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If you are a Dom and wish to speak with me about BDSM related things, you must first contact MistressLysa.
I'm not here to play online or find a Dom/me to play with either full-time or part time.
I'm seeking friends with like minds to talk about anything, not just BDSM related stuff.
I don't like the BDSM scene. I feel like a piece of meat when I walk into one of those meetings or parties.
I'm intelligent, intellectual, and simply cannot submit to anyone that doesn't challenge me mentally.
If you are educated and aware of the world, possibly even involved in social or political activities, I'll be happy to talk to you.
I'm a single mother finishing a BA in Anthropology and Political Science and working on applying to graduate school starting Aug or Sept 2006. I'm into peacebuilding, refugee relief, archaeology, music (lots and lots of music), hiking, science fiction, politics (I'm a Progressive Dem), medieval recreation (the SCA), travel, exploration, etc.
I've lived all over the south pacific and recently got back from a 3 week trip to Bolivia.
Yes, I'm submissive.
I guess you'd say I'm one of those women who is in control all day and has to let loose in the after hours.
I'm not into pain, I'm into power play. I like to be challenged, pushed past my boundaries, even scared a little.
I don't need to be tamed.
Those who can't handle a strong personality in a submissive need not contact me.
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Sometimes I wish I could just have a blank in status and make people read my profile. The picture doesn't help either.
If you're reading this, you've gotten farther than many of the folks who message me.
So message me if you've read my profile and this journal. Say hi.
You're less likely to ask me stupid questions or try to Dom me immediately.
It'll be a refreshing change.
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People never cease to amaze me. I mean, I thought my profile was straight forward enough. A lot of the folks I talk to really understand and are supportive and such. I really enjoy talking to them.
Then there's the guys who simply can't understand that I have no interest in "play time" with just anyone and that inviting me to do so will get two friendly reminders and a third bitchy response.
I realize these guys think it's cute to continue to offer...
I see it as pushy and disrespectful.
Respect my boundaries. Be interested in me, not what I am in BDSM or what I can do for you, and you have the potential to go far in our friendship, possibly more. |
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I realize that most of my profile has been very strong and forward, I'd like to give you a little background on why I am this way.
In 1991 I met a guy I fell in love with. Quit college and went on the road with him. We started experimenting with D/s roles and I found I really enjoyed it... until about the time that I got pregnant and he began threatening and verbally abusing me.
I left him in January of 1993 (11 months after my daughter was born) and haven't looked back.
about three years later I got involved with a Gorean Master. At the time my self esteem was in the basement and I took all that he dished out... there were some bits I really enjoyed, others I didn't like at all, but I was convinced that I couldn't do any better and that in order for me to look into my darker side, I had to deal with the bad as well as the good. However, when he tried to sell me to a serious sadist, I walked away.
Even then I knew, I'm not a pain slut.
Then in 2000 I met a guy who was very sweet and treated me really well for the first couple of months. We had discussed hard and soft limits and were beginning to build a trust relationship when my job ended and I found a new one in the DC area. At the time he was working in Northern VA. To save on rent, I moved into the spare bedroom with my daughter. Within days he was randomly beating me with a belt. For six months I was tortured, beaten, raped, and threatened (and none of it in a fun way). If I didn't comply, he threatened to do these things to my daughter.
This was not safe, not sane, and in no way consentual play. This guy is/was a sociopath... and escalating.
So now... now I'm a hardass.
I'm not a Domme. I've tried it, didn't like it. Mostly because the subbie was too compliant. I like partners who can tell me "No". Note that I say partner. I firmly believe a D/s relationship is a partnership on many levels. Trust being the top of the list.
Still reading?
Okay, so what do I want?
Since I don't sub to just anyone... any D/s relationship I have will HAVE TO BE
long term. I don't play around. I absolutely HATE drama. I can be a little possessive and have not been able to share if I am the first subbie... however, if I am a second, I seem to be able to balance the emotional and trust issues better in a poly-situation, as long as the other sub isn't the jealous type.
While I can and have been polyamorous, IF/when I find the right Dom/me, they will want my full attention devoted to them and I would want the same in return.
At least for the first few years.. :) |
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I've seen a lot of profiles where people are asking for "only real people". It's as though the anonymity of the Internet allows some people the ability to let loose and role play as another person.
While I'm all for a little role play now and again, there is one thing I hold to with absolute certainty.
I don't lie.
In return, I expect those around me to reciprocate.
There are a lot of things I can forgive. I cannot forgive a lie.
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| Age: 25 |
| Tampa,
Florida |
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