Ive been really busy...as of late with thanksgiving in canada i had my mother come stay with Mr V and I (My husband) We had a really heart felt visit...it turned into moving her out of a 20 year marriage...!!! She has some really nice stuff i have to say some stuff that had me thinking some reallyt bad thoughts....(if my mother should die i want this and that) I think that's pretty naughty to be thinking that...she's only 50 lol After the Thanksgiving Drama, it was nice to have 1 day to spend with Mr V...it was a nice rest oh and we had a few new arivals first with the arrival of a baby chick (Turkey) who might just as well be our first baby Albino Cockatiel and then weeks later with arrival of a baby Shi-Poo (shih tzu-Poodle) who is exstreamly clever already working hard on her housebreaking and showing very promising results!!! So it;s been busy here !! I had a returning Client on the dog grooming too which was nice!! anyways im not getting any real results on here so i wonder weather i should contune to have a profile or not...! Hope everyone had a great thanksgiving!!!

D

Wow theirs some real assholes on line here and some real wanabes....especially those who start a message with "hello slut"....how dare you call someone you don't even know a title you haven't earned....! Respect is earned on BOTH sides...and speaking of respect i cannot believe some of the "men" who call them-selfs Dom's with comments like a sub or slave is simply a "object"....well you may feel this way BUT even so any object that is prized should be taken care of not mistreated....you wouldn't shit or piss on your fancy car or lead it out to your neighbors or mistreat it in a way that you wouldn't be able to use it again the following day.....a submissive is a "treasure" a REAL submissive one who gives herself to her Master (mind body and spirit) the real submissive not those who pick and choose when to be a sub and when not to be...how they want to act or when....REAL submissive who get joy out of pleasing ONE Dom! Just as a submissive or slave is special a true Dom who cares for his submissive is also special any true man who can take care of his most prized passions (her mind body and spirit) it takes a special man to do this and some do it naturally while others have to learn as they go...! Both roles are "special" in their own way..neither should be taken lightly! I just think that some of the people on here really are either "Drunk" with power and others just don't really know where they stand (as a Dom or sub) anyways just some food for thoughts hope everyone has a nice weekend

dannii

Not a very nice day outside..rainy and the dogs wish to stay indoors don't say i can blame them although i remember a few months back when i had my two friends over one of them was being a "pussy" and didn't want to get wet outside but me i was raised in the 80s during a time when my mother boyfriends (as always) didn't work a k, and mum was the only one working so we were pretty poor and had to make the most of our situation so anyways when i was little we were out in all of the different weather...in the most snowy days planning with our gt snow racers or our toboggans or we were out dancing and playing in the rain (in our bathing suites) (unlike children today) anyways back to the story my best friends husband didn't want to get wet....so I said if you go outside me and Jo-anne (my bff) will join you and come with you.....(giggles) so we went out with him and it started to really rain lol and i took it pone myself to start playing in the rain...I remembered all of those days as a little girl playing with my sisters....when it was poring out lol and I started to splashed jo-anne and then her husband joined us ...it was really alot of fun we were soaked by the end of it! But of course Mr V stayed inside lol I think what it is is once you have your own children you loose the "inner Child"....something clearly i have lots of!! lol My friends and I had so much fun out that whenever i see it rain i smile thinking of that day but i am also reminded of the fun my sisters and I had growing up here in Ontario canada....the mixed weather and that one doesn't need all the technology to have fun and its such a shame that children cannot have the same fun that we did the children of the 80s and before all of the computers,wiis and ps3's etc!

i finished 50 shades today...what a crappy ending to a crappy book way to predictible and vanilla for my liking.....if your into romantic boring pharmacy type erotic crap then these books will be great addtion to your collection lol! I think it was a waste of money and time! the first book was àlright the secound book getting worse and the third was lame!!! just my view! lol gald that i no longer have to subject myself to having to read the book anymore lol And I can decide if i wish to read somthing new or not you see i HATE long books lol i am not one to sit still although i do love this game called the sims!!!

Hello Viewers, I am writing My last Entry about "50 shades of Grey" I am on my FINAL book....I don;t want to spoil it for anyone who is either new to reading it or those who are with me on the final book but so much has happened and I have so many feelings about this book...it started out with "Oh this looks like a "Interesting and something I can FINALLY relate to book"....so I went in with everything i had really it took me like a week and i finished the FIRST book!! Then I had to wait a week for the next book and it drove me crazy!!! When I got the second book i got the third too...the second book....it was "Okay..." Do you ever notice how things seem so predictible...why is that?? I felt disappointed though because secretly I really don't like the lead characters "Ana Steel" she is bratty, unapeative and not the least bit submissive!! (In case you didn't know what 50 shades is about I will just give u a brief on it) it is about a guy Mr Grey a Multi millionaire who meets a college grade and they have a relationship and plenty of sex but various types of sex (in detail in the book) but what sets this book apart from any is the fact that their is talk about bdsm (which in MY opinion the author should have went into the community and RESEARCHED Little better) anyways thats what this book is about really is all the different ways they have sex! What caught my attention before reading was the bdsm bit....until all i could read was about all the sex and to me i find it HIGHLY boring...I don't see the real "Point" to reading about sex...i mean really....or maybe its just the 'Wording" that turns me off the book....??? anyways...the final book and I am anticipating "the END" the final...the end of having to deal with all the whining her rude comments about how this and that of bdsm activities are 'Fucked up, and so on...(the character Ana) I would love to see her character die personally or something really horrible happen to her but at this point its a bunch of romantic crap lol I realize that in REAL life that even for Masters and SUBS That WE Have our "vanilla" time too but this book was so dragging on and on and predictable I don't understand (apart from some of the taboo subjects) why it became a "bestseller" why some were so offend? But at least i can say i accomplished something i haven't been able to do for many many years read 3 books in 2 weeks....you see i have some real issues with sitting still and concentration and i did it!!! with all the churping and screaming going on in this house (the birds) and Ive managed to get threw these long predictable boring vanilla books lol

anyways hope everyone has a nice Thursday

dannii

11 years ago today we watched on televisions from our living rooms as the senseless act of murder happened before us.. the attacks on tower 1 and 2. (sitting in my bedroom on the telephone to my ex huband who was on England) i was just in total shock and wondering something kinda silly (if there was going to ever be able to fly again) I didn't see the first attack but I defiantly saw the second attack....! on CNN but their was no "obvious" reason for why this was happening they wouldn't even mention that it was a terrorist (although they did mention that someone has taken over the flight)  I don't know what was going threw the minds of those who were on the flight i cannot imagen...the terror,the sadness of knowing that this is going to be their "last" flight ever....!! The bravery of those who didn't put up with crap and decided to take on those terrorist was amazing!  Some back stories on this store was that they canceled ALL flights in the sky because of this and that We Canadians played a big part in helping Americans who were "stuck" with nowhere to go many of our maritime lent out their telephones and even lent out their homes for those who were stuck here....!! How kind?! Not just a few but THOUSANDS!! I also herd stories about the Er Staff and paramedics and along with firefighters where were working right outside of the twin towers trying to help those who had come out of them and they were so busy they didn't realize that the towers were about to colasps that when it did that this cause the Grey smoke some of them lost Their lives by saving others during this and many of those in the twin towers were also saving others lives and loosing theirs....it might have been a very very tragic day with the number of loss of life but what it did prove more then anything is that it doesn't matter who you are or where your from that there are people still out there who are will to save lives, even though they might loose their own for the life of someone eles life...(and we aren't just talking about all those brave services women and men) just Normal everyday people who were working in the Twin Towers (but also people coming from all over American AND Canada once they saw that help was needed) to help in whatever way possible)  We should try not to be too sad...but remember our loved once for the good memories that they brought us, and hold onto them....I wish all of those who have lost family and friend on this day alot of love and i have the atmost respect for the service people out there who risk their lives for the safety of others.

Well that's my Peace for today

Dannii

United we will stand (Canada and America) like a family!

Good Evening EVERYone...I'm feeling alittle better...althought Mr V isn't...well he's healthy BUT he is grieving the loss of his beloved Dodge pickup...who has long time been "dead" but Mr V has decide to sell it for part has gone tonight....! For Mr V I believe it was very hard to let go of the truck...i think for any man it's hard to let go of something you have had for 15 years...but it's different for women...although i have to admit even i was Little sad when "she" died a month ago i remember the day that Mr V picked me up 10 years ago...and brought me back to his place...and we "Fucked" for the first time....oh I have to tell you all I don;t really believe in "Making love" it's not my style.....I like to FUCK!!! I'm ALSO not into all that romantic stuff lol I'm sure for some it's weird I'm a women i should be some hopeless sap but i love crazy wall banging sex!! lol anyways the first night and we were at it going nuts....!!! it was awsome....not that, that has drooped off (our sex life) it's still amazing after all those years!!! i Guess I am mentioning this because so many couples over the years complain about their sex lives but ours is still great! So anyways back to the truck it has gotten us threw some really good and bad times! And now gone....! But we did get a really awesome van last month and i love it...why you ask? because i can admit that I am a "baby girl" and a van is very "family" like i also love the idea of getting my drivers license at some point and being able to pick up my nieces and take them out in it....!!! (sorry i shouldn't mention kids and adult related things in the same journal) But i am totally and utterly in love with "Bitzy" the Montana Van it's so big, so much space for shopping bags, family and maybe some role playing of abducting the baby girl (ie me?) heheheh -dannii

am I coming down with somthing? I feel like I am sick...I have a headach and a upset tummy and Im feeling hot and cold??? oh no is it flue season???? Will  I have to go into my bed and cuddle my teddy bears? I dont really want to sit here and watch crap car with Mr V.....Maybe some Kiddy Movies (My inner "Little" is coming out...or maybe I will read moRE of fifty shades darker (yesterday Mr V took me to get the other 2 books!!) Hurray lol I want to still slap the female lead (Miss Steel!!) I love cuddling in bed with my flannel pjs! and my teddies! HAHAHAH NASCAR IS DELAYED!! oh dinner is being cooked Ham & mash potatos and corn and gravy (I made it!!)  Welll Im sitting here on my laptop I better go check on dinner but i still feel sick....! Flu shots are just around the corner!!!! (Yuck!!)

What is your Ideas of what a Dom & sub are? I think they are different for everyone.... I've never really set down with a Dom to discuss these things (the X Master I had I think assumed that I knew everything although I think I did fairly well as a submissive) so Correct me if I am wrong (I've done most of my reading on line and no i didn't figure this out from the fifty shades book (and most of my learning as a submissive has been hands on a submissive roles:

-to please her Master (in all sense (sexually,mentally,emotionally"all ways")

-To know her "Hard & soft limits" (these should be discussed prior to any type of a serious relationship or any "contract"

-to know when to use the "safe word" (red light green light etc"

-to not "Question" her masters actions (because this is the part about trust which i think is "earned" on both sides/trust and respect!

-i Understand that I give over my self (mind body to the Dom)

-I know that with bad behavior i should expect repercussions for my actions

-for good behavior i dont expect to get rewards (although it would be nice!)

These are things that I have learned by doing actually not so much by talking about it I am not so sure if my previous Dom had my "Best interest at heart"....so in a sense even though i dont want to admit it perhaps I am starting out fresh myself...I should give Mr V a break....with the rules in mind i am starting out fresh....I just know what I WANT out of a Master..Ideals!!! I don't think their is anything wrong with that...!

dannii

rude messages....I am sure I have offended some of you by my "High standards" who what i consider a decent "Dom or Master" frankly I don't care!!! I am who I am and I like what i like.  If it offended you in any way shape or form I really don't care...!!!  that's really all i have to say for today! take me as i am like me for WHO I AM or dont ! i am not on here to win a popularity contest and also ! I may have spelling mistakes but thats not a MAJOR crime!!! ive seen worse stuff on here! all that matters is my husband loves me!!!

Doms doms and more doms lol

IN MY OPINIONS

(From serving)

I don't believe you are a Dom if

• You are asking for money from your sub (this is a PIMP!!)
• Your not a Dom if you are under 21 (i DON'T want to offend but I don't see how anyone in their 20's could have the experience to truly Dom someone any older then themselves and anyone under 20 would be "jail bait"
• If you DEMAND respect on line or in person before getting to know someone
• You are pushy with submissives whether it be online or not and you don't respect their limits..yes i understand that it's your job to "push them" but their are some things that subs will NEVER Do as there are some things Dom's will never do
• If you can't see yourself doing the things you do to your sub then you aren't a real DOM.... just an example......would you eat crap?? didn't think so!!!
• On that subject if you would "sell your sub out for money"...then your breaking the Sub and Master code" which is to "protect and cause no harm to your sub" (i GUESS i made you thin!!
• You try Doming a sub Online....even if they hav told you they don;t do that sort of them.....(sigh)
• You can't carry on a conversation without getting irritated very quickly (this shows me that you have a temper and that you do NOT have control over yourself therefore you wouldn't be able to have control over me the sub....!!!
• If you think you are ALWAYS right, even when you are wrong and cannot admit that.....(just because your a Dom doesn't make you right all of the time)
• IF you cannot show a REAL picture of yourself or live cam or video....then you could be ANYONE!

just SOME thoughts i have i don't mean to offend anyone but in my personal experience i have found these things to be true i personally prefer OLDER WISER DOMS...!

dannii

theirs some REAL scum on here....Doms who Cant be bothered to get off their asses and work asking for "Financial Slaves/Subs" don;t they realize that all they are is a Pimp??? That's disccusting!! Also Just because I am not willing to become your submsisive or slave dosen't make me a 'Fake" I have been ACTIVLY in the lifstyle since i was 18 although I havent had a Master since I was 19...I do know who to show respect for and who I don't have to show respect for! it isn't DEMANDED!!! especially not to someone you have just met online...! I cannot beleive some of your profiles...especially those of you choosing to show very "private" parts of your bodys I mean do you really think that we want to see that right off the bat? I realize this is an "adult site" but please leave somthing to our imagination, show alittle class, don't start a message with "hello slut" ! That's just disrespectfu! And you say that submissive are bad on here...the "wanabe Doms" are as bad if not worse". I'm sorry but you CANNOT expect respect if you cannot give it! just alittle advice!!

dannii

LOOKING at my first post ABOUT misbehaving it LOOKS like I was planning to Meet "Mr Grey...as Ive said there was a "thought" about it...Mainly because I feel somewhat traped at times....having a husband who isn't in the lifstyle who has very diffrent views of what is right what isnt can be very tricky for me. But We have been together for 10 years! Magically enough after our agrument and after he "found out" about my conversation with "Mr Grey" online ....He gave me some altamatives to consider as i tried to explain...I don't want to be without Mr "V" (mY hUSBAND) however I CANNOT deny who Iam... (a submissive) I had to make that clear to HIM...! I'm very lucky that He has said that he is 'Willing" to atleast "ttry" out the "Dom" "thing" as he has put it.....but I cannot teach him this i was under the impression you had it or you didn't ???? I thought this was somthing that one is born with???? Maybe not??? Maybe learn't for some??? Hmmm anyways to make a long story short after my naughtyness He beleived that he "punished" me althought being into pain lol was it really a punishment???? I think NOT!

I want to make things PERFECTLY CLEAR i NEVER cheated on MR V (IE MY HUSBAND) i was simply "waying" my options...chatting with doms...! this guy "Mr Grey" wanted to meet and i was "intrersted" but i wasnt meeting him (although Mr V (MY HUSBAND) WHO CAN be extreamly jealous and dosen't read between the lines thought that i was going to meet Mr-Grey (who i call all Doms) on here! I HAVENT met MR GREY....!!! Did I think about it was there the thought about meeting him??? Yes there was a thought there...when you are somthing that you cannot get out of you blood and you have to be somthing and you cannot be who you are it drives you nuts...!!!! I am and always will be a submissive...!!! NOTHING And no1 can change that!! My husband will have to adapt...! I guess i kinda deserved the whippings.....!!! Maybe more then i got....! But was it really much of a punishment if i liked it??? ,lol

dannii

Yesterday My husband found out about some of my chats ive been having with some of the Doms on here.....Not so good at all.....He wasn't impressed! He knows that I have an account on here and everything but he didnt know about some of you who ive got offley close with...one of you who i considered meeting today...although i think you were just a shit disturber and full of crap because i've not herd from you today at all or last night...!!! I don't think you considered what could have happened if we have met...I don't know if many of you do care to be honest...Yes i can't give you all the blame because i didnt have a gun to my head did i? But I've been feeling neglected by my husband...because I am a submissive and he hasn't really ever been into the lisftyle i mean he's tried it and he says in his own words "it dosent come naturelly to him"....He says its because of the way he was raised  "guys don't hit women" addtude...I'm MOST of us were raised this way thats domestic violence! But What about those of us who NEED pain in our lives????? It's just a part of us??? It is a fiber of our being!!! Those of us who have to submit as a part of WHO WE ARE!! Anyways...getting back to last night he confronted me about this guy I will call "Mr Grey" and he will know who I am on about because that's what i called him...lol Mr grey and I were Looking to meet...tommrow and Mr V (mY HUSBAND) So When he confronted me I broke down .,...! i SAID YOU just dont get it...for the past 10 years i have had to play this part of being somthing i am not not be somthing i am...he said "it's the book isnt it? (ie 50 shades of grey lol ) I said it isnt the "book" it's who i am the book made me realize that like Mr Grey in the book i CANNOT neglect who i am any longer I AM A SUBMISSIVE...that is WHO I AM!!! And he can either accept this (and maybe get somthing very good out of it or i really don't know where the future of Mr & Mr's) is going to go (and i didnt put it like that but he knows that) So He gave me a "altimative" lol saying that well you have 3 choices 1) you can be submissive for me (this should be intrersting 2) you can deny yourself who you are )(THIS ISNT HAPPENING ANYMORE) or 3) You can go be with MR grey or the Mr Grey's out there....! You all have to understand i have been with Mr V for 10 years.....!!! WHat a choice to make...I just wonder if he is going to keep up with his bargin....Can he be a Dom? is it possible to be somthing that dosent "come naturel" to you? Well after we spoke he had me bend over and he gave me 5 spankings with the crop and left a nice little red bottom on me and he said he "felt pretty good" But the big Question CAN he CONTUNE this what to me is a lifstyle what is it to him???? Stay tuned lol

Just finished the FIRST book of 50 shades...Why am i so outranged ? Because I have lived my life as a sub and I dont understand how Christgan puts up with Ana's crap!!! How can you tell your Dom over and over again that you refuse to do somthing without them ripping up the contracr and telling her to go F herself? Wait she didnt sighn it and she isnt even a a real submissive!!! I hate this novel because it makes bdsm look as though we are all perverted, abusers, we are sick and twisted!! From the eyes of someone who isnt into the lifstyle perphas but they just dont get it! If it's so horrible WHY do they contune to read about it???? After reading I also feel this real need to be submissive although it has never left it...hiding deep within you are either born with it or not...some Dom too! It screams out!!! Like the book I hate the book yet i need the secound and third addition! I hate that i cannot control this urdge to "please" others...when someone says "dannielle will you...." i say Yes sure! But then later go "No I can't belive i said yes!!!!! ahhhhh Damb you Submissive Dannielle!!!