I’ve done public in private parties, and public clubs. I think I prefer the clubs- they seem more dedicated to the task at hand. I’ve done a lot a "pick up play" in my day- just having shallow fun with impact, humiliation, or whatever it is. For me now, it feels like aerobics with floggers. I’ve done a lot of play with the interests of the other person first in my mind, and not my desires. For me now, that seems shallow and empty.
I have crossed through the doorway into another dimension of Ds and I need the connection to someone to really enjoy the intensity. I need to know I can trust THEM as well as them trusting me. I need the connection to know it’s about ME playing and not some interchangeable windmill on the other end of a flogger.
So, approaching me with “you are my perfect¬¬ Goddess” is counterproductive, since you don’t know ME.
I also need to be attracted to my playmate. Somewhere in the last couple of years this has become much more sexual. If I am not aroused by you kneeling at my feet what is the point?
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