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| Looking for someone ?in the middle? so to speak. I understand there are various labels that are used to assist us in finding what we are looking for. But there are many shades of gray that need to be observed. I?m here to find someone who is right for me. Not looking for debates since I am well aware we are all different and it is futile to argue about labels.
Who am I? Strong willed intellectual, independent, educated, incredibly down to earth, playful, funny, giving, loving, kind, and incredibly passionate with a non-conventional view on sex and pleasure, non-judgmental with a young heart and old soul and more. Attractive blonde appear much younger than my age.
Who am I not? I am not a doormat, a slave, someone who you could ?train? to serve. It is completely something I cannot do. If you are looking for someone 24/7 to serve you, someone on the extreme side, into control and making someone fear you I am not for you. Nor are you for me. As I am sure there are many out there that would be a better fit.
Who I am looking for..A strong and amazing man with dominant tendencies behind closed doors. Who can truly appreciate the exchange of sensual peaks, and mental stimulation beyond normal ?vanilla? sex. And intellectual/sexual connection. He must also be kind and genuine not looking to control someone like a dog or seek to take me on as a challenge to break me down. For me to call you daddy/sir is not my style.
But behind those closed doors, I am naturally very submissive, enjoy the eroticism it brings being someone completely opposite of who I really am. I suppose I fit in somewhere in the middle of the vast spectrum.
I do not like the labels because I don?t fit any of the hardcore requirements. Not a Dom, not a sub (in the tense of 24/7 full definition) And a switch maybe more appropriate but I do not get as much satisfaction from being dominant as I do with surrender and trust in the bedroom all with respect of limits and open communication.
I Love rough play, spankings, light bondage, sensory play, hair pulling, being teased and mentally stimulated so that once the physical finally takes place it is beyond anything vanilla. But, not a big pain lover nor into torture. Humiliation does nothing for me as well. I do have boundaries some HARD and some SOFT.
Truth be known, I will never change who I am and cannot succumb to subservience in lifestyle. But I enjoy the sexual aspect of BDSM. All vanilla types think I?m a kinky freak and too much to handle; yet this community seems to view me as a prude.
Are you out there?
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