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I am an amazing man. I am a fetishist with Asperger's Syndrome, and charm out my ass. That makes me excessively dangerous to those looking for someone they deserve, and who deserves them. I am polyamorous, but that, by no means, should be interpreted as loose or a "player". I love the people in my life, and give them every bit of energy they give to me. I simply have a hell of a lot of love and energy to give. Every relationship I have fulfills a unique place, and none of them are at all similar. I am, however, only romantically involved with a very select few, often only one woman at a time. Poly only means that I am CAPABLE of more than one love at a time, not that I will NEED more than one or that I cannot focus on one woman at a time.
I hear the words "God, you are so mean" spoken through smiling lips more often than any sadist should. I am creative, and enjoy watching others suffer. I am also willing to do the things I offer. If I say I am going to put you in the box, believe that I am willing and able to put you in the damn box.
I am an alpha male. I take over every room I enter simply by being myself. I am, however, nothing flashy, nothing spectacular. I am a simple man, really, once you break it down. That is likely where my strength lies: the simplicity of my heart and desires makes it that much easier to commit to my passions.
I am compassionate. That does not mean that I am weak, or unwilling to push to a limit. It means that I am capable of seeing when someone truly needs tender, caring words.
My age means nothing. I far more mature than many older than I, and far less mature than many younger than I. I have been with women from 15 to 50, and never heard jack.
I offer my respect to anyone true to themselves, to anyone willing to actually love themself, and be themself, without fear of judgment.
If you give me an opening, I will take it.
For example: Collarme gave me this space to write, and look, I've written a lot.
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So why can't Collarme manage to add the programming necessary to automatically update your age? I had no idea my profile still said 25. My birthday was in July. Thank you, Collarme, for making me seem foolish.
~B
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http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sacramentotng/
Sacramento TnG on Yahoo is a resource for all Kinky folks aged 18-35 in the Sacramento area. Resources, information, discussions, and info on events are all available, as well as other kinky people who want to build a community.
Come and join up!
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I am always unsure of any woman who says she dislikes poly because she wants to be the center of her Dominant's focus, then says that she wants to have kids. Having been through the parenting routine, you find that having kids automatically makes your need for attention the LOWEST priority on so many levels.
If it doesn't, you will be one of those parents who names their kids "Apple" and "Makenzi" and enjoys sending them off to Montessori school so you can get some "Spa time". Which is fine if you are into that, but not the life I want to lead.
If you are too insecure to handle not being the only or even primary focus in my life, then I am definitely not the one for you.
I would much prefer a submissive who understands loving selflessly, and doesn't seek to demand my attention or time, but who earns it by giving it equally. Because you better believe, if I feel like you are shooting me everything you have got, I will reciprocate, but demanding it on a first date is a GOOD way to get your ass canned.
If you think polyamory is just about keeping a stable full of women, you are VERY mistaken, insecure, or both. Take the time to talk to someone who has ACTUALLY practiced it as a means of expressing love before you infer your shallow ideals on it.
No, I am not angry, just frustrated with the stubborn, thick headedness of individuals who pride themselves on being accepting of an alternative lifestyle, then turn around and bash another. If you desire to make assumptions because you are looking for Mr. Right, go try out for The Bachelor. Thank you.
~B
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I will be hosting the Club X "X Doll Competition" on January 23rd at Club X. Club X is Sacramento's newest fetish club. Located Downtown, it is 21 and up, and features a dance floor, a stage with live kinky performances, and 2 full bars (No drinking and playing, though). www.myspace.com/916clubx
This month we will be having the X Dolls contest. The winner will receive FREE VIP Membership for a year, as well as a gift certificate for naughty lingerie, and the opportunity to be the face of CLUB X! If you want to know more, message me. Otherwise, show up on the 23rd and enjoy the party!
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Wow, I just looked at my interests. They haven't been updated in FOREVER. Well, I have. Funny how many "Curious" turned into "Like it" or "Love it"...
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So I am writing once more today because I got an email from someone I met through this site. She mentioned that I was the only part of the BDSM experience she enjoyed. That wasn't the first time I've heard that mentioned. Now, I am not the most amazingly kind person ever, nor am I some magical Dom. I'm just a respectful, courteous, and not a complete dickhead perv. Is everyone else out there just that bad?? Really? I hope to god not. I've met plenty of nice people. I guess everyone just misses the good people on here and goes straight for the jackasses.
Oh well.
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I am going to be teaching classes in Negotiation and Rope Bondage this summer. Message me if you are interested.
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The Sacramento Next Generation (18-35) group is starting to build itself! I'm pretty stoked to see how it grows. Few of us from CM are in there. If you have any questions, let me know and I'll see when our next activity is!!
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I uploaded a new profile image today, so it'll look like I have no photos for a few days. God damn, Collarme is awesome for babysitting us.
It's a shot from a publicity shoot I did with my band. I liked how it turned out, and I'm vain.
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After years of appreciating the theory of needles and blood play, but not the reality of it, I am overcoming my needle neuroses and learning how to do play piercings. If you happen to be interested in quinea pigging for me, I am always looking for fresh bodies. You will get your own unused, sterile needles, I promise. And I promise, if I hurt you, you will like it.
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So it's confession time again.
I go back over almost every social interaction I have, no matter how inconsequential, and analyze it. It's the only way I know of to improve my social awareness. Unless I re-read what I've sent, rethink my approach to a conversation, or play out multiple alternatives in my head, I become a complete social moron. I have to work to be as friendly and outgoing as I am.
I am not asking for slack or forgiveness, just airing out some "dirty" laundry, so to speak. This is who I am. I have no desire to hide my deficiencies from anyone. If I did, I couldn't call myself a well-adjusted person. I decided long ago to simply like who I am. I may not always be pleased with the things I do (it's like watching your best friend do something stupid knowing you can't stop them, except that it's me instead of my friend), but I am always happy with the person I am.
Okay, enough Anthony Robbins bullshit. Time for some cake.
-A
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Apparently, my old profile image failed to express Dominance. And since we all know that image is the number one piece of the D/s puzzle, I decided to change it.
Mostly, because I'm bored.
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So something has been coming back to kick my ass lately. I realize that communication isn't my strong point. I am constantly failing to engage or follow through with communication. This is a product of the Asperger's, but I make no excuses. It's simply something that I am learning to overcome. I hurt at least one very nice girl, and cause unneeded turmoil for a friend because of it. You will rarely see me open up like this, but I am sorry to those who I might have hurt because of it.
So, if you notice we have a nice conversation then you fail to hear from me for a week, or I go from page long messages to monosyllabic answers, do call me on it. I don't always recognize it and I do want to correct it.
This is yet another step in my crazy voyage to self-fulfillment.
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Okay, let me give some more unwanted advice here:
Ownership, Submission, Slavery, Collaring, and so on. These are things that take time, commitment, passion, respect, patience, and care. If you continually accept "training collars" or go "under consideration" with someone after less than a week of chatting online, and then wonder why the relationship goes sour, let me give you a hint: just because this lifestyle is about service and submission doesn't mean it takes any less effort and time than does any vanilla relationship.
Now, I am a pretty forward person. If there is any sexual tension or chemistry between us, expect me to make a move quickly in person. But it will be a move that is not intended to bind you to me indeffinitely, or to make you endebted to me.
If you want to serve me or do anything long term, expect it to take time. This isn't some fantasy where I tell you almost nothing about myself, show up at your home one day, make you my slave, and life is beautiful. Reality doesn't work like that. It's romantic, and I am sure it's worked at least once in history, but chances are we'll meet at Denny's, share some coffee and pancakes, talk things over, and take it from there. You owe me nothing more than respect and courtesy. No contracts, no commitments that you don't want to make just so I'll consider making you a part of even the smallest bit of my life.
I am by no means a Master of the BDSM arts. However, I have worked with, built relationships with, and trained submissives, and the successful ones were never quick.
So have patience, submissives. If you throw yourself into something you don't understand, you are liable to end up in something you don't want.
That's it for today, kiddos. Keep in touch.
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So, I just wanted to talk about having sex in public places. To be honest, I'd have sex in the middle of the supermarket if I didn't think the cops would show up before I could finish. That'd suck.
However, that hasn't stopped me from engaging in sexual activities in some pretty wide open places, including the top of a parking garage, the slide at a daycare center (it was closed at the time, no kids were around), public pools, in the middle of nowhere, and the courtyard of my girlfriend's apartment complex. I know it's pseudo taboo, but if God didn't want us to have sex in public, he wouldn't have made it so easy.
I am a bit desensitized to it, since my days as a performer made it necessary to display my sexuality on stage in front of hungry onlookers. And that was tons of fun. I mean, when you look into the audience and that brunette you hit on at the bar is licking her lips and rubbing her fish-net covered thighs while you spank your pet on stage, you feel pretty good.
Public sex is a freeing act. You feel alive, in touch, and unstoppable. Now, every time I go by somewhere I've "touched", I feel alive, because I can walk up to the man sitting on the park bench and tell him "Sir, I made a woman into a sighing, moaning mass of gooey flesh right where you are sitting." And that's pretty awesome.
Yeah, this journal is just me bragging. Fuck you if you don't like it.
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I have been asked, often by desperate men, how they can become as "lucky" as I am with women. How do they become a "Master Dominant" like me?
Well, I don't consider myself a Master Dominant. I have a lot to learn, and always will. However, I do recognize that my record over the last few years is notably above the average for guys. And nearly everyone I have played with, been with, or dated still talks to me, considers me a friend, and a frequent fantasy.
What is my secret? Inside most women (most, not all) is a slut. One who desires to be treated like an object and tied up and taken. However, wrapped around that slut is a beautiful flower.
If you have ever had the oppertunity to see a rose open for the sun, you will know that only the softest touch, that of the sun, will do it. Try to force it open you end up with a broken, crumbled flower. Or the flower closes up on you.
Well, treat her well. Always be in charge, but treat her well. Touch her face softly, smile at her, don't be above giving her tokens. Then, bend her over, spread her legs, and watch her flower open to you.
There are, of course, many thousands of nuances beyond that, but if you start there, you will be surprised what will "open up" to you.
Be gentle, but be firm. Treat her like a whore, but an expensive one. That is, if all you want is a good fuck. The essay on how to find a woman who makes you happy is much longer, and much more difficult to follow...
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In order to avoid further labelling of "Hippie" (I shower), or Sampson (I am not that strong), I got a hair cut. It has been a few weeks since the change, but I have yet to get a good picture taken. If you wish to see it, I will send along a horrible cell-phone picture. Otherwise, you will all just have to wait.
And to those of you who think "Oh my god! Your hair was so beautiful! Why did you cut it??" Well, I still have the hair in a bag. It was going to be donated, but if it really means all that much to you, please send a SASE and I will let you keep it. And I won't even file a restraining order.
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Just a note to those of you who have decided to speak disservice to me because I'm young;
my age has little to do with how serious I am or how much I know. I am a learning Dominant, yes, but most of the top-tier Dominants I know still claim to be learning. I may sound like a cocky little shit sometimes, but that's just who I am. I am a Leo, and a Scandinavian. Arrogance is in my blood. To a certain Dom (not on Collarme) who thinks I am just a usurper because I, through nothing but actions and friendship, convinced your sub to leave you: she made the choice. You could not deal with someone who wasn't a robot or who had a shred of self-esteem, and I treated her like a human being. She's happier now with her new Dom and you are still a user.
That's it. I see a lot of rants on here, and thought I'd join in on the fun. Peace. |
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