To all the subs I've been speaking to that have issues with "doms" harassing them and acting like children I just want you to know it, it's not just on that end:

A few things I've noticed on collarme:

1. Why do they have walking as an interest? And since they do, why do they have any option other than expert for it?

2. Anyone that messages me with just "hi" or something extremely long which reiterates what's already in their profile is inevitably just going to bore me. Me ignoring you is just saving us both some trouble.

3. No one fat can be a real dominant. If you can't have some self control you shouldn't pretend you can control another human being. Start off easy, get a goldfish and hit the gym a bit.

4. Finally, even though 19/20 messages I get are from people not worth a moment of my attention, that 1/20 more than makes up for the others.

Just going to clarify a few things...

1. Just because I have manners doesn't mean I'm not sadistic.

2. Just because I'm sadistic doesn't mean I'm a serial killer.

3. When I said if you message me be interesting I meant it. Let me explain what's interesting and what isn't. "Hi I love your profile" this is boring and typical. Tell me what you liked about it and why you think I would like talking to you.

4. Seriously, I'm not interested in sub men at all.

5. I'm open to lots of things and people. I'm not shy. If you really have a question, just ask but when you do try and show a bit of grammar, spelling and thought about what you're saying. I always do.

Since this has been a frequent question I'll just answer it here.... my thoughts on conditioning and training:

First off you must get to know the subject you intend to mold. One girl's punishment is another girl's reward. Also by doing this you can understand things like personal phobias and fears which are strong motivators as well as intensely good imagery to them which can likewise be used to shape and break down the subject.

Secondly you must be objective. You should not attempt to be friends with the subject, but you should have some balance between negatives and positives. Without some positives then the negatives lose meaning and strength. You should be feared but also your subject should strive to gain some level of approval. The end result here should be that no punishment you could give will be as painful to her as your disappointment.

Thirdly sex and feelings are a powerful tool but only if kept in control. Never allow the subject to cum without your permission. She must understand her body is owned and any pleasure she receives should only come for your amusement. She must thoroughly understand her purpose is to serve and please you, and doing this is her only real purpose and use.

Finally the subject must be kept in constant control. Never let her mind wander, never leave her without something she should be doing. All actions should ultimately lead to her fully and happily worshiping you. Humiliation should be a constant. She must understand her place as beneath you and just property. All chores and service should be done in a way that helps remind her of this function.

Once properly broken you can feel free to use the object in any way you desire, fulfill any urge and never think of her as anything but a device to please and entertain. In return she will love, worship and adore you for letting her have this function.

So yeah, my thoughts on conditioning and training.