I am happily owned, hopefully this time for life, so seeking friendship only.
Please read my whole profile, it's very detailed, and will answer many of your questions about me and don't ask me questions already answered here! Thank you :)
Please don't ask me for photos if you haven't even made the effort to get to know me well.
I'm looking for the right loving and caring master, who'd master me in the bedroom but can be a vanilla boyfriend with me outside the bedroom. Love role playing forced sexual slavery. Love being gagged, tied up, blindfolded, and spank and smack around. Love being forced to have sex, love playing rape. Love the romanticism of a master and slave relationship. Love being fucked everyday, all day. Love to be kept dripping wet. Love being treated like a slut and a whore.
Just need the right loving master who'd be patient and respectful of my limits and who'd take care of me, and use me everyday for his pleasure.
I need a master who is open and honest and non-evasive to my questions too, as obviously trust is very important. He should be someone who is able to hold intelligent conversations with me and banter with me too and stimulate me mentally. He should understand the importance of emotional care of his sub as well. A great sense of humour during play is a bonus.
Looking for exclusivity and a serious relationship too.
Please..., no switches or bisexuals, I am looking for pure straight doms only as I am a pure straight sub. And if you're over 50 yr old, please know that I am only interested in friendship.
Open to making friendships only and exchanging experiences as well.
Limits - no anal or rimming - no public humiliation or public display - no fisting - no sharing me - no using as a toilet - no beating of feet - no spitting on me - no nude pictures - no asking me to make animal sounds - I don't want cum in my mouth unless I have agreed to exclusivity - and I truly hate dodgy doms who can't answer straight and honestly, clearly you can't expect me to ever trust you.
Criteria -I only like smooth clean shaven dick and balls, if you're not that, know that it's impossible to play unless you're okay with me not sucking and licking you ever. -I prefer dry kissers to wet kissers. - I am a sub who will always need a level of control over the play, giving full reign takes years of trust, so, take note. - I am extremely emotionally and physically needy, and you have to deal with that. - I need this relationship to involve lots of hugs and cuddles, cuz I love touching and stroking and kissing and snuggling up to my dom constantly. I know some doms hate physical contact cuz its too vanilla, if you are that kind of dom, you aint for me. -No polygamous relationship for me please -Not looking for TPE clearly
Hope all this helps filter the right worthy dom.
Is there a correct reason for being dom or sub?
Lines get quite blurred when everyone's in it for different reasons.
My master enjoys the power trips. I enjoy the pleasure and stress relief I get from being "tortured".
And I enjoy the sensation of pain transforming to intense orgasms for me. Especially when I'm terrified of pain. It's fascinating, the emotions I go through.
And it's therapeutic.
Anyone feels the same? What really rocks your world about being a dom or a sub?
I've decided, I will not reply to anybody who messages me with one liners.
I'm a genuine person who do like deep conversations, so if ya not into that, don't bother messaging me, especially if ya a dom, you ain't suppose to be shy.
PS: Friendship only by the way
I'm so glad justice still exists.
I knew I was into bdsm since a kid, but I have never gone looking for like-minded people in that area, until 6 months ago, when I was going through a hard time and I just wanted pursue everything else I was interested in that I did not do so in the past.
And my experience has kinda reminded me all over again, why I avoided the bdsm scene for my whole life and would not consider even dating someone into bdsm.
The problem is, in the cloak of being dom, there are potiential rapists out there, and I was nearly a victim of one. They pretend to be really nice and behave like a genuine friend, all just to get everything set up, for rape or gang rape even.
I'm absolutely sickened at what someone I met on here and whom I trusted as a genuine friend, planned for me.
And I just needed to mention it to any subs who's reading it, trust your instincts, if something feels not right, no matter how nice the dom seem, his probably somebody evil in disguise. Be as distrustful as you like, it might save your life.
I never thought it would really be possible to have the sort of master and slave relationship I want. I'm really lucky to have found it and I hope everybody else will be able to find their ideal match as well.
I honestly did not expect this, I was well loved and happy in a near 10 yrs relationship which he unexpectedly fell inlove with someone else, and then I just thought, well..., happiness cannot last forever, and I've been allocated my share of it, and that's it.
And then I got my second allocation of happiness again.
Here's a question.
Does anybody ever come on here, being open to friendship only? Like seriously...?
I love you master
Alot of doms on here seem to be looking for real slavery. What's up with that?
hope this time love actually conquers
Okay...., it lasted exactly 18 hours...
How I wish this bliss and happiness I feel today last forever.?
There is something worrying in this scene, if some doms and subs think that bdsm is about crushing self-esteem, and making a sub feel worthless and lower than dirt.
If subs thinks pain and suffering is what this is about, agony and misery.
I've been told I'm not a true sub if I'm having fun.
Well I am having fun, humiliation is suppose to enjoyable for me, and not feel like real humiliation. Pain should be pleasurable and not because I actually feel the pain.
I see bdsm as a gateway to a deeply loving and trusting relationship, where two people bring each other to higher fulfillment and utter heaven where you can never reach in pure vanilla.
And I feel sad, for those who are in this for genuine pain and suffering. I live to be happy.
I understand how a religious person feels now.
Kinda, I know its stupid but cant help but gravitate towards it.
I can see the logical and rational part of it, and what I should be doing, but am unable to execute the right thing, as my emotions completely engulfs my rationality.
*sighs*, all downward spiral from here, its something i need to go through as part of my journey.
Nobody will agree with my decision.
But nobody really understands what I am going through anyway.
I feel truly alone.
stupid dead knot!
stupid stupid stupid!
banging against the wall, can't break it down!
Oh gosh, I thought by being more detailed on my profile to attract better matches, I get more immature tantrum throwing wannabe doms who goes into tizzies when they cant get me to do what they want me to do.
Again, please, spare me, if you got personal insecurities and cant deal with it, please dont take it out on me. I can be a good listener for any problems if you need a ear but dont put your personal crap on me.
There is no true sub or true dom. BDSM relationships work exactly the same as vanilla relationships.
All that matters is there is mutual understanding between both parties, both are on the same page, then they will be each other true dom and true sub, or each other true master and true slave.
Agree or not?
Western Nights asked me to web cam with him, I said I had none, he said i was not eager to serve a master. I said to him his not a worthy dom.
And he goes into a tizzy calling me a fake cunt who wants money. Fantastic logic isn't it?
Gosh, seriously, please, doms who are immature, not right in the head, childish and are prone to going into baby tantrums, please stay away from me, I want a man, and not a baby.
I saw the most beautiful statement today ever.
"When I don't accept you at your worst, then I don't deserve you at your best."
Just wow!
All relationships whether bdsm or vanilla are suppose to be hard work.
The ones that work, took lots of effort to keep it there from both ends.
I need to keep telling myself that.
It's interesting how many doms don't read the profile properly before contacting me.
Seriously..., or either they don't understand what loving and caring master means.
I couldn't believe when I had one who said he interpreted from my profile that I wanted a real sadist, someone really cruel and brutal. Like oh wow! So he was disappointed I was not into that, like...., how can I make it more clear???? Or more idiot proof?
I feel like absolutely death. Is there something you absolutely love about someone also became a double edge sword, where it's the thing that constantly hurts you most?
The crap I put up with sometimes... absolutely nuts!
No I will not send you my picture, does that answer your question? :)
Only my master gets to own a copy of my picture :)
My experiences chatting with people on here, I realise there are two kinds of doms.
Doms that think the domination they provide is their god's gift to the sub and needs to be earned. How it is earned is of course totally reliant on how obedient she is gonna be. These are the ones who want doormats, because, you expect someone to just accept you and be your obedient doormat, just because you're a dom, just because they are subs, and you think it's their nature to want this and need this, just serve, and you're doing them a damn big favour.
On the other hand, you have Doms who think that a sub's trust and submission is precious gift that takes time to earn and when obtained, to be treasured.
Here's what I think.
I think my submission is a gift, not given easily to just any doms out there, it's a choice not easily given and when I do give it, I do expect it to treasured and treated as precious. No I don't think? I can simply go in and just be obedient, I need to be made and manipulated into being obedient.
Guess end of the day, this takes developing an affection for my master, with that affection, comes the urge to please and make him happy and be as obedient as possible.
I read another sub's journal, about needing to be wooed. I totally agree with her. That's how my first dom got me, he definitely did woo, made me feel special, single mindedly told me I am gonna be his whether I like it or not, knew what he wanted and went all out to get.? That's domination.
How many doms out there would actually want a total doormat for a sub?
I think whether vanilla or M/S, I'm just a typical woman who wants the fantasy of having a man who can read her mind, understand her and is insync with her desires.
There is something very? erotic and sensual and addictive about having a man being able to control responses of your body despite doing things that makes you feel degraded.
Makes you feel like you can't help but do anything he asks of you.
I think, I just want a vanilla master.
From experiencing being owned to being unowned is....., my heart is crushed. Am unable to give him absolute obedience without limits.?
One thing tough about being a sub is that your submissive side can be so easily exploited.
Here's a question. Is it ever okay for a dom to break a sub's limits? And if it is, why?
