lacyshadows

I know that this is a hard time for many of us who are single or alone. I just want to encourage you and say hang in there. People come into our lives when we least expect it.

It is better to be single than to wish you were.

Always remember NEVER, NEVER, NEVER, NEVER, NEVER GIVE UP!

I have had several people ask me what I think of this site. I will have to tell you. You will be suprised by my response. I have talked with a lot of very nice people on here. Let's face people there are fakes and phonies everywhere you go in life. Why would this sight be any different? Yes, I have talked with a few. They can not help it if they have good taste and want to be with me!

There is a much higher intelligence level on this sight that I have noticed and have greatly enjoyed. There is much to say about that.  Read through the profiles and you will pick up on that.

I want so much to learn about this lifestyle that has chosen me. This sight is a plethora of information, being it fact or opinion.. I have so enjoyed reading and learning about all types of Doms and Masters.

Thank you to all of those who have made this sight what it is in a positive way.

While having the time to contimplate my existance in this lifestyle and how it came about I have realized, that a long time ago, I was searching for a Dom. I always remember saying I want someone who can control me, to take charge of me and to put me in my place. In the vanilla world this is not always a good thing. You find abuse, controling, insecure men who think that they can use the negative to rule. This never worked for me and always led to a distructive end to a relationship. It made me want to rebel all the more. It caused me to fight  in a power struggle, that I did not really even want to be in, but had to to protect myself.

A Dom, a true one, is in complete charge. A sub, a slave hands over the power the control right away. Whatever he wants he gets. How does he do this? How does he take charge? It is not the whips, the chains or the harsh words even though that can be fun. It is the time a Dom takes, it's the way he listens, it's the way that he cares, how he focuses and how he plans out tasks that causes his sub to grow. She knows that he really cares. She can feel it by the way he takes his time to plan out a session or by the tasks that he sets out for the sub to do.

A vanilla person make think that he is too controlling by telling the sub or slave how to dress, what to eat or what to do. The sub knows that he is training her to be the best that he can be. Yes for him but in the process for her too.

Instead of two people engaging in a constant power struggle and waste so much energy on who is in charge the D/s, M/s can concentrate their relationship. A deeper, closer bond forms.  There is such a unity between the two that can not be explained in the vanilla world. No one can really understand except the D/s or M/s. It is one that can be amazing when each person does their part.

A slave is like an untamed stallion in the desert.She is free, has a mind of her own, and goes wherever she pleases. She has no direction, no purpose. 

The Master of the horse takes the stallion and puts him in a corral.  He harnesses him, works with him, and spends much time training him. He takes his time with him even whipping him if he has to, to break his spirit. In time the stallion becomes such as the Master wants him to be. Is he any less of a horse? No! Is he what the Master wants him to be and do? Yes!

The slave is put into a corral of her own. It is of the mind in most cases. She is harnessed, stripped down of her own thinking, and her spirit may even be broken if the Master so desires. He works with her and spends much time training her also. After she is trained, to the liking of the Master of what he wants her to be, is she less of a woman? No!  Is she what the Master want her to be and do? Yes! 

The slave still has her mind only now it is focused what the Master wants. She has direction. She has the direction of her Master's leading.

She has one sole purpose: to serve the Master and do what he tells her to.

Why would someone in this day and age want to be a slave? Why would she want to be owned, controlled, dominated?Is it becasue she has gone mad or lost her mind?

YES, yes she has.

She has in the vanilla world but this is no longer her life. The further she gets away from it, the further she gets into her slavery. The freer she will be. It does not make sense to those who only see with the eye. But to those who genuinely see with the heart it makes perfect sense.

Giving of yourself completely to someone does not tie you down, well maybe but with ropes but thats anther story. It frees you. How you may ask? It releases you of the chains that you have put around your heart to truly love another. Is that not what we all are here for in the first place? When you freely love someone and completely let someone own you, which means you totally give them your heart you are released. A weight is lifted.

 You know that you no longer have to hold on tight and protect your heart. You know that it is captured in love.

 You have surrendered it. It can be put in chains no longer for you to own. All the love that you have kept hidden in the secret places in your heart is released.  Are you empty? No! Is there nothing left? No!   It is a complete giving of oneself. As you give all that goes from you is returned. You are truly free from the thought of not loving.

All of the power that you have is released and now there is no limit to what you can acheive.

Master, what about him? Won't he hold you down, make demands on you, and hurt you. He will demand of you what is best if he is a true Master. He will not hurt you but help you up to where you belong, to a better place that you have never been.

You will finally feel, for once in your life, like you belong, in a safe place, in the arms of the Master. He will take care of you. He will decide and lead you to a place where you can grow and thrive, where no other place exists.

He will love you totally. Has someone ever loved you, truly? When they did did you not want to give everything that you have to that person? Did you not want to serve them, take care of them, make sure that they were completely happy?

 That is what you will do for the Master by giving yourself completely to him.

A slave is someone who sits quietly and contemplates what Master would have her do for him as she is kneeling quietly in the place that he has put her in. She does not mind where it is. She is happy to serve where ever he tells her to. She is appreciative that he has chosen her to serve him. She knows that she is priviledged to be chosen by him. She is the only one that knows what makes him happy. He completes her when he fills her. She is what he has beening looking for.

When a slave is dedicated to her Master she feels what he feels even if he is not with her. She senses his happiness, his pain and feels it in her soul. She longs to be with him and serve him, take care of him, and take his pain from him by receiving it.

If she is not with him physically, mentally and emotionally she waits for him on her knees longing to serve him.