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I will be making a change to my profile. A decade of discovery has brought me to the conclusion that throughout all this time, when I looked to yield it was always on my terms. ? It is for that reason that a number of dominant people found me to be a challenge to deal with. It had nothing to do with protocol or respect just with a sense of discovery. Some will not understand, but to ourselves we have to be true. whether I have used wit to create a situation for a sub or to steer a willing dominant in a certain direction, taking control with persistent low key effort has been my method of operation I came.? I met.? I discovered.? I accepted.? I reveal.

Saw a bumper sticker today and thought how true... "I don't have an attitude problem. You are just an asshole."

In one day... a Dominant that resorts to bullying without patience... another that just uses Her presence, patiently talking about one thing or another, almost casually tossing in a little innuendo here and there, and with no expectation takes control of desire and draws out so much. One exhibits frustration and kicks away... The other took control before it seemed possible. Its a broad, broad world. If You think it only works one way, Your way, maybe You need to re-evaluate Your stance. To each their own, but the Dominant that causes someone to take a step, and another, and another... without threats and coercion and outbursts... that is power.

Submission... gift or trait? A trait in abundance or in small quantity. And if in small quantity, is it like yeast, if left in the cold does nothing, but when set with the right ingredients and kept warm it grows and doubles in size again and again? Is it like dying vegetation, which pressed becomes coal and then eventually diamond, but if pressed all at once rather than diamond, produces just a wrenched out pulp? It takes all kinds to make the world turn they say, and as such to each his or her own. Would it be any easier for people if the slave mentality subs wore signs that said "i'm ready right off the bat to do anything" and the Dominants that expect it wore something similar? Wait, they do that today to an extent. Maybe its just that the written word is not alive and vibrant and expressive all the time, showing the sincerity that a soft tenor provides, or the compassion mixed with respectful interchange? The written word can be cold, black and white, and even the poet needs the space and time to establish a basis upon which to build the story of his poetry. Some say no limits and that is exactly what they mean, be it in offering or expectation. Others seek to know limits, but then do little to support them. Then there are those that listen, ask, engage, seek, and in Their due time, mold what is offered as a gift into a possession They wanted all along. There is room in the world for the limmerick and the novel, and some readers will take pleasure in both. What sort of reader are Y/you? Enjoy the book slowly or read the back flap and move on? To each his or her own. You, Dominant, seek one that will surrender with out taking the time to know You? You'll find it somewhere no doubt. Don't condem those that don't fit the description as unworthy, just in a different spot on the continuum. And you, submissive, you say no limits? Truthfully? Well that is bold of you and you will find Someone no doubt to take advantage. For T/those that remain somewhere in between the polar opposites of Your Dominance or your submissiveness, thank Y/you for the variety of life Y/you bring. Even this world would be vanilla were W/we all just alike. I've made some friends, and a good many more, I am trying to find Y/you on Y/your continuum so that I may get to know Y/you better and provide the best. Have Y/you the time to let the yeast work?

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