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	i apologize if i come off as being negative but that was not my intentions. i'm a very positive person but i felt i had to say these things to let others know about this person. i've moved on since this happened and i don't hold a grudge. i would like to make friends here and one never knows, it could turn in to something else......i guess i'm just being a little more cautious this time around. **WARNING ADULT CONTENT, IF YOU FEEL YOUR FEELINGS MIGHT BE HURT, DO NOT, I REPEAT, DO NOT CONTINUE READING**Okay you decided to continue. i've created this profile to let others know about some of the fake M/D on this site and it does include men and woman. i'm not bitter, not a man basher i don't hate anyone but what i don't like are the fakes. i have a profile on alt as well and that's where i met one of these "pussy hunters". He has since hid or deleted his profile on alt, which was DD2009, i know he's on here and i will expose him. i guess some M/D think subs are stupid, but we are not. Want to read more.....it will be in my journal. Also-not sure why i keep getting Dom's asking me what i'm looking for, it does say that only looking for friends. How much clearer can i be?

8/7/2009 5:00:00 AM

Okay, so I sent him this article on the responsibilities of a Dom and here is the email he sent back to me…….i think he feels that any sub that thinks they have rights is trying to cuck him? I am not responsible for any of the misspelled words below in his email or the article. Love to hear all feed back on this journal entry.

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A,

I must respond to this poorly written article is by an individual who in many circles in known as a cucked Dom.... But you have the right to choose your role models in life period...on any level.

There is much written and poorly written about this lifestyle.....ultimately it is the consensual relationship between a sub and her Master or or Domme.... or cuck and his Domme or Master. But it is about submission and the cherished respect and protection of such submission.....

There is strength in Dominance and great calm and sexual intensity through submission...and again when nurtured it can be so fulfilling many do have 24/7 married lives and live the proverbial happy ever after. Sadly some women attempt to manipulate a generous man or a weak man through false submission and cuck them. A true Dom will not allow this to occur on any level....I would rather be alone in my Dominance and scene with those who only accept my discipline and pleasure than a life with such a woman. Millions live this lifestyle privately in a loving home with a select few friends in the lifestyle....others need the adoration of many in the lifestyle in a bar or club style relationship in the "look at me" stage of mentality.

I am not like that. Many like me are educated sincere, generous and seek a submissive to complete them and again cherish them. They live happy lives in the vanilla sense and enjoy their life behind closed doors. Sadly the users keep the sincere out of the club and hustle of those who use and try to cuck a man and disrespect a lady. Now if you want the world to know of your sexual choices and needs then continue...others want privacy and safety....as their are some demented individuals here. You have some fixed opinions...sometimes another perspective helps. Fate will bring me the submissive that will be my life partner and accept my intensity and in time love and protection....this is not a game....I wish you well.

Master D

>D
>This is one of the article's my friend from Vegas sent me, have you seen it before?
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> The RESPONSIBILITIES and DUTIES of a DOM
>by
>LES IS MORE(m)
>Copyright©1998
>
>The RESPONSIBILITIES and DUTIES of a DOM
>Being Dominant/submissive is a state of mind. It is not a sex act, it is not a game, and it is not a role. It is a state of being and is totally asexual (neither male nor female)

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>First and foremost, a Dominant is always a Gentleman or Lady.
>There is no excuse for being impolite or rude to others. Save this for the submissive that needs and requires this of their Dominant.
>Second, a Dominant must always be in control.
>Drugs, even alcohol, are mind and body controlling agents. They affect relationships and most importantly can affect a scene, therefore taking away the control the Dominant MUST have.
>Third, a Dominant is always honest.
>To lie is to show you cannot be trusted and a submissive must be able to trust you to respect you. Every submissive knows that not every Dominant is super experienced and will respect you much more if you tell the truth. Be honest with a submissive about your level of experience with others and the submissive. The submissive can even help you to gain experience and is really an enjoyable learning process. Tell the submissive up-front if You do not wish a monogamous relationship.Most submissives understand and even expect this in a Dominant. You may not get "that" submissive but you will not loose her/his respect.
>Fourth, a Dominant accepts responsibility for all his/her actions.
>Everyone makes mistakes. Do what is needed to make amends, and correct it. Accept and admit the fact that you messed up. To seek an excuse for something going wrong or hurting someone will cause you to lose respect.
>Fifth, a Dominant expects but does not demand respect.
>No Dominant demands strangers to call him/her Master/Mistress. Respect is earned over time. Demanding Master/Mistress on your name means nothing and is a word that when not earned is meaningless and makes you to others appear to be a petty childish fool. Those that know you and respect you will call you Master or Mistress when you earn it, not before. Remember, to other Dominants you are not Their Master/Mistress you are their equal do not DEMAND them too ever call You that.
>Sixth, a Dominant knows and understands the differences between needs, desires and wants.
>The submissive may want a 24/7 relationship with an understanding Dominant. The submissive may desire a short relationship with a crude rude person. The submissive may need a stable sharing marriage with children.
>
>Duties of a DOM
>    * It is the duty of a Dominant to control his/her emotions.
>To punish a submissive in anger or to lash out to anyone is abusive.
>    * It is the duty of a Dominant to remember that submission is a gift.
>To misuse this gift is abusive. When the submissive is not free to take back the gift it is no longer a gift.
>    * It is the duty of a Dominant to watch over and protect all submissives.
>This does not mean to protect them from finding some other Dominant and to keep them for oneself.
>    * It is the duty of a Dominant to take only a submissive that will match him/her. A submissive that is not into whips should not belong to a Dominant that loves to whip submissives, or expect them to swing or become bi-sexual
>    * It is the Duty of a Dominant to take only the amount of submissives the DOM can properly handle, control, love, comfort and care for. Do not keep a submissive hanging, giving false hopes. Free and release the submissive so the submissive can get along with finding the right Dominant.
>    * It is the duty of a Dominant to watch and monitor the scene carefully and to ensure the submissive is not being harmed either physically or emotionally.
>At any time the slightest thing can go wrong and the scene is ruined for the submissive and pleasure becomes actual pain.
>    * It is the duty of a Dominant after a scene to ensure the submissive is emotionally stable.
>During a scene the submissive is filled with hormones. Afterwards the body reduces them and may cause depression. The submissive must be made to understand the depression and or emotional release is normal and expected. Normal emotions will return in hours to a day. Anything longer is a sign of emotional instability in the submissive and must be corrected before doing another scene. (A Dominant can also experience this depression after a high from the scene.) Each reacts differently some stay high for weeks and when they come down seeks the scene again to regain the high. This also can lead to problems such as longer, more intense and dangerous scenes, with unknown Dominants.
>    * It is the duty of a Dominant to know and understand what the needs, desires and wants of a submissive are.
>Failure to do so may harm the submissive emotionally and mentally.
>Responsibilities of a DOM
>    * It is the responsibility of a Dominant to insure an unowned submissive is guided to a Dominant that is suited to the submissive's wants, needs and desires.
>    * It is the responsibility of a Dominant to insure the submissive knows what being abusive is.
>To insure this is to insure the submissive knows when to call it quits.
>    * It is the responsibility of a Dominant to ensure the submissive knows what the submissive's rights are.
>    * It is the responsibility of a Dominant to teach the submissive information about the Lifestyle.
>The best method is to teach the submissive how to acquire this information and where he/she can get it. An ignorant submissive can be an embarrassment to a Dominant.
>    * It is the responsibility of a Dominant to insure the submissive grows and develops under the Dominant's ownership, in both the lifestyle and the public life (i.e., job and family). Being submissive only means being a "doormat" when the submissive has made it clear that is what the submissive is looking for.
>Dishonorable Acts
>    * For a Dominant to allow a submissive to be actually harmed in ANY way is dishonorable.
>    * For a Dominant to allow a submissive's rights to be violated is dishonorable.
>    * For a Dominant to play with and discard a submissive just for amusement is dishonorable (exception is a submissive that has declared this is the treatment they need).
>    * Unless the submissive has declared them selves to be unowned, another Dominant's interference in a relationship is dishonorable.
>    * To chase after or scene with Another's submissive without the other Dominant's permission and full knowledge is dishonorable.
>No Dominant can be expected to live up to the above 100% of the time, others will respect him/her for trying and the harder she/he tries the more respect all will have for the Dominant and his/hers.

8/6/2009 7:21:16 PM

Just wanted to post a quick note to thank everyone that responded to my last journal entry.......you have all been very helpful and 9 out of 10 disagreed with the so called Master that i was not topping from the bottom.
I'll let everyone know if the jerk tries to contact me again.

8/6/2009 9:36:58 AM

i have to ask the question on here about what a sub should expect when first contact is made by a Dom. Now we all know that the fakes start off by calling themselves a Master and they demand you call them Master right off?
Is it wrong or is a sub topping from the bottom when they inquire where this Dom has received his/her "I've been in the lifestyle for over 20yrs" training? i cannot tell you how many times i've ask a simple question about a Dom's training only to have them come back and say to me that i'll learn that when i meet them.
Yeah, like i'm going to meet someone that can't even be upfront with me, sure and i'll take 20acres of your swamp land in Florida to go with my order. And while you’re at it, stamp dumb ass on my forehead.
Then you have the ones that tell you they can't send you a picture because of what they do for a living but insist you send them one or more. Hmmmmmmmmm, so i guess there are no subs that have jobs that preclude them from sending their picture anytime it's demanded from a Dom. i was told yesterday that if he did not get sex by the third meeting you'd be dumped. So i guess if you fuck them on the first meeting and they like you your good but if not you just got fuck by a con artist. Again, sign me up for that camp. Oh and here is the other line. We're consenting adults and we're past the age of 50, we can't waste time and we have strong sexual needs and desires. i don't know about you but i'd like to get to know the person i'm going to be intimate with. Heck i bet he couldn't even tell me what size shoe his last sub wore or what her favorite food is. These are things that make a D/s relationship grow stronger, do the vanilla things as well but subies, if all your getting out of your so called D/M is fucked, slapped and ordered to suck his dick or lick her clit.....you are not dealing with a true you D/M, unless that's all you need and want.
You do have rights as a sub and never forget that. I sent this jackass an email asking him about his skills as a Master and I will insert my email and his answer, names will be changed but if you want the info just ask me. So to the real D/M out there, am I trying to top from the bottom, please give me your honest feed back, I’d love to hear it. BTW his real age is 57 but his Alt profile stated 54, but he’s an honest man! My email is first then his answer. Oh and he writes for a living but can’t spell!

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Hi D or L,

Can I ask why your name shows as l smith when you email me? Very strange.....oh well. Sorry about the picture, it was taken a while ago and by my husband at the time. Since then I've let my hair go back straight, thank god for that and I'm a few years older. BTW, how old did you say you were because on the profile on Alt is said you were 54 but I can't remember if you told me or not.

One picture I'm sending is one of me and my family and we're having tequila shots, I was a mess that night, dancing and acting crazy but we all had a very good time. I'm not a big drinker but from time to time I do like to let my hair down, lol. The other one is of me New Years 08 in our hot tub.

That was weird about the computer calling you, I could see it calling but I couldn't hear anything and then it clicked off, I was trying to log out when it happened, sorry for the confusion.

You asked me if it were easy for me to move, not at this time. Can't say for the future but anything is possible.

Can you give me some more in-site on your background as a Master, what you incorporate in your training, how many subs have you trained or subs you've been a Master to.

What sort of rules and protocol you have for a sub, types of punishment is all this talked about or put in writing before you proceed with a new sub. These are all very important things to me and I have to know about a Master before I move forward.

I've had some so called Masters say they've been in the lifestyle but I could never get out of them what that meant to them and I have to know what it means to you. Subs are entitled to know what to expect from a Master before becoming involved with them as much as a Master needs to know what the sub likes, their limits, their current living situation and so forth.

One thing for me due to having the church ladies as roommates is being with a Master that has his own place or he can get us a room but that gets old after a while. That's another reason I need a Master that is not married or he lives alone or with maybe one roommate. Things get way to complicated to deal with someone that's married and tries to keep that from you, been there done that.

I'm very interested in hearing about you as a Master and answer the questions I've asked before I move on, we all have things that make or break a deal and these are mine.

Agreeing with what you said in you last email about having to be careful, well that's what I'm doing now. Everyone wants the person they're talking with to trust them and believe they'd never hurt them or deceive them but it happens all the time and I as much as you always want to trust the person at their word but that's just not how life is.

You should hear some of the BS I listen to around these training seminars, men and women flirting like they're not married, trying to get laid and you know because of the paperwork they have to fill out that they are married but the person their talking to has no clue.

I'm going to try and be on IM around noon, just look for me. We're eating in the conference room so I'm going to sit in the back and try to look like I'm busy and I don't want to be bothered so I can chat if you do come on line.

BTW, do I get to see your picture now?

Bye for now

These people are already on my last nerve and it's only 10am, good thing I'm a patient person.

*****his reply***

I wish you well...some free advice...I know you are trying to find the perfect Master but let me tell you politely...you come off big time as topping from the bottom from the beginning. A true Master in a 24/7 will provide for you and in time marry you which is what I seek....but if there is not obedience and respect to speak to him and soon without the drama you presented...You will not find what you seek soon. You came to me seeking with your first message....you read my profile that I did not do endless emails and was guarded about game players. It is not abnormal to want to speak real time and soon if you are real....A hotel phone would have been very safe for you. The next step would have been a plan to meet for a fine lunch, dinner or drinks....in a very public place where you will feel safe. Then a normal progression if the chemistry and mental connection is there. I have a Masters degree and educated exchanges is important as well as serious play. Keep that in mind for the next person. I write for a living and do write about this lifestyle I have some credibility. Good luck.