LadyTee

I would like to meet and develop friendships with women that would extend beyond this lifestyle into everyday life. This seems to be a more natural progression for me, and I would be much more comfortable with that type of relationship. Not every friendship leads to a D/s experience, but it doesn't diminish the quality of that relationship, as it can exsist on many other levels. It's unfortunate that people miss the opportunity to have a rewarding friendship with someone, because they don't meet certain criteria. yet, they consider themselve's to be "open minded"

I'm primarily dominant, but I also understand the the wonderful feeling of submitting one's self to another who is worthy. I would expect to earn that trust, and respect of someone, who would submit their self to me. I believe that the point of the Domme/sub experience, is to achieve that feeling. My role in that relationship is to orchestrate the fantasy that the sub wishes to experience.

Too many people allow themselves to be used by another, both in and outside of this lifestyle, without developing a relationship first. then they cannot understand why they arrive at the same negative outcome, time and time again.

I believe it is that bond of love, trust, and understanding, that makes any relationship fulfilling. Because of the extremely personal nature of sharing one's fetishes with another, I can't see how, or why one would allow themself to be put in that position, without first establishing that bond. It's just too risky.

This lifestyle allows one to experience their innermost desires and fantasies. Something that "normal" people will never get the opportunity to experience in real life. All it requires, is that one can be honest enough with themself, to admit that they have these feelings. One should keep in mind that they need to be quite selective about who they would expose themself to in such a manner. This information can also be used to inflict unbearable emotional pain and suffering.

Why anyone would choose to do so, is beyond me.