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About FourOaks
Hey you! Thanks for stopping by. For now, you can call me M (or Sir if you like, but only if it makes you blush. You naughty girl, you.)
Underneath the veneer of BDSM, I like to think of myself as a romantic. Hell, I want basically all of the same things vanilla men typically do. There's nothing I'd like better than to come home to a bright, classy lady with whom I can cuddle up for a cozy night in, share deep conversations and stupid jokes in equal measure, and build a mutually loving and trusting relationship. But if said lady feels prettiest when she's cuffed, gagged, and stinging from her latest flogging, well. . . All the better.
ABOUT ME
I'm in my early thirties, currently an up-and-comer in the logistics business at a major corporation, hence the lack of a profile photo, but I'll happily share pics if we connect. Generally speaking, I'm the laid-back, easygoing type. I can shoot the shit and get along with virtually anyone, but I'm an introvert at heart with quite a small inner circle of loved ones whom I choose to spend my time with. I'm outdoorsy, an avid reader, and juuust a bit of a nerd (bonus points if you are too. . . even if you've got no interest in being my partner, hit me up if you've got book recommendations). My weekends are either spent hiking and camping in the mountains, or at home rotting on the couch watching old movies. You know, the duality of man. I own a home in the heart of the city, where I live with my dog and several overflowing bookshelves (fully stocked underground sex dungeon TBD).
ABOUT YOU
Well. . . You tell me. I want to find an independent woman with her own vibrant personality, interests, hobbies, and values. Contrary to popular belief, submissives are people too! If I wanted a doormat, I'd go to Ikea (though I still might treat you like furniture now and then if the mood strikes, or if you ask me nicely).
With that being said, there are some basics of compatibility we'll need to be on the same page about. I'm an irreligious political lefty, and you would need to roughly align with that as well. It isn't necessary for us to agree on everything (I'll always respect your opinion, though I can't promise I won't dish out an extra little swat with the crop when your opinion is wrong) but you can't be the arch-Republican, church every Sunday type of girl. I won't be starting a family in the near future, if ever, so it won't work out if you have children, or want to have them anytime soon. I have always been monogamous, and while I wouldn't mind having a second partner if it evolves organically, it isn't something that I anticipate or particularly want. You will be exclusive to me and I will be exclusive to you, unless we explicitly negotiate otherwise beforehand. I also tend to be a private person, and that extends to my relationships. . . I don't intend to parade my kink lifestyle around in public, but equally, you won't be my dark shameful secret either. We can exist comfortably and inconspicuously in vanilla space together without compromising our private power dynamic.
GETTING KINKY
Over the years, I've realized that any serious relationship I'm going to be in needs to have a significant D/s component, but it needn't be a 24/7 dynamic. It can be, if it feels right, and it may or may not evolve into one over time, but any Dom who expects total full-time submission right from the jump is either untrustworthy or unrealistic. Besides, instant submission is cheap and tawdry anyway. I want to earn your obedience, and build a relationship where you eagerly follow my instructions and trust my punishments, not because of some external idea or expectation about what a sub is "supposed" to be, but because you've learned from experience that they bring you genuine fulfillment in the long term. That, to me, is the soul of D/s, and far more important than any of the stereotypical trappings of kink.
Although, I can't deny I'm also a sucker for a big red ballgag. The classics never really get old, do they?
Check my Interests tab if you want a full rundown, but some big ones for me are tight bondage, obedience training, flogging, collars and leashes, blindfolds, gags, and clothing restrictions. Nothing truly taboo, but of course you're allowed to object to anything that surpasses your hard limits. As I've mentioned, as long as we're building a true intimate relationship on a D/s framework, the specific acts and roles are less important to me. "Good girls" are typically my preference, but "filthy sluts" are welcome too. I'm open minded, and I can treat you like a lover, a pet, an object, or a whore depending on your cute little twisted needs (or maybe all of the above; I do love a woman with a sense of adventure, and variety is the spice of life after all).
I've used the word "partner" rather than "sub" a few times on this profile, and that's by design. We'll appear to the outside world as a normal couple, and for the most part, that's what we'd be. You'll spend a lot of your time in subspace, but we'll always be equals in the relationship (yes, even when you're trussed up naked on the floor with your nipple clips on). If you're a hardcore masochist who craves to be brutally dehumanized, we're almost certainly not a match. But if you're willing to endure some pain and humiliation as a training tool, or occasionally just because I like watching you squirm and squeal, by all means drop me a line (or just go ahead and marry me).
Hope you found something that piqued your interest here. I look forward to meeting you.
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