attracts a lover...
A womans beautiful character attracts a man." |
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