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Switch Couple, 24, Macon, Georgia

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Female Switch, 26, Alpharetta, Georgia

Woodshed tonight! See you there!

A convo I was having with someone in a chat room, and I agree with it to much, I wanted to stick it on here. Thanks DaddyProspero! ___ I tend to become rather contemptuous and protective when people begin to characterise attitudes and behaviour in D/s that more rightly belongs to B&D and S&M. A pure, genuine sadist cannot be a dominant. Dominants can tend toward being sadistic, but they cannot be purely sadistic. Neither can pure, genuine masochists be submissive. They too can be masochistic, but they cannot purely masochistic. Submission doesn't exist if you're serving yourself. Most people see D/s as a fantasy realm. So starting from the premise that people use BDSM as a fantasy realm, they impute onto BDSM whatever things they happen to need in the form of short term emotional fixes. It's important accept that other people come to this lifestyle seeking to satisfy themselves as they wish. The dominant's burden is one of leadership. It's his to carry. A slave can't relieve him of that burden if she wanted to. It's a mechanical impossibility. The moment the slave relieves the dominant of that burden, the dominant ceases to be. ? One way to look at this is to recognise that a submissive needs to see a dominant as more than a partner.? She needs to feel as though he is everything, that he is her lord and feel overwhelmingly that it is right, good, and true that he must be served. It's difficult to feel that way when you're in an environment that breeds disbelief, skepticism, and disappointment. This is the odd conflict that submissives have. On one hand, a submissive has the obligation to choose a dominant like I described, one that she feels is honourable, disciplined, and humble, yet one that is bigger than the world.? Yet, submissives tend to be seduced by their unconscious impulses in choosing someone that will fail her in that. This is because a submissive shares a similar psychological obstacle with every one else.? She's afraid not of failure, but of success.? So she chooses what is more comfortable rather than what is right.? It's a challenge to her own submissive nature, and every submissive is either consciously aware of it or intuits it on some level in her own terms.? Serving has an honour all its own, irrespective of the dominant. There is no submission without sacrifice. Just as there is no dominance without sacrifice. That is why dominants and submissives are bound together by humility. ?The duty of a submissive is make herself as self-disciplined and humble as possible for her future owner.? The issue isn't that the right dominant isn't there for you. It's that you need to make yourself ready for him.

Woodshed again tonight! Come say hi!!

Woodshed again tonight! See yall there!

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