Objectification---are Dominants objects?    If a penis were merely the source of my being here I have a box of plastic ones I can put away and I don't have to feed them.    Those in my box can not stimulate my mind--or consume my soul.    Sex is nice---but sex is best when it is 99% mental.    

Why is honesty so desired yet so difficult to accept?

The red squiggly line under a word means that the word is not spelled correctly.   I do understand some words are hard but if every other word in your profile has a red squiggly it makes me wonder if you are as intelligent as you claimed in your profile--by the way there is a red squiggly under intelligent--you did spell it wrong.     

I don't require a 'real' Dom.   I'd much prefer a real person.    Waiting to be bowled over.  

Yes my profile is blank!   Why?   Because it does not matter what one puts in their profile, 99% of the time it's never read.  

If I indicate I am not seeking, it is quickly assumed, I am collared, therefore I should not be here or that someone else might be better suited to be my partner.    

If I indicate that I AM seeking and define the type of partner I seek, meaning racial preference I get nasty messages like, "Hope you find an OJ Simpson!"    OJ, at least, is better looking than Ted Bundy or Jeffrey Domer.   Then of course I get a few who claim that they are well endowed thinking my racial preference has to do with penis size.    However mostly, I get messages that go like this--"You are so pretty, what to chat?"   My response---"Please read my profile, you are not what I am looking for."   Then I get a message back, "You are an ugly racist (fill in some vulgar name)."  

Then finally, I have those who read my 500 word or less profile, automatically know what I need, know me inside out and attempt to explain "the lifestyle" to me and 99% of the time it's a cut and paste article that has been floating around the internet for the past 10 yrs that someone posted on CastleRealm.    

If you have gotten this far in my blog, let me state exactly why I have a profile here:  

1.There are a few people here on CollarMe that I like and respect.    I enjoy talking to them and although most of them can contact me off site, there are some blogs I read and I am always amused when one particular friend sends me a "on ur nees bitch" message then continues onwards with some type of hysterical nonsense but that's okay I send him messages claiming I am from Ghanna. (If he is reading this notice the double spaces between paragraphs!) 

2.  I enjoy the forums but not in the way most do.   Actually, I think that 90% of the time the forums are a joke and I get my daily laugh from them.   For example:  I just read one where a submissive female was being critized for playing on a first meet.   

     Why must we play safety police?   I once spoke to a Dom for 15 minutes, he hopped on a bus, I picked him up a mere four hours later, we went back to my place and played.   We met several times after and  a few years back he visited me with his new slave, they hung out at my house for a week.   We are still good friends.   I once boarded a plane flew half way across the US, was picked up at the airport, went for lunch then back to my motel and we played.    We are still extremely close friends!  

    The bottom line is how often do people go to a bar, at 2am leave the bar drunker than hell with someone they JUST met that night go home and have completely vanilla sex, and never see each other again after breakfast.  But that is okay because it's assumed the hook up is local.   

    Bad things happen, no matter how completely careful we are, even when there is none of those infamous red flags dangling---life is a risk even married people who TRUST their partners 1000 percent can get an STD, can at some point be abused or killed by a partner they have been with for YEARS.   (Read the news, people DO kill their spouses and their families! It sucks but it does happen!)

   Even funnier than the forums though are simply some of the comments made by people without thought to what they are even saying.   For example:  Those who could not live without D/s or BDSM as part of their lives.   

    Reality dictates here, people get old and although some do play into their 70's, 80's and above, the percentages are low.   There are a plethora of ailments that can affect a person or their partner even at a young age (alzheimer's for example can begin in a person's 30's) that will restrict or end their activities.    Personally I feel it very shallow to leave a long term partner who is unable to physically or mentally participate.     

3. Although I personally (after nearly 20 years) am NO LONGER ACTIVE in the lifestyle, the psychology behind D/s and BDSM is still a fascinating subject for me.    I love to debate certain topics and because I have been on an active end and now a non active end, I can give a great deal of food for thought.   

In summary, if you know me, (meaning we have chatted before and are on a first name basis) feel free to message me.   If you think that I just need to see your penis on web cam or you think that I might be up to showing my titties, take the crack pipe out of your mouth and check yourself into rehab.    If you have some lame ass rude comment and feel the need to send it to me PLEASE DO NOT BLOCK ME AFTER SENDING IT.   It is only fair that I get a chance to respond in kind. 

Congrats---you made it all the way through!