Iwant2useUnow

Just wrote this, to (or at, if you please) someone who asked me what sort of slave/sub I'd want, ideally, if I had to choose. Do you see yourself in here, somewhere?:

"That's an odd turn of phrase. I do have to choose! All I want is the person who actually has the desire to serve. That's what is missing. They use service as a bargaining chip - I give you three dishes washed, you give me three hits with a paddle It's all about the fetish, or, the orgasm, or, things like that. But, a slave should be all about the need to serve. 

When I was a slave, I greatly enjoyed it, even the more traumatic bits, because, it was service. If I got to serve someone I respected, or to work on something I enjoyed in other ways too, that was great. But, even if it wasn't that sort of thing, it was good to be bound by duty, to achieve, to help the Master achieve his goal, to please him. And, that's all that mattered. The only times I ever went against him was when he was engaged in something where I could see absolute harm coming to him or his property, or, where it would have taken me away from God, who is a bit more of a Master than most could come close to living up to, you know? And, even then .. well, there were things I absolutely would not do, that he did like to tease me about, and, sometimes I'd be in a situation where the choice was do it or receive punishment for not doing it, and, I'd be punished, because, there was no such thing as safe words or limits except at the Master's whim. And, I took the punishment, and, I took it well, because, that was the price by which I would not have failed him, since that was the rule, that you either do it or be punished for not doing it. 

There was none of that sub-human, pretending to be something you are not, making up rules that are too hard to live with just for an excuse to beat the slave, though. If he wanted to whip someone, he would whip them. He didn't have to "catch them doing wrong" and then "punish" them. He just did it, because, it was what he wanted to do, and, he'd tell them, so they'd understand the difference, and, not be ashamed of having earned a punishment.

It was a beautiful way to live. And, it was still a beautiful way to live after he married and only had the one slave girl for his sexual purposes and the rest of the slaves were just there for work and amusement.

The slaves I owned were for work and amusement. Not sex - sex is easy to get, even kinky sex. Hard work and pleasant company are hard to get out of someone, even more so with any bills getting paid. That's what he had, though, and, that's what I had, and, that's what I want again."

It wasn't until just a few minutes ago, when I watched Season 8, Episode 12 of Frazier, that I realized the movie 'Strange Brew' is based on Shakespeare. lol  Wow! 

Just read an interesting profile, did I, wherein a man claimed to be submissive but wanting to be a slave. He, then, qualified this with not wishing to be a 24/7 slave, not wishing to eat shit, and, oh, a few other things. 

In other words, the man is a fetishist, who wishes to be a submissive. 

Slaves are 24/7, whether they serve the entire time or no. A submissive can serve part time, a fetishist serves their own kink/need. 

Slaves certainly may ask for contracts that give them certain privileges or guarantees, and, their owner is honor bound to follow that contract. However, if they do not find an owner with honor, their contract will do them no good. You see, the point of being a slave is that you live as your owner will have you live.

Contrary to popular belief, slaves have the right to say no. "No," he may say "I will not eat that shit." He is then bound to be beaten or whipped, as the rebellious baggage he is. However, no one can force him to do it. They can punish him for failure, they can throw him out for failure, but, he can say no, so long as he is willing to accept the punishment.

Submissives can say  their safeword, they can be all the way upset over their limits being disrespected, and, they can walk out. But, they are not slaves. Slaves are kept, punished, sold, traded, lent out, rented out, and, used as the property that they are. 

No one who is truly a Master (Mistresses of the type who own slaves included) will consider owning a slave who has decided to leave their Master or Mistress, because, they were unhappy, because, they didn't want to do something and they were forced to do it or punished for refusal; except if it is in the contract and it can be proven, beyond a shadow of a doubt that they were absolutely treated in a manner that was against the contract. But, outside of serious, permanent damage, most punishment, even if it is for refusal to do something that you were told you would not have to do, is not against the contract.

Which tells you what? Be careful of whom you choose to own you, pay attention to the contract, and, really consider what you want to be, because, no deearhearts, most of you do not really want to be slaves.

Of course, as we all know, that is also a matter of honor, with the slave, because, they are full citizens of their country, with full legal rights. So, it behooves us all to act honorably and to seek those who show honor in their dealings with others. 

Becoming:

A butterfly is not born, it is created. It starts out as the caterpillar, The caterpillar is born. Does it know what it will become? Who is to say? But, as it progresses through life, it finds this need inside itself, to transform and become something. As it is cocooned, by its own acts, hidden from the world, is it aware of all it will be? I cannot tell you. But, here is what I know. The butterfly is still the caterpillar it was. It had to be the one, to become the other.

You are not a slave. It doesn't matter what you have been, or, what you hope to be. You are not a slave, because, you are not owned, trained and accepted as a slave of that owner. 

I am not a master, an owner of slaves. It doesn't matter what I have been, or what I hope to be. I am not an owner of slaves, because, I do not currently own a slave, that has been trained and accepted by me.

Now, there you are, the caterpillar, and, here I am, the cocoon you must don.

There you are, the cocoon, and, here I am the caterpillar that will spin you into existence.

That is total power exchange.

Neither of us are, but, together, we can transform ourself, into owner and slave.

Take my hand, trust that transformation can and will occur, in our own minds and bodies, and, in our relationship, and we will become butterflies, together. 

Gee.. do you think when a person whose profile claims they are a man from Georgia, and, yet, their email claims they are a woman from England, it could possibly be spam? lol

To this person who claims to be deviantly whatever they are: 

... I say to the guy who started attacking my weight, AFTER I rejected him.

I'm off .. and, besides that, I'm going.

  I prefer slaves who are not pain sluts, as it makes punishment so much easier. It's, then, as simple as carrying a little notebook, marking out each week,  placing a mark for each infraction or failure, and, administering the strokes of the whip, paddle, or crop, at the end of each day. 

  Slaves who are into pain, you have to be more creative about their punishments, or you might accidentally reward them for bad behavior. I'm all for creativity, mind you; it's the HAVE to that I don't like about it.

Your (potential) Mistress has 10+ years of experience training slaves, but, they have since been released or giving over to others. The training included their being taught strict protocol, domestic skills, groveling, being used as a footstool for hours on end, isolation through the use of closets and cages, and, being used as a pain slut.

  I am willing to engage in a female-led slave relationship, of a long term variety, but, not romantic in nature; preferably live-in. My focus is not on pain or humiliation, though both may be employed to good effect; but, it is on protocol, hard work, and discipline, leading to strict control.