JenRuby

Potential dom/mes of the world, listen up: if you want to top me, you have to know how to discipline me. It's great that some of you have figured out I enjoy diaper play, the humiliation of wetting myself, etc, but I keep running into folks who are completely baffled when I offer the slightest resistance.

Being a switch, I have plenty of ideas on how to handle a little brat, even one like myself.  Fortunately for you I have some suggestions and guidance!

Let's take a pretty typical situation.  You think I should be in diapers. Maybe I wet myself, maybe I'm being a little brat. First, let's go over how not to do it.

You: "I think it's time for you to be in diapers, princess!"
Me: "Hmmph, and what if I refuse? I'm too old for diapers!"
You: "I'll make you"
Me: "How will you do that?"
You: "You have to do what I say."
Me: "But what if I refuse?"
You: "I might spank you"
Me: "And then what?"
You: "Make you wear diapers"

See, the problem here is that you just keep saying you'll do it. I'm not intimidated. I'm not fearful of greater punishment or embarrassment.   You mentioned a spanking, but went into no detail.  You gave no reasons for me to be in diapers other than that you say so, so I'm not humiliated.

Even worse is when you just offer random unrelated "punishments", like "I'll make you suck my dick".

Here's the better way. Note that I use the term "Daddy" but in reality, you could be a mommy... it's just mostly guys that message me:

Me: "Hmmph, and what if I refuse? I'm too old for diapers!"
You: "You aren't too old to wet yourself. You aren't too old to act like a brat. So you're not too old to wear diapers. You can either wear your diapers willingly or wear them with a sore bottom, but you are going to wear them either way."
Me: "No, I don't want to!"
You: "Just for that back talk, you earned yourself 10 spanks, over my knee. And a week before we even think about potty training you."
Me: "That's not fair! A whole week? IT was only one accident!"
You: "You and I both know it's not the only 'accident' you've had recently, you little pee pants. I don't even think they're accidents, myself! And you should also know that the 10 spanks are now 20, and the week is now two. Now, princess, do you want to come over my knee before I put those diapers on? Or do I have to tie you down and stick a plug in you while I do it?"
Me: "... I guess..."
You: "That's a good girl. Now daddy still has to spank you since you misbehaved. But if you don't try to fight me I'll put some nice lotion on your bum when I'm done. You just remember how naughty you've been while I'm spanking you. You don't want to be a naughty girl, do you?"
Me: "No, daddy..."
You: "So when daddy tells you to wear your diapers, what do you do."
Me: "I wear them daddy."
You: "Good girl. 

See what changed here? There are concrete, escalating punishments; there are reminders of my position, and of course a strong sense that I'm not getting out of it, no matter what I say.

Of course these punishments can vary as per your taste. Maybe you threaten to make me wet myself in pubilc. Or maybe wear thicker diapers or plastic pants. Maybe you take away other adult privileges - make me suck on a pacifier that says "Ilocking plastic pants that will force me to ask for a change, even in public!

This is, of course, all in the context of diaper play. But there's all sorts of other angles and ways you could take it.  Just remember these guidelines:

1) Be explicit.  Don't say "I'll punish you". Say "you'll be over my knee until your ass is red"

2) Emphasize my position. Don't say "You do what I say", say "You're just a naughty little panty wetter who needs a firm daddy". Remind me frequently of humiliating or naughty things I've done
3) Don't let me get away with things. If you do think that I don't need to be punished this  time, then you make it very clear what the punishment will be if I do it again. If I can talk my way out of it by being cute, I won't be impressed!

Feeling Dom

For one of the first times in my life I have a craving not to be a domme, but a dom. It's rare enough that I want to top, but I've been talking to a girl and the more I think about it, the more I want to do it.  

I really want to push someone and see how far they really will go.  I want to see humiliated and used and really, really craving more. I want to take the dozens of fetishes I've been curious about and try them on the same person.  I want her to be plugged, collared, soaked in piss and cum.  I want to use all of her holes.  I want to blindfold her and watch the goosebumps rise as I take out a new toy she can only hear, but not see.  I want to watch her perform for my pleasure. I want her to do depraved things without even thinking about it.

Now of course there's one little problem... in the kink scene, I'm pretty much a woman.  Domme sometimes, but as my name and pictures attest... I rely on my sexy female form quite a lot.

It's not that I mind being a woman - and it's the same cock either way.  But I feel like it's a turn off for a large enough segment of kinky people that I wish I could show my other side.

Have a craving to be a little again.  Looking for a daddy or mommy firm enough to know I need diapers and to put me back in them even when I don't want.  But loving enough to want to see me grow as a person.

Eager to try spanking... both giving and receiving.  Who wants some? ;)

Why is it so hard to find a good dom?  Subs are everywhere.  But dom/dommes?  Jeez.  

What's a girl gotta do to get a dildo shoved up her ass? :P

Looking For Sissy Maids

I have been feeling more and more domme as the week has gone by.  I am also getting a new apartment, and that means it will need cleaning, and this site seems full of sissies eager to do it. Note that while this is targeted at sissies, genetic females are welcome to apply.

Requirements

1. You must be under 40 (under 30 is better)
2. You must be able to dress yourself as a proper sissy, including makeup.  You must be able to do this yourself. Pictures showing your face will be required if not part of your profile.  I will judge if you are cute enough.  Of course I may require you to wear many things, but you must show me you know the basics, and look good doing it.  If I have messaged you, I find your pictures to pass the test.
3. You must have your own shoes to serve in.  A 3" heel is required.  An outfit is appreciated, but not required.  Find some comfortable shoes to wear, because you will be standing up a lot.
4. You must be able to get to Downtown San Francisco.  An online sissy maid isn't much use cleaning my toilet, is she?
5. You will remove all of your body hair.  Any hair that is found is grounds for punishment.
6. You will NOT show me pictures of your penis. I do not care if it is huge or tiny.  It is irrelevant to me.
7. You will NOT be expected to buy things for me, sign up for sites, send me money, etc.  I am not a findom.
8. You must NOT have any STDs. 

Initial Responsibilities

Upon arrival, you will be expected to immediately dress in your service outfit, including makeup, if you have not arrived wearing it.  Those who arrive en femme will be looked upon favorably.  Those who do not will not be seen or heard from until they have changed.  You will be judged on how well executed your look is.

You will be diapered.  I do not trust you sissies to be properly potty trained.  I do not trust that you are properly potty trained, and using the toilet is a privilege that must be earned.  Therefore, diapers will be required.  Expect to use them.  If you do not have any of your own, you will be given one to wear.  Part of your initial A safeword will be provided)

Punishments

Any violation of the rules, or any inadequate efforts will be punished.  You may also be punished simply to establish my dominant position.  This list is only partial, and may vary depending on your limits and what I think will bother you just the right amount.  

1. Spanking - with a bare hand, a paddle, over panties or diapers or under, you will be spanked until your ass is as red as your lips should already be.  
2. Gags - Obviously this is an easy recourse for naughty maids who insist on talking back.
3. Bondage - If you never seem to be in the right place you might find yourself handcuffed, chained, roped, etc. there.  For instance, if you did a bad job cleaning the toilet you might be chained to it.
4. Golden Showers - You may be peed on by myself, my guests, or other maids.  I might have another sissy cum on you for my amusement.  You may be expected to pee your pants for the amusement of me and my guests.
5. Butt Plugs, Dildos, etc - If I feel your slutty holes are not adequately stretched, I will make sure they are.  Repeated infractions will result in larger and larger plugs.
6. Public Humiliation -  Sissies who forget needed items may find themselves plugged, diapered, and sent out to purchase it. Sissies that have truly disappointed me may be thrown out and forced to walk home in whatever they are wearing.  
7. Thicker diapers, few changes - If you prove unable to know when you need a diaper change, thicker diapers will be in order.  You may find yourself reduced to a waddle.  You might be left in your soaked diapers until diaper rash sets in as a corrective measure.
8. Many, many, more - I may shove ass cubes up your ass if you serve me a warm drink when not asked to.  I may make you BEG for a diaper if you claim to be potty trained when you are not.  I may have another sissy fuck you with a strap-on if you seem desperate to be fucked.  If you cook a tasteless meal your dinner might be cum you lick out of a bowl.  I think you get the idea.

If you are interested, apply by sending me a message.  There are multiple openings.  If there is not already a picture of you, showing your made up face, in your profile, please include one.