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About judgetenderly
About me:
i am a graduate student at West Chester University studying higher education counseling and student affairs.
I think it’s funny when I read on other people’s profiles how it’s so hard for them to write about themselves because they don’t know what to write or where to start. I guess being an introvert and a writer has helped me in this aspect of my life. I always start in the middle. The other thing I often see is how people hate writing about themselves... Do you hate yourself? No? Then write silly! It’s not hard, it just takes time and most people just don’t want to take the time.
For a good amount of time I had an About Me section that consisted little about me and much of quotes and poems or song lyrics. For some reason I always think someone can say what I want to say or say how I’m feeling so much better than I can say it myself. Sometimes this is true. Most times, this is not. So sporadically throughout this About Me section you will still find those quotes and poems or song lyrics. I left them on here because, well, I can. But I tried to write some more things that may help you know more of who I am as person, not just a bunch of random stuff.
If you looked at me in the mirror you would think I am the same I always have been - but I am not the same. In November 2011, I "officially" discovered this part of myself at the center of my being that makes me feel real and alive and everyday as I experience new things I feel even more infinite."As coal pressured into pearls by our weighty existence. Beauty that arose out of pain.” That is what I see in the mirror today. “And I love it. Getting to be myself at last.” Finally feeling like I have some “Power. I have a kind of power I never knew I possessed.”
This is important:
For those who do not know, I am legally blind. My vision is 20/200 and not correctable. Because of this I cannot drive. If you see me in public you will need to actually approach me if you want me to see you. I am not being rude, I simply cannot see you. I try not to let this get in the way of having an active social life, but it can be difficult to get to and from events due to cost and time. If you have questions about my vision, please ask. I thank-you in advance for understanding about my disability.
Trust. That is what this is about for me. If I cannot trust the person I love then I do not have anything. I am learning to trust in new and different ways. But I cannot have any type of relationship with a person if there is no trust and no honesty. These two values are not negotiable in my life. #sorrynotsorry
Truth. I believe in honestly. Transparency. Authenticity. Do not lie to me. I will not lie to you. “And that’s the thing about people who mean everything they say. They think everyone else does too.” — Khaled Hosseini
I really hate how my options are so limited as far as how I can identify on here. I wish I could just fill in blanks for all the options. For my sexual orientation, you should just read slut. That’s all there is to it. I love sex; I always have, but be forewarned if you think you automatically get to sleep with me purely because you exist. Think again. I am a safe and picky slut. I chose homoflexible because it’s the best option for right now. And I think it’s a better option (for me) than fluctuating/evolving, because honestly, aren’t we all? My sexual preference is women, and yes I’m using preference here in the correct way. I prefer women more than men; just as I prefer vanilla cake as opposed to chocolate cake. Men are just more of a “in the mood for” kind of thing for me.
I am currently a submissive; but have a slave heart. I had the opportunity to be a slave for about a year and although things didn’t work out with her I think if I found the right person(s) to attempt that journey again at the right time in my life it might work, but for right now I’m happy with my place. I’m very service oriented when it comes to my slave heart; but I’ve found when that love of service is taken advantage of; it no longer exists.
Recently, I’ve found this new side of me that started to come out, but never was given a playground to explore. I was given a brief opportunity to co-top a woman while we were playing and the feelings were exhilarating. I wanted to see what kind of noises she made and how I could make her squirm if I did certain things to her. This toppy side of me is hungry to learn and explore. I’m still uncertain if this is the beginning of a switch side; previously I was describe as an Alpha slave, but I’m tired of letting other people tell me what I am; so I’ll take some more time to figure it out on my own.
I’m also a little. Not all the time, but sometimes; and sometimes I need to be little. I’d like to make some little friends; so if you live in my area and want to meet up for a playdate; please don’t hesitate to say hi. I don’t bite. (hard).
I won’t go on about my kinks because my fetish list is below. Things I like outside of the lifestyle include scrapbooking, reading, writing poetry, singing, dancing and hanging out with my friends. I have a large addiction to shopping, especially for shoes. I enjoy the nature; beaches, woods, mountains.
I love deeper. I speak sweeter. I give forgiveness I've been denied. And if I get the choice to sit it out or dance, I dance!
"This above all; To thine own self be true, and it must follow as the night the day. Thou canst not be false to any man."
There are some very special people in this community who have helped me in ways I never thought imaginable. They have helped me become a better submissive, friend, lover, but most importantly a better person. These friends of mine I cannot thank enough for all they have done for me and continue to do while I walk this journey called life. And we all need friends. Friendship is about “Mutually counting on each other, watching each others' backs, forcing each other to be brave.”
If my profile leaves you with questions, feel free to send me a message. You can also check out my writings on here |
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