LadyPain32

About LadyPain32

....One who finds intelligence the most sexually attractive feature."I want an incisive, inquisitive, insightful, irreverent mind. I want someone for whom philosophical discussion is foreplay. I want someone who sometimes makes me go ouch due to their wit and evil sense of humor. I want someone that I can reach out and touch randomly. I want someone I can cuddle with.

Above all else, a Dominant cherishes their submissive in the knowledge that the gift the submissive gives is the greatest gift of all.

A Dominant is demanding and takes full advantage of the power they hold, but knows how to share the pleasure that comes from such power over another.

A Dominant is in control of themselves first and foremost, so that they may control others.

As a stern and demanding Dominant, they can cause their submissive to cry real tears; As a consummate lover, they will kiss such tears away without stepping out of character.

In times of trouble, a Dominant will leave the roles behind and be a supportive friend and partner, never forgetting that this is still a loving relationship between two individuals.

A Dominant is quick to understand the differences between fantasy and reality.

A Dominant will never ask a submissive to put them before the submissive’s career or family just to satisfy their own pleasure.

To win a submissive’s mind, body, spirit, soul and love, a Dominant knows they must first win the submissive’s trust.

A Dominant will show their submissive humour, kindness and warmth.

A Dominant must always show their submissive that their guidance and tutoring in knowledgeable and deserving of the submissive’s attention, that the Dominant is a person they can learn from in in whom they can trust their direction.

A Dominant is romantic enough to be protective and chivalrous. When called upon, they will fight for their submissive’s honour.

A Dominant proves to their submissive that they are someone who can be leaned upon and depended upon.

When it comes time to teach their submissive a lesson is obedience, a Dominant is a strong and unyielding teacher.

A Dominant will accept no flaw; nothing less than perfection from their student.

Never does a Dominant use discipline without good reason. When they punish their submissive it is always with a knowledgeable and careful hand.

A Dominant is always open to communication and discussion; always ready to hear their submissive’s wants and needs.

A Dominant is patient, taking time to learn their submissive’s limits and knowing that as the submissive’s trust in them grows, so to will they grow.

A Dominant never has to demand ritual behaviour from their submissive. Their submissive responds to them out of the want of pleasing them. Compliance comes from the desire to please, not the fear of punishment.

A Dominant understand the fragile nature of mind and body and never violates the trust given to them.

A Dominant is secure enough to laugh at themselves and the absurdities of life; open-minded enough to learn new things. Strong enough to grow.

A Dominant’s tools are mind, body, spirit, soul and love.

A Dominant understands that E/each partner gains most from pleasuring the O/ther. And B/both of T/them know that love and trust are the only bonds that truly hold.




A submissive is a person who gives up control and gets emotional or sexual satisfaction from aspects of submission which may include serving or being used by the Dominant. A submissive usually only submits during a scene, during sex, or during certain well defined and set parameters. They may or may not follow rules or protocols outside of the above situations. At all other times, they are on equal footing with their Dominant. These people also normally don't give their Dominant the title of Master.

A slave is an individual who is wholly under the control and power of a Master. A slave is the property of their Master. They freely surrendered their rights and privileges as an individual. They thrive on the opportunity to provide unconditional service and to exceed their Owner's expectations. A person that identifies themselves as a slave usually feels happy by making their Owner happy. They feel down and depressed if they perform a task incorrectly or make their Owner angry. Slaves normally live in a 24/7 TPE (total power exchange) relationship with their Masters.

Now, having defined the differences between the two, are there exceptions? Well of course there are. The above definitions are what is generally accepted by the BDSM community at large. With the explosion of BDSM on the internet, there are many variations to both defined roles. There are now cyber slaves, cyber submissives, and many roles in between that has not yet been defined.

There are those that think defining themselves as a slave, means they are more devoted or more submissive. I don't agree. You can call yourself whatever you want, but your actions and words more clearly define the type of submissive you are.

Is there a difference between a slave and a doormat submissive? Oh yes. A 'doormat' type submissive is a person that does not have any self esteem at all and feels like they are not worth the slime on the bottom of a dumpster. Their self image is so low, they usually do anything and everything their Dominant tells them and never complain, no matter how bad the Dominant might be to them. They feel they deserve the roughest and most abusive treatment their Dominant can give, even if such treatment is not warranted. They never ask why because they do not feel they deserve an answer.

A slave usually has very good self esteem. They know they are prized by their Masters because of the gift of their submission. They have their own convictions and can think for themselves. They do take abuse, but only when it is warranted, as in punishment for something not done correctly or misbehaving. They are strong and loyal, but feel happiest and complete when owned by their 'perfect' Master. They are completed when able to be in total submission 24/7. They love having strict rules and boundaries and always follow them religiously.

Submissives might have some rules but most of them are not that restricting. Cyber submissives and slaves usually have certain protocols they follow, such as emailing the dominant first thing in the morning about their schedules and last thing at night to tell them how their day went.

In closing, is one better than the other? Does the title of submissive mean you are a stronger person than one that considers themselves to be a slave? Or does a slave mean they are more submissive? They answer according to me is NO to all of the above.

I'm very down to earth, laid back, love to laugh and make new friends im a bbw not super size but i have some chunky goodies. . I'm still very vanilla but I know what I want. I want a longterm partner , my kinky counter part it keeps me up at nite i think about kinky shit 24hrs a day lol . I am a switch so I am looking for aDOM/DADDY/MASTER OR A SWITCH WHO IS VERY DOM BUT LIKES TO BE SUBMISSIVE AN SHARE THE POWER EXCHANGE WITH ME ......
I want to be spoiled , I want some one who will protect me from any one an every thing.I want to be cuddled, kissed , caressed, I love to be spanked an tied up. I am very much in to forced sex, forced orgasm, rape role play , daddy gurl role ay .I enjoy haveing my pussy ate mor than I do haven it penetrated athough if u have a big cock an its good width than that's gunna be a pluss for me.
I have kids so I don't like to play at my house I perfer some one who has a play nest of there own. I am diesese an drug free I have papers to prove so.. no mental issues an I expect the same . When ever I have a play date I have to know at least a day or two ahead of time to make plans acordingly.
I'm not in to humiliation or degredation by any means if u want me to humiliate u an degrade u that's fine but I DO NOT ENJOY IT BEING GIVIN TO ME.I enjoy giving CBT I ENJOY THE SADIST PART OF BEING DOM AN THE MASACISTIC PART OF BEING SUB.. I WANT A DOM WHO IS STRONG WILL AND AS EQUALY STRONG BODIED IM VERY STRONG FOR A WOMAN AN DESIRE A DOM WHO CAN TAKE THAT AWAY FROM ME AN MAKE ME HELPLESS AN LEVE ME OPEN FOR HIS PLEASURE ,TO PROTECT ME AND KEEP ME SAFE, I want to be his favorite an only play toy for him to play with as he wishes. My daddy/dom/master/sir will absolutly love the fact im chunky (do not confuse with obese) he will help motivate me an TAKE PRIDE IN HIS HANDY WORK WHEN HE SEED THE GOALS WE SET FOR ME. HE WILL HELP ME NOT BE EMBAREASED OF. MY SELF . I WILL BE HIS PRIZE ESPECIALY IN FRONT OF HIS FRIENDS. I WANT SOME ONE I CAM BE DOMINATED BY BUT AFTER PLAYIN CAN CURL UP ON HIS CHEST AND HAVE HIM STROKE ME AND CARESS ME AS IF I WAS HIS PRECIOUS LIL BABY GURL . I WANT A DOM WHO IS AVALIABLE TO ME ALL THE TIME EVEN IF ITS JUS TEXIN OR FONE CALLING I KNOW HE WILL HAVE TO WORK AN HAVE A JOB so it will be within his work scedual.
I perfer that my kinky counter part be well educated on ur kinks
Read some books or join some classes to better understand wut u an me ecpect of each other. If you don't have photos on here please either put up some if ubwant to talk to me or please dont message me. If you are married please do not contact me thinking u have found a easy lay because I'm a.switch an because imnon here u will be sadly mistaken. I DONOT AND I REPEAT DO NOT play sexualy when I first meet . If ur a sub an need a lil spanking or floggin I will be happy to ablige but as far as any thing sexual u will have to wait untill I feel secure with u and u will have to bulid up that trust with me. I have limits an they are as follows. NO SCAT, BLOOD, SPIT, (ANY FORM OF BODY FLUIDS), NO ANIMALS, MINORS, INANIMATE (EXECPTIONS ARE TOYS SPECIFICALY DESIGN D FOR SEX AN KINK PLAY.) NO CUTTING EVER NO, FIRE OR ELETRIC PLAY (UNLESS DISCUSSED OTHER WISE) NO SEX BARE BAK EVER, NO SHARPS, NO DRUGS, NO VIDEOS/PICS (UNLESS DISCUSSED PRIOR). Do not be a douche bag with me it is a super TURN OFFFFFFFF. INWILL BE ADDING MORE LATER...TO BE CONTINUED