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ironswing00

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I love the coupling of pain and pleasure because the pleasure is that much more intense. I love the passionate expression of trust since it can be a scarce commodity in everyday life.



I like dynamic, passionate women who tend to be on the intellectual side.

Im looking for a woman with a plethora of non-kinky interests who wants to experience the energy and power from a relationship that explores boundaries. Im not into full-time lifestyle, just for the fun and kink. My labels have varied - Ive bottomed, topped, and so therefore, Ive switched. I have the most experience as as a sensual dominant (as opposed to a sadist dominant) I dont care how much pain you can tolerate, just that youll appreciate me taking you to that level and be able to float past it just a little bit. I also am open to a woman who I connect with and would cherish me enough to encourage my submissive side to blossom.



I believe in several email exchanges to see if our interests match and then meet somewhere public. If were not compatible, no hard feelings, but if we are, a meaningful journey awaits.



What is your type of woman?

I am never uncomfortable around tall women or short women. Long hair or short hair, it doesnt matter to me - whatever youre comfortable in, do it, I honestly dont care. I think weight is a silly measurement - muscle weighs more than fat...I am gravitated towards those who share a healthy lifestyle and fitness, but weight is a silly measurement. Age - women generally dont become very interesting to me until thirty-something, there are exceptions...but overall its highly accurate.



What sex toypiece of BDSM equipment is your favorite and why?

The mind. As cliche as that is, I find it true. A girl who was newly exploring her submissive tendencies asked me if topping was boring (I am a switch, but looking to explore my sub side on this site). I had to stop and think about that question and understand her perspective - the bottom immediately feels physical sensation but the top does not. I replied that if I was flogging a punching bag, it would indeed be boring. However, the excitement of taking someone on a journey is amazing - I also get aroused from the interaction, including touch. My favorite tools are whatever jibe with a particular person on a particular moment...here are some Crop - it produces a great sound, impacts a precise location and generally doesnt leave marks even after a long time, so I can engage in a long session. Flogger - mine is awesome well made, soft but thuddy, and it feels medieval.



How long do you spend online before meeting or deciding not to meet?

Im mostly up for a quick coffee meet up or other public venue - theres no point in lots of messaging to discover no organic chemistry. History favors the bold.

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12/31/2014 9:07:03 AM
Seems more and more female profiles are requesting guys to have common civil courtesy in their initial messages.  I have mixed feelings about posting such guidance.  
Pros:
Maybe the female will get less douchey responses
Maybe a couple otherwise douchey guys will be retrained
Cons:
Extremely redundant to read for the douchey and non-douchey guys alike
Enables otherwise douchey guys to slip on a non-douchey mask temporarily and circumvent what could be a self-deselection criteria   

4/17/2011 9:36:19 PM

Got an hour long massage today; hamstring and calves tight from biking and shoulders from being a deskjockey.  The masseuse was about equal parts relaxing and discomfort as she flattened my muscles with her forearm or dug into muscle blockages with her thumb.   About 10 minutes into the massage; I wondered if I should have set up a safe word.  I felt it was best for me to just succumb to her hand-y work – I felt like I was bottoming to her.   Never had that thought before that I was bottoming to a masseuse.  I had to suppress my natural inclination to flee to get the most out of the massage.  I feel much better now.


10/16/2008 8:26:00 PM
I'm always interested why other people are drawn to BDSM.  It's a tough thing to describe; but, none-the-less I'll give it a whirl and lead in to why I'm interested.  I've enjoyed pushing limits and feeling a closeness to my sub that could not possibly be reached otherwise.  I don't get off on pain, but the discomfort and build-up that it facilitates to reach that mind-blowing orgasm (if I think she deserves it) keeps me coming back for more.  I crave her dedication to take my gentle, or not-so-gentle, spanks/pinches/slaps/flogs. I seek the beautiful moments created after I have worked to strip down her barriers and we cuddle in our raw, animalistic state.  What brings you back for more?

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Sweetgrrl
 
 Age: 28
 Sudbury, Canada