LaEsclavaBlanca

The profile i have here on CM is pretty concise and i am very open about what i search for. i am not new or naive and i do know what i need and want and even more importantly, i know who i am. So while i am always happy to make new friends, please read my profile and i respectfully ask that You understand i seek an unattached Black Master who is not wishing to be poly...i do not search for a Mistress, a couple, a poly family or a white Master. Everyone has their own preferences whether they be Dom, Master, Mistress, sub, slave, switch..i wish everyone much success in their individual searches.

That being said, if anyone wishes to be friends  only i am always happy to make new friends in this life so please feel free to write in friendship. Have a wonderful Super Bowl Sunday!

Friendship and Love....Cornerstone of a long lasting relationship

Friendship and love are two key elements in each of our lives. There are many kinds of love...each one special in it?s own way. As a child we come into the world with the pure love of the innocent. We love our parents and those around us. As we grow to adults it all becomes more complex and difficult to define.

For me, friendship has a very special meaning. I do not give the title friend to just anyone. While I may have many acquaintances or associates, the word friend is reserved for those special few. True friends are hard to find in this world today. The key components that make up a true friend are simple and yet so complex.

A true friend:

stands by you through the good times and the bad

will laugh with you never at you

will listen when you just need to vent

will never judge you but instead guide you gently towards what is right for you

will, at times, Let you make your mistakes so you can learn and grow in your own way

will be there when you fall to help you up

is patient, loving, steadfast and honest always

places no conditions on the love given..they just give it.

Over the years I have been blessed with some good and true friends. Recently I have had some very trying and emotional times which have led me to really contemplate about friendship and love. Since coming into this lifestyle, I have come to know the meaning of friends and what makes a good foundation for a solid, long lasting relationship. While some may view sex, sm or control to be the fundamentals, the true foundation a long lasting M/s relationship or any relationship must be built on is friendship. Friendship is based on the key elements of trust, honor, patience and unconditional love. When all is said and done...when the sex is over...the sm played and the control given...the two people involved must be able to relate on a more simple level...to be able to talk about all he things that make up life. They must have a solid base to build on.

I know that many people will disagree and say a Master and slave need not be friends nor that love even play a part but remember I am speaking of a long lasting relationship not just some scene or internet play. For the relationship to last and grow the foundation of friendship must be there. Now this takes time to build and both people must have patience and allow it to do so. As we grow up through childhood, we make ?friends? but if we look back as adults those friends that remain are the ones whose friendship grew with time. So it must be now as adults. Friendship is the flower that grows best when watered with time, patience and love. My true friends in this lifestyle are beautiful flowers in the garden of my life. Over time, I have come to know them...love them..treasure them...and our friendships/relationships continue to grow and blossom.

I believe a Dominant who is worthy of respect and submission keeps his word.

I believe a Dominant who is worthy of respect and submission is capable of being honest with others and with themselves.

I believe a Dominant who is worthy of respect and submission is capable of taking responsibility for his actions.

I believe a Dominant who is worthy of respect and submission will take my opinion, feelings, and mental well being into consideration when making decisions that affect my life.

I believe a Dominant who is worthy of respect and submission will value my service, devotion, and surrender enough to respect my limits and my physical and circumstantial limitations.

I believe a Dominant who is worthy of respect and submission will value my service, devotion, and surrender enough to have reasonable and realistic expectations of me.

I believe a Dominant who is worthy of respect and submission will care enough about my feelings and my mental well being to allow me to express those feelings honestly, even when they are not always what He wants them to be.

The Road goes ever on and on
Down from the door where it began.
Now far ahead the Road has gone,
And I must follow, if I can,
Pursuing it with eager feet,
Until it joins some larger way
Where many paths and errands meet.
And whither then? I cannot say.

-J. R. R. Tolkien

?Commitment is what transforms a promise into reality. It is the words that speak boldly of your intentions. And the actions which speak louder than the words. It is making the time when there is none. Coming through time after time after time, year after year after year. Commitment is the stuff character is made of; the power to change the face of things. It is the daily triumph of integrity over skepticism." anon.

"You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it. "

Reality Check
 ?Slavery? means being owned, but voluntary human property is not like a loaf of bread that gets consumed or a piece of equipment that?s used until it?s worn out and then discarded. A consensual slave is more like leased property, which must be used within agreed limits and relinquished in good condition at the end of the agreed term (including options for renewal!). Even if the agreed term is ?for life? ? a term that is hardly ever actually achieved, except when one partner dies prematurely from HIV or another disease ? any sane Master must remain aware that his slave is a person and a citizen with certain inalienable rights and responsibilities. Such awareness may spoil the fantasy for some, but that?s better than a misguided attempt to recreate the kind of chattel slavery we once had in the U.S. and that still exists in parts of the world even today. Unlimited power over another person tends to corrupt the Master and to destroy the slave?s humanity. There is a middle ground, I think, even if it is hard to define, between such absolute slavery and erotic playacting ? purely sexual behavior that may have little or no connection with the rest of the participants? lives. Committed, consensual slavery has so much potential for satisfaction of both Master and slave precisely because it is sustained neither by law, by custom, nor by force but by their own wills. Each knows that he is wanted by the other, in different yet complementary ways. And, as in any good marriage, the whole is more than the sum of the parts. On the other hand, the failure rate for full-time Master/slave relationships is even higher than for conventional (hetero) marriage these days. The level of commitment that such a relationship demands, from both parties, exceeds what most guys who try it are able to sustain past a year or two. Some will find satisfaction at a lower level of intensity, some will continue trying to live up to their fantasies, or ideals, with different partners, and others will say goodbye to all that, probably not without regret. 

Full article may be read at the following link:

http://mast.net/intl/mfmbrs/mfm009.htm

The natural slave heart of a slave...that most basic part of her that draws her to wish to serve...to need to surrender to the will of another stronger will then her's....is a gift she has naturally been blessed with....as some may become singers or teachers or artists...so she is drawn to become what is natural for her.....a slave.

The gift a slave brings to a Master/Dom is one that should be treasured and cherished. A slave surrenders all that she is, all that she will be and all that she is inside of her to the will of the One she serves. Once surrendered, it is very hard for her to be free...to regain the power she lovingly and passionately surrendered from her slave heart to her very soul. The spirit of a slave is at once fragile and yet, strong for nothing sways her from who she is inside...slave.