Please note your age if you choose to correspond (I’m 60). Thanks! Also, if you see that check mark indicating that I’ve read your email, don’t be offended if I don’t respond immediately – perhaps I want to ruminate on a response, perhaps my phone rang, perhaps something else required my attention.
I’m not seeking an online relationship, an LDR, ONS, hook ups, FWB, or play dates. I also am not a cougar, a mommy, or a baby girl looking for a daddy. I have experience as a slave to a Master.
I no longer seek a formal or rigid M/s or D/s relationship; I am very routine oriented, manage my time effectively, and do not need a list of tasks and assignments or training to prove my submissiveness.
I am seeking a meaningful, IRL LT relationship with a quality, single, age appropriate (50-60 y/o) man within the Evansville, IN area who has experience as a Dominant or is a naturally dominant man. Ideally, it’s a relationship that would be based on the tenets of a D/s relationship that spans activities that occur behind closed doors and publicly as a couple.
I have been on FetLife since February of 2014, and I was also on Collar Space / Collar Me for several years (~2013-2019 ish). I’ve dabbled with Fetster and Alt. Mainstream dating sites are not productive; finding someone that shares my sexual / fetish pursuits is important.
I’m searching for someone who understands my inherent need to submit. I am naturally sub/ slave and simply function better with a dominant man / HOH / leader.
I am a mature, submissive/slave seeking a quality, age appropriate, single man for a meaningful relationship. I am located in the Evansville area and with family and work obligations, I choose to stay in this area. I am loyal, gainfully employed, college educated, quiet until you get to know me, quick witted at times, a little sarcastic at times, have a dark sense of humor, am an avid reader, very poor at balancing work and life, introverted, and very routine oriented. Also, I’m perimenopausal, I have bad shoulders and knees, occasional tendonitis, a FUPA, and I need to exercise more. Some days I’m freezing cold and other days I’m burning up (hot flashes). I’m single / divorced, a non-smoker, a social drinker, and am reasonably attractive for my age. Family is important to me. I have children, grandchildren, and other family in the area; my grandchildren spend the night several times a month, and the entire family celebrates holidays and special occasions together. My “non vanilla” side is private and unknown to family and friends. I’m not seeking slave training or the rigor of a D/s or M/s relationship. I’m very routine oriented and quite capable of managing my time, etc. I also appreciate romance, flowers, PDA, “small things”, the traditional roles of men and women, and quiet moments.
I read profiles. I scrutinize photos. I appreciate complete sentences. I look at your fetishes and groups to see if we share common interests. Blank profiles are an immediate pass for me. Be prepared to have a conversation and to share about yourself. Introduce yourself and share what you are seeking, your experience, etc. Opening with “can you host?”, “are you prepared to be used?”, or "you'll be collared 24/7" and etc. is a huge negative. I’m looking for IRL in and out of the bedroom. Something substantive and long term. Let’s travel and make memories. Searching for someone who is engaging, mature, open to pursuing very non-vanilla activities, a non-smoker, well spoken, age appropriate, and responsible / stable.
As noted, I am inherently submissive, but I must be mindful of my nature; my need to submit leaves me vulnerable. My kinks have very few limits. All holes are for use. Throat fucking until puking. Cock sucking. Tit abuse (twisting, slapping, punching, binding, and nipple clamps), hucow/ breast pumping. Suction play (tits / pussy pumping). Anal (insertions, spreaders). ATM. Bondage. Spanking. Rimming. DP. Pussy insertions, stretching, and fisting. I have a large assortment of toys - suction cups, clamps, collars / leash, gags (o-ring, dog bone, dildo, ball), plugs (small, medium, large, foxtail), speculum, anal / vaginal spreader, pussy trap/ labia clamp, spiked bra inserts, and etc. I have had needles inserted in my tits, and I am open to saline infusion of my tits and pussy. I would not describe myself as a pain slut, but the satisfaction, pleasure, and the joy it brings the one I am with from using me is deeply satisfying for me. There is great contentment for me when he knows he can use me however he needs in that moment. I have also done MFM and enjoyed it very much.
