I find erotic power and control exchange to be a big turn on for me. I wear dominance well. I find that the biggest turn on in this type of play is not just satisfying myself by having my sub do stuff that gets me off, but by getting the most out of my partner. I bring her to a state where she can lose herself completely, step outside of her usual limitations and actually be 100% in the moment. Sex becomes more like a journey than just an activity, but it requires a deep understanding of what's going on inside my sub's mind. The more intense an experience it is for my sub, the more I can get into it myself. Just because I am a Dom does not mean I have to be a selfish lover. I understand the dynamic of this type of relationship and use it to devour every second, like we are milking the very essence of life from the tit of time itself. At that moment, you truly and completely know your alive.

Anything worth doing is worth doing well. I think it must be written on my very DNA that I must Master any endeavor I think worth doing. At work, at sport, artistic expression, and of course BDSM. No matter what it is there is always room to learn and improve provided a person is inclined to take the time to develop their skills.

An example of this is spanking:

Anyone can slap an ass with their hand so at face value it seems pretty cut and dry, so most people stop there and think that is all there is to it. Of course, they couldn't be more wrong. I have discovered that there is much, much more to this. Slap ass with hand may be a simple action in itself, however if it is done with technique the whole experience can be transformative. When nothing more is done than just a sudden hard slap the experience is a sharp split that only serves to separate from the moment. It has little more effect on your sub than an alarming shock to the system. Actions like that are novice and can turn someone off of spanking all together. Like anything, there is an art behind it. You have to understand blood flow, and how the skin reacts during various stages of readiness as it becomes engorged. You have to learn tempo and how to create a building sensation without going past the limitation of that moment. Also, that limitation is not static, it is always moving. You have to know it, push up to it, play with it, nudge it back and watch as it dissipates altogether. It requires an intimate knowledge of your sub and the ability to read exactly where they are at that particular moment.

Spanking, and really all of the many flavors of S&M play can be used as a tool to raise the intensity level in a sub and if done correctly it can cause a massive release of endorphines. These are the body's own natural opiates which are triggered usually as a fight or fight response to danger. They induce an intense natural high that when coupled with an orgasm it transforms into something truly mind-shattering.