Jey

Safe sex - always!

Safe sex is non-negotiable for me. This means if you're going to have sex with me, it's non-negotiable for you. Condoms, regular STI screenings (blood test and pee test), gloves when there are cuts on hands/long nails, and no kissing/oral if cuts in the mouth. This may also mean condoms or dams for oral stimulation.

Why? Queensland has increasing HIV/AIDS rates. There are many other infections to worry about. Chlamydia rates are also rising.

Chlamydia and some other STIs can be asymptomatic. This means you can have it, and pass it on, and not even know.

Sure, some of these things can be cleared up with a round of antibiotics. Maybe that doesn't bother you. But it bothers me. I'm an ill person already. I don't want to risk my body to infection or the side-effects of a course of antibiotics. And I don't want to risk my primary partner's body or the body of any other partner I may have.

There is additional information pertaining to toys. I may hash this out later.

Just because I like it rough and like being called names in some situations doesn't mean that you should contact me suggesting such things and calling me names.

That sort of play is reserved for people I'm close with. People I trust. People who have earned the right to call me names.

Please have some respect in your initial messages.

I haven't had rough sex for so long.

I crave it hard, from behind. A hand on the back of my neck, or choking me. My arse being spanked. My hips being held and each thrust deep. The top calling me names, asking me if I like being fucked like a dirty slut.

Mmmmm it's been so long.

My masochistic desires are always strong. It's been some time since I had them met. Indulging in masochism also helps my myalgia. My wonderful boy offered to help me meet those needs.

Recently we had a chance to indulge. He was essentially serving me by spanking me. I was on the bed on all fours. His breathy voice in my ear informing me that we would use the traffic-light safe word system, but he'd also listen to any guidance I provided, was incredibly hot.

He warmed me up and gently increased the pace. The situation, as well as the spanking, was incredibly arousing. He also used the paddle and the rug beater.

It was very enjoyable. Cuddling him while in subspace afterwards was lovely.

The next day I had a sore bottom and some nice bruises. I'm a very lucky Miss indeed.

Fibromyalgia and Masochism

I am often asked how my masochistic interests cohere with my fibromyalgia.

The short answer is endorphins. The right kind of pain applied encourages the release of endorphins, which kills other pain I might be experiencing and can keep pain away for a few days.

The challenge lies in finding the right kind of pain and not pushing my energy expenditure too much. Any pressure applied to joints or bones is not the right kind of pain. Activities  must entail a proper warm up, which they should anyway! I need to be in a comfortable and relaxing position that doesn't put strain on my body. I might need more rest before and after play than a healthier person.

Finding a time when I have enough energy for play is also a challenge. In these situations even something like wax play provides me with some relief.

This is very succinct and I will add more as I think of it. I will happily answer any questions.

I want a top.

I want a top who:

understands I am not a sub
can write properly
is emotionally and physically available
can flog and spank properly
has some other shared kinks
is patient and understanding about my chronic illness
practises safe sex and gets tested regularly
is single or in an open relationship
connects with me at the level of partner
will attend the occasional event
is taller than me
(The last two aren't crucial)
 
Is that too much to ask?

My age-play negotiation form (work in progress)

Age "play" identity:

What gender do you want to play?
• I'm a little boy.

What do you want to be called in role?
• Jesse. Other pet names may be suitable and can be discussed.

Personality:
• I’m well behaved, quiet, affectionate. This list will grow as I learn more about my little.

Sexuality:
Do you want sexual contact to be a part of your play?
• No. Hugging, cuddling, holding hands is ok.

Language:

When you are nonverbal, how will you communicate?
• sounds (giggles, crying, screaming, squealing, grunting)
• gestures (pointing, clapping, nodding )

When you are verbal, how will you communicate?
• Baby language/improper pronunciation (pweeease, no dat mine, want da fing)
• Improper grammar (Me goes to the kitchen.)

Will you use a different voice? If so, how will it be different?
• Quieter, softer.

Can YOU use swear words?
• No

What sort of language do you want your DADDY/MUMMY to use?
• Simple language, like addressing a child.
• No swearing

Can you raise YOUR voice?
• No. Punishment may be appropriate in instances of yelling and screaming.

Can your DADDY/MUMMY raise their voice?
• Only if I'm very naughty.

Discipline and/or humiliation:

Do you want to be disciplined or humiliated in role?
• No humiliation.
• Discipline can be time out, treats or toys taken away.
• NO abandonment ever.
• Firm but affectionate verbal correction (Don’t do that sweetie)

What sort of situations will call for discipline?
• Not listening or following instructions
• Not finishing chores
• Being demanding or extra bratty.

Do you want the discipline to have an erotic element?
• No.

Roles:

Age?
4

Situations:

What situations would you like to be involved in as a "little"?
• Nursery/bedroom
• story time
• outings
• quality time
• napping
• children’s movie/cartons on TV

Props: What sort of props will help you into role?
• Teddy, toys, calling me by one of my “little” names, watching cartoons etc

Clothing:

Outer clothing:
• bright colours with cartoons or pictures

Safe words:
• “Getting close to the limit, be careful” - “Daddy I feel yucky”
• “Stop immediately!” - Ill use your real first name. e.g. “David stop”

Nature of relationship:

What does this role mean to you?
I want a Daddy who will comfort me, support my little side, make me feel secure and special and do fun things with me.

What sort of commitment is desired?
• I'm looking for a long term arrangement. This person will also be my friend. They may become a lover and I may come to desire them in other D/s and kink situations outside of age play.

I hope I can find someone to meet these needs and who would like a well behaved little for fun and company.