INFLUX

I believe one can begin to understand the interests and qualities of another person via the internet provided the person writing is being honest and articulate in what they write. So here it is:

I am moving to the Brick NJ area sometime in late October. Prior to that I would be interested in getting to know local ladies in the scene (subs, switches or slaves). My purpose is to get to know you. Not to hook up and have wild kinky sex (which I do enjoy). Just fucking was and is not satisfying to me in any real or meaningful way. So the key word here is relationship. To that end I am going to try to describe myself for those people who may be interested. Personally, I am not fond of this.

I am a separated white male interested in getting to know and meet local people in the local scene. Note, my wife and I have a signed property settlement agreement, generally care about each other but do not have much contact anymore. In otherwords, no baggage due to being separated. Additionally, I just ended a relationship because she left for vet school in Iowa for four years. While we care about each other, I am not willing to date her long distance. I did it once and swore not to do it again.

I am very intelligent, very well educated and definitely a risk taker. My job lets me work from home and allows me to work for several companies at any given time. Because of the kind of work I do, I sometimes gamble they will be successful and in return, I charge a higher fee. Recently a number of those risks have not worked out. This has made my financial condition rather tight. Fortunately, it looks like one my risks (the biggest one I might add) risk will eventually pay me and I have accepted employment with another company that I think is an awesome opportunity for me (it is why I am moving to NJ). My new job is a big time commitment but should still leave me with a great deal of flexibility.

I hate talking to groups but love talking one on one. In fact, I often talk to people for for several hours at a time. I am very good at understanding people but I also have a tendency to miss the obvious. I guess that is why I got an engineering degree in college.

Once upon a time I dated both vanilla and BDSM oriented but vanilla hasn't worked for me since the mid 90s. My parents were very private and sexually conservative. This confused me greatly when I was younger given what my sexuality is the antithesis of theirs. Fortunately, I have come to terms with my sexuality and have accepted the pervert that I am. More importantly, I have come to understand, accept and enjoy my deviant nature.

In large groups I can come off as shy. But one on one with the righ people I open up. Typically, when things work, they work quickly and when it doesn't work it is equally clear.

People find me trustworthy and seem to come to this conclusion very quickly. I try to understand people and apply their own set of morals to their actions and see how they would stand in their own eyes. I think almost everyone I have dated has called me a sweetie. But they also have called me the most frustrating man in the world and a sadistic bastard (in a complementary way). I always will treat you well in and out of the bedroom and expect the same.

Within the bedroom (or dungeon or elsewhere), I enjoy provoking responses as a dom. I enjoy making my partner want me oh so much. From there it depends on my mood. Sometimes, I like rope bondage (Japanese is what I learned but I just do what is fun), spankings, floggings, electrical play, breath play, orgasm control or forcing multiple orgasms, causing endorphin rushes, light humiliation in privately (as opposed to degradation) and more.

Now I listed myself as a Dominant. To me that does not mean I am rude or crude or inconsiderate. It does not mean I just take care of myself or am self centered. What it does mean is that I am in control and get to "inflict" my desires, wants and needs upon my partner. But, I would note that if my partner does not "enjoy" it, I will not.

The things that would interest me include spanking, paddling, flogging, bondage, 24/7 orgasm control (not denial but control - being required to ask permission or beg to cum, being told to cum, being given arbitrary deadlines to cum, etc.) and/or masturbation control, ass play, body worship (showers are important just before for this)(anything but feet), rules, blindfolds, humiliation (but not degradation) and more.

NOTE: RESPECT IS PARAMOUNT. This is true whether you are the dom or sub in my view. If you do not respect yourself, do not value yourself, how can you value the other person? If you do not respect the other person, do not value that person, are you not doing violence to yourself?

I also enjoy the theater, going to sporting events (but not watching them on TV), going to AC, comedy shows, movies (I LOVE movies of all kinds, even chick flicks), Dungeons and Dragons (yes I am a geek), parties, being cooked dinner (I do not cook), computer games, gambling (Atlantic City - yeah), sci-fi and fantasy novels, traveling, Bloom County (long live Bill the Cat), playing with my two cats and more.

If you have gotten down to here, let me say congrats for stamina. I hate talking about the physical stuff but since you read this far I guess you have earned it.

I am 40 but have such a baby face that I still get carded. I am in good health, do not smoke or use illegal drugs (if you smoke or do drugs, I am not interested - sorry), have an average build and I am not hard on the eyes. I have a very high sex drive that I temper so as to not drive my partner nuts (I occasionally drive them nuts other ways :)~ ). I enjoy touching and kissing. I generally do not run out of energy (sexually or otherwise) and can wear out partners at times. My ideal partner should generally feel the same way. I will provide a picture upon request.

If you think maybe we might be a good match or if you have questions, please drop me an email.