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I am looking for F to join the kik group I just made. kik me if you are interested thank you so much. You must be 18+
send a live pic state what you are your age where you are from and so on
The rules are
1. respect others
2. no bulling
3. no starting drama
4. if you have an issue come to an adm so we can work it out
5. more to come as issues come up |
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I had a shit day and this is why
well last night i was playing with one of my subs and a girl who wanted to try and be my sub so not only was she rude disrespectful spoke back and out of turn she made me over an hr late. so she got a lot of punishment needless to say she is bruised. so she goes around telling ppl like i abused her. then after we were done playing my sub came up to cuddle and i had to fight to get her cuddle with us. i tried my damnedest so that she wasnt left out. so it was her first one and she started to cry and like my sub was taught he went for a walk as i held her and calmed her overwhelming emotions. later on in the night my sub need to ask me a question privately so i asked her to the car and get my water bc i was thirsty. and we waited and waited and an hr went by so we went looking for her and she was in the back of the car covered up and i thought she was asleep so i thought aw well lets let her rest so i close the door. she had the keys so if she got cold she could turn the car on. i went back inside and a few hrs pass by and its time for me to go so i go and wake her up only to have her yell at me with some half assed story she came up with thinking i ditched her and blah blah blah and wouldnt listen to reason so me seeing she is hurt i say sorry and own my fuck up. well she goes around posting stuff and telling ppl half of her story (which is crazy btw) and makes me look like this huge ass and abusive fucked up person. and then she comes in my house eats my food and sleeps all day in my bed. so i kicked her out once she got up. so fucking done with today |
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== Results from http://bdsmtest.org/ ==
100% Bondage Giver
100% Dominant
100% Sadist
96% Degradation Giver
96% Master/Mistress
84% Exhibitionist
84% Non-monogamist
63% Primal (Predator)
63% Switch
63% Voyeur
53% Masochist
41% Vanilla
38% Primal (Prey)
12% Submissive
4% Slave
0% All-Rounder
0% Bondage Receiver
0% Degradation Receiver |
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So toady I was going to me a potential submissive this is how the conversation went down:
Me: I am carrying my gun
Him: I don't want to go anywhere when you have a gun
Me: I will not go anywhere unless I have my protection I don't trust you yet and I need to keep myself safe
Him: You can trust me I wont do anything
Me: I'm sorry but you have yet to prove that your word means anything to me
Him: well then lets meet up on a different day
Me: it doesn't matter where we go I will have my gun even if that means we meet up
Him: well that is just dumb you know the world is a safe place and none of my friends feel a need to carry a gun
Me: that is them not me if i have to pick I have to pick safety over you I will 100% of the time pick my safety
Him: that's not fair
Me: I don't give a damn if its fair this is what I am going to do and if you cant get behind the fact that i am ensuring my safety and if you cant get behind the fact that a women is protecting herself then you have some issues you need to work out on your own.
Him: but you can take me in a fight
Me: if I am given the choice to put some distance between us then I will that is what self defense is all about.
Him: well fuck you bye
Me: have a nice day grow and learn as a person should and be an outstanding citizen goodbye
Here is my issue with this I have had peoples word that they wouldn't hurt me and time and time again I was proven wrong. If i had my gun both times I was raped then it wouldn't have happened. I had my gun when a man was trying to brake into my car at a red light and guess what it stopped him and we ran away. I believe every women should have a gun and know how to use it. I believe every women should know how to use their size to their advantage in a fight. If you cant be there for yourself no one else will be. There will be a time when your protector isn't there and then what are you going to do when shit hits the fan? I feel that asking me to disarm because you feel i am going to far to keep myself safe is a careless and selfish thing to do. I hope that this will be one of my stories that does reach a lot of people for the fact that women don't think about this until its to late, that my points are valid and stand on fact. I want others to think about this and go yeah she is right and then they go and do something about it. I had a friend a few weeks ago killed because he couldn't protect himself, if we can all fight off those who wish us harm a staggering amount of people would be safer and crime would decreased. So yes I am pro-guns and am against all these people that are trying to band guns knives and glass bottles no matter how strict we get with these criminals will find a way and they don't care about laws. and if its a religious issues well guess what "God" said its okay to protect yourself. what these laws do is take weapons away from those who truly need them. The military doesn't protect us from ourselves and the police can't be there for everyone at every single moment that is simple fact. Thank you for reading my rant and Please leave me a comment with your thoughts. |
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Annual Rule update
I. You will address me as:
A. Miss
B. Ma'am
C. Mistress
II. You will ask permission for:
A. Orgasms
B. Masturbation
C. Leaving your home
D. Sleep
C. Showering
III. There will be no:
A. Kissing
B. Confessions of undying love
C. Back talk
D. Disrespect
C. Dishonesty in any form
IV. My expectations are as fallows:
A. Respect rank
B. Do not meet my eyes unless told to do so
C. Dates
D. Gifts on the appropriate occasions
E. Clear communication
F. 100% participation
- Pushing your soft limits
- Studying
- keeping an open mind
- Trust
- ETC.
V. Safety
A. You are to keep yourself healthy
- Eating three well balanced meals a day
- Maintaining a healthy weight
- No drugs
- No drinking
- No physical harm
- Receive mental help (if applies)
B. Do not place yourself in dangerous situations
C. Be home by curfew
D. Use your safe word: turquoise
VI. Limits
A. Hard
- Fire
- Electricity
- Animals
- Incest
- Illegal activities
B. Soft
- Heavy blood
- Scat
C. You will define your hard and soft limits.
VII. Miscellaneous
A. There will be a two week trial
B. I do not hold you against your will, if things are not up to your standards you are
free to leave
C. You will be punished for negative actions
- Each punishment will be based on the action
- You will not receive punishment out of anger |
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I DONT NOR WILL EVER DO ONLINE BDSM
let me say this clearly I don't do it in word and I never will do it online just because you have to have kik does not mean that it's a relationship it's merely a means for me to keep in contact with my submissive during the week in between BDSM Meetups Matthew messaged me asking me to be your mistress miss domme or whatever I can't guarantee that I will be extremely nice to you like I normally am cuz I'm getting very upset with people over the age limit and Miller close to me messaging me asking me to dominate them that's not going to happen don't ask and I'm sick of repeating myself because you guys don't take the time to read my profile if that's your question jus dont message me. If you want talk as a friend feel free to message me. |
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hmm... what do dildos, The Used, BDSM, anime, drugs, and dizziness all heave in common? |
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I am going to start blocking people who cant learn to take no for no.
I am looking for IRL only none of that online stuff. I don't enjoy it, I'm not going to enjoy it, and there is no trust there and there will never will be.
can there be BDSM without trust ? No there cant, so stop with the "poor me no one wants me" crap.
If you don't have a healthy mind chances are you should take some time off from BDSM and get your life together.
And as I said if you cant be respectful and treat me like a person i wont give you the time of day, I'll just block you.
Now that that is said ^.^ I hope you have a great day. |
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I would love to know how many people are going to go see fifty shades of grey on Saturday to see if it was better than the book. Me loving romance novels; I loved the book but I felt it was lacking the luster. It was like an out of shape man in heals running the tough mudder -.- it stopped the kink as soon as it started. You could tell that it was by a vanilla. I do have to say it took a step in the right direction. Now with all that said there were all these new people born thinking that light bondange is as kinky as it gets. They play by no rules and call them selves the best Dom(me)s ever. Haha. So let's see how this goes. I'm already done with twitter Facebook and whisper because of these people. |
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I am going to be gone until the first week of feb bc of a family emergency. please feel free to still message me. if you dont get a message back right away that would be why. please keep this in mind and dont jump off the deep end. |
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I think the biggest thing people get wrong about me it that they think that messaging me is inconveniencing me and thats not true. I love to talk make friends and learn :). So I guess what I'm trying to say is if you just want to say hi then message me. I don't care if your black, white, brown, yellow, purple, green, or blue; I don't care if your bi, gay, straight, transexual, pansexual, or whatever sexual orientation I left out; I don't care if your sub, dom, switch, slut, bitch, couples, and ect. Let's chat :D |
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when you agree to the rules of this submissive and dominant relationship or any other kinkster relationship you should follow them there is no bending the rules or forgetting it for this one time go to think otherwise have poor discipline and should rethink about being a submissive or dominant. when something in the rules States but you will not do X Y or Z then you will not do X Y or Z because there will be consequences and if you say no to those consequences you are not fit to be a sub you do not draw the line because you do not like the punishment you earned the punishment you will take it with grace. those of you to get upset over this and decide to verbally or physically attack other people it's not acceptable. this is the game it's not something to joke around with because if you joke a little too far you will hurt or kill someone I am done with lies and false people claiming to be dominant or claiming to be submissive and knowing what it means to hold that title. so the next time you want ask me for advice or if you could be my submissive think wisely read everything and choose your words carefully because any dominant let's push to the point of pissed off should be feared any person push to the point of pissed off should be feared |
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Ok this will take some time to get to the point of this lession so bear with me.
Someone asked me "what is a 'knight in shining armor'?"
My answer: someone who will be your rock when you are weak, they are someone who holds your feet to the fire and shows you the truth you need to see no matter how good or bad, and most of all he will love you when you show your true self and be silly with you.
Their next question was "how do I become this and how do you know that this what a knight in shining armor is?"
My answer to this is:I know this be that is my husband who is my knight in shining armor :) and to be a knight in shining armor you have to be true to who you are and find the one who loves you for your flaws. you are one already you just have to find the princess that see it because only they will see that your shining armor and they will come when need them most and you are ready to accept them and be ready to keep the love alive together (its crazy romantic but its true)
I'm saying this because I get asked how to be the best sub I can be or a shining sub in armor. The answer is that you'll be the best sub when you find the right dom(me) so keep looking because only the right dom(me) will see the armor no one else can see. And understand there is no one way to be the best sub you can be because each person is different. All you can do is hold on to your self worth and never stop looking. |
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If you haven't been able to tell already I'm a little different from others, I am not a hands on person rather I watch from a far. I do not flaunt that I am a domme and I can get people to do such and such, rather I lay out a plan that is unknown by others and by their own actions play into it. It is not me telling you what to do by words but by actions. Talk is cheap and I have grown bored with talk. There is so much in life and I do not like to waist the time life has given me on being bored. If you are expecting me to be like those you have known in the past please rethink this, throw away all of what you have known from others because I need open minded people who are willing to sub. Those who know I like things different and are willing to go with the flow and not second guess me are welcome. And again I remind you if you don't like what you see move along because negative is not welcome here and will never be welcomed. |
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Getting a little pissed off. Can anyone tell me how to work kinkster ? I'm 2 sec from deleting it.
I'm not tech inclined can you tell ? |
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I'm all up for helping people but I will not help you if it goes against my morals. Please respect me I'm a person treat me as such and treat mine as such too. When you hurt mine my claws will come out and I'd like to not tarnish my reputation of been a nice person because you decided to be a jerk. |
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I want to just take a minute to say I am proud of all of my subs for their ability to keep an open mind, trying new things, and giving this their all. now that being said I would like others to stop trying to bother me with their childish actions. Just because I see things differently than you does not give you a right to be a child. If you decide to try an "take me down a notch" you will just be blocked. I don't do bullshit and never have. What I do works for me and what you do works for you. If you want be friends and talk great lest be friends I love talking to people. I am not one to anger easily and you'll just be making a fool of yourself and I block those who are fools because like I said I don't do bullshit.
Thanks for the little rant it makes me sad to see how many people out there just want to hurt others because they can. |
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So I have found a common theme between all the accounts that I use to find subs, and that is looks. I was talking to one of my friends and he said to me "I am so sick of people telling me that i can't be a dom because I'm not the way they think doms should look." So today i am going to say it bluntly looks deceive. I have met a lot of people who i thought were nice people but you never know what goes on behind closed doors. You never know who your talking to so take the time to get to know the person before you accuse someone of anything. I believe that there is no room in BDSM for people who try to make others look like them. I.E. just because I'm nice and i look like a sweet person in my pics doesn't mean I'm a sub or that I don't belong in BDSM. Its not your decision to decided what others do [unless you have an agreement with your dom(me)]. Vanilla issues, like looks, is something that doesn't belong here. If your not attracted to someone move on you don't need to say something nasty to them. We have a bad rep as it is why make it worse. |
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Sorry for falling behind on my journals, I have been crazy busy the last few days.
I wanted to talk about why it is so important to take baby steps with your sub.
There are many subs out there that want their limits pushed but when the time comes so do X Y or Z the subs end up not fallowing through. Pushing them will just turn their soft limits into hard limits. This is why dom(me)s need to slowly introduce something to the sub. If you have a sub new to bdsm or a sub who has a lot of limits you can slowly teach them to have an open mind. If I have a new sub and they were against sissy stuff i would ask them to do things like carry some panties around the house and then try them on for a minute or two and so on until they felt good about been a sissy. Same goes if you want gay action with a straight sub you slowly work them into the idea. I know that this will take a lot longer to get your way but during this time you are building trust and a bond. With this trust and the bond y'all have you can take bigger steps and it is easier to push the subs limits. I know from experience that this is the best thing that you can do for your sub, that taking the time to help them will pay off in the long run because you will now have someone who will say by your side. |
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What I'm going to write about today will step on a lot of peoples toes so please keep an open mind, and as always if you don't like it don't read it.
"Why is it that just because I'm a sub people think they can treat me as if i am less than a person?"
What many dom(me)s forget is that BDSM is between two people (mainly adults) that have consented between what is going on in their relationship. this means that a sub who loves to be treated as less than a human has consented to this. it is not okay in my eyes to treat anyone less than a person because of race, believe, orientation, and ect. There for the when a person that tells you that you are less than human because you are a sub, or tells you that your only purpose on earth is to serve dom(me)s, or anything else along that nature that person is wrong and is using BDSM as an excuse for abuse. You as a sub have talked with your dom(me) about what you will and will not do if you have agreed to serve them than that is the only person you have to serve not some John Doe claiming to be a dom(me). It is not your job to serve every dom(me) that walks your way unless you want to.
There is no way to fix this. There will always be abusive people out there, you cant avoid it. What you can do is put on your profile that you do not find this kind of behavior acceptable and that messages like that will be ignored and that person will be blocked. Don't let what these people say to you affect you because for every one person that treats you like crap there are ten more waiting to pick you up and help you. Respect is earned and those people use fear in place of respect because no one would ever in their right mind respect an abuser.
And again this is for those who have not consented to that kind of treatment. I understand there are many people who enjoy it and that's fine, this is for those who have not consented and are upset by others treatment. Please remember that you do not have to consent to anything you don't want to and when you say no or stop legally that person has to stop. No one can hold you in a relationship that you don't want to be in. As a sub you have all the power in the relationship. control and power are two different things if you don't believe me I urge you to use power to do something and then use control. power is the ability to say no to stop whats happening, control is the ability to lead a person to do what you have asked them to do |
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What does it mean to be a good sub or dom(me) ?
To me to be a good sub you must be able to put others before you. To try new things all the time and expand your comfort zone. To be a great sub you need to find a dom(me) that fits who you are, your goals as a sub, and your goals in life. You must be able to trust your dom with your life [not that it should ever be asked to risk your life for your dom(me)]. If you find a dom(me) that kinda sorta fits your needs and wants you will not be able to be the best sub that you can be. There will be a dom(me) that fits your needs and wants because for if there is a buyer than there will be a seller.
To me what it means to be a good dom(me) means that you understand what your sub needs and you are always two steps ahead of them. Always keeping them guessing and trying new things. To be a good dom you need to be able to set up a safe environment to allow your subs to grow, learn, and start to trust you. If you want a relationship to last there needs to be more than fear. Yes fear is needed when your sub does the wrong thing, but why do they need to fear you when they have done nothing but make you happy ? There will not be loyalty out of fear, loftily is gained from respect and trust.
This is what it means to me to be a good sub or dom(me). |
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So the main question everyone wants to know is how did I get into BDSM at such a young age. I didn't get into this by choice I was forced into it by an abusive boyfriend. So why not leave him right ? I mean all the rape and abuse it should be clear for me to leave right ? Well my mother wouldn't let me leave him because she and him were a lot alike. they both pretended and brainwashed people to believe that they were great people so that when they are accused of abuse and rape it is not believed. I moved and found a really good friend that helped me got out from under this man. I had told him how the abuse sucked but the loss of power was some kind of fun game. the two of us tried it and over time he backed out. I had went on to find other doms and learn more about BDSM. i then learned that I always left the men because i found them weak, they always bent to my will in the end. So I went on to be a domme. I quickly learned that this helped me deal with the abuse I was living with in my own home. After so many years it has just become a norm for me to try and control all things around me.
So now I ask please don't ask me anymore about my past. Although I wouldn't change it, it's still hard for me to remember it and relive it every time to tell y'all the answer. |
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Okay so one of two things:
1. I will be gone during the day for today and tomorrow please still message me. I will be on at night and early mornings to look at my stuff.
2. I have been getting a lot of cries for help and/or advice so I have decided to not just do my journal for me but for others. I am going to use it as a blog. How it will work is the
A. Submit your questions to me via messaging
B. I will talk it through with you and get all the details and I will give you the solution via messenger
C. The fallowing day the question(s) will be put up on my journal and will remain 100% anonymous. That means that even if you message me asking me to tell you who said that my lips will still be sealed.
I WILL NOT READ OR RESPOND TO FAKE QUESTIONS.
Therefore if your a fake please go away because I don't have time to deal with your BS. You will be blocked and when you really have an issue and need help you'll be alone. What I'm trying to do is help others please don't mess that up for the people that may really need this |
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To be honest with everyone here I major issues with being mean to people. Unless you make me angry I tend to be overly nice. My style is very different from others so please don't come to me with ideas of what others have done in the past because I will let you down. I am here to help, to expand your comfort zone in a safe and controlled environment. I want to be able to give you tools to be better for the next dom. To make you the best sub that you can be. I know that a lot of people may not agree with what I'm saying and that's fine everyone is different and therefore there is no one right way. If you don't like what I have said ignore it and move on because there is no need to be rude or mean. |
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Okay so I wanted people to be able to see my rules and see if it fit what they wanted so I decided to put them up here. I'm hoping this will weed out those who just want sex.
I like to be called miss. You will need to ask me before you go anywhere, I need to know where you are at all times. I will need to know the times of work and other things that I will not have in my power to say no to. You will ask permission for any kind of sexual activities and you will ask permission to cum. There will not be any kind of "I love you"s or confession of love. I expect my rules to be fallowed and if they are broken you will be punished, likewise the more you do for me the more I will do for you. I know there will be mistakes just know that as time goes on I will allow less and less mistakes. I want you to be able to speak freely with me, you are here by your own will, you are free to leave this relationship at anytime; I do ask that you tell me before hand so that I know. I expect you to be faithful. I expect you to make me laugh and smile and to never reply in one word texts. I will never ask you to do anything that will harm you or others around you. My limits are choking, fire urine and scat play. You will go through a two week trial to see if we are a good fit as a sub and dom, after this trial we will talk and change the things that need to be changed so that our relationship is one that fits both of us perfectly. I will push you to be the best you that you can be therefor you will have to learn something new every month so that means you have to study or read most days and do work to help out your community. You will need to have a social life to stay mentally health as well as take great care of yourself so that you are physically healthy. You will not harm yourself in any way I.E. cutting or trying to kill yourself. You will tell me your limits and I will respect them. If you fell I have not respected them, like I have said before, you are free to go.
If you have any questions your always free to message me. |
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Every one is different and they need di. there is never one way of doing things. because of that it is important for all people to be able to mold to what is needed of them. I am very happy that my way of life instills this in me and allows for a peaceful person. |
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