I am relatively new to the kink community, but I've always been very kinky in the bedroom. It's not just the physical thrill of kink that I love. I really crave the creativity, imagination, passion, and intelligence involved in really hot kink. I love to try new things and meet new people, whether or not sexual involvement ensues. I like a partner with , a fantastic sense of humor, a sense of adventure, good communication skills, and a well-hung... mind.

When it comes to kinky, sexual friendships and play-based relationships, I'm purely a switch. Topping and bottoming both appeal to me, because I get a thrill from the variety and surprise that comes with switching between the two.

When it comes to personal romantic partnerships, I am dominant. I definitely take after my sister Southerners and tend towards a matriarchal sort of dominance. Such women are strong and authoritative; equal parts earth mother and bitch goddess with just enough warrior queen to keep it interesting. Proper manners and decorum are a must for any romantic partner, and my preference is for intelligent, sensitive, creative, younger men who won't mind occasionally topping me.

When I'm topping, or otherwise in dominant mode, I love to dish out: handcuffs, restraints, whips, belts, floggers, belts, paddles, intensely dominant role play, spanking, blindfolds, gags, discipline, candle wax, wax, fire and electricity play, talking dirty, orgasm control and denial, masturbation, sissification, toys- including strap-ons!!!. In softer moods I have been known to give massages, oral sex, masturbation, sensation play, teasing, body worship. I feel that aftercare is a responsiblity I have to my partners, if they want or need it. I play rough or easy depending on my mood, but when I'm rough, I'm VERY rough... ;~}

And then there are those times that I feel like being a bottom. When this mood strikes, I crave oral sex, intensely submissive role-play, tantric sex, rough sex, sensation play and sensual domination with anything from candle wax fire play and violet wand to massage and feathers and everything in between!!! Fairly often I deserve a good bare-assed spanking with hands, paddles, latex floggers, and thick leather belts. Massage and body worship are also lovely. If play has been painful intense, I need aftercare.

Ethics are very important to me; fair play is a must.

I just recieved my PhD in Folklore, and my career plans will keep me working in the academy. My sexual life is intertwined with my intellectual life. I am fascinated by the traditions(expressive culture), material culture (DIY toys and accessories, etc.) traditional knowledge (mentoring & theory), and ritual (scene-crafting and aftercare) associated with the BDSM and kink cultures/subcultures. So if you happen to see my profile and are interested in discussing these things, I'd love to meet you!

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