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Female Submissive, 43, Los Angeles, California
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Female Submissive, 27, NY, New York
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About FemmeSensei
What am I looking for?
Fun. Aren't you?
Also,
A girl with the following demographics preferred (deviation is negotiable):
Age: 25-33
Height: 5'2" to 5'6"
Weight: Proportionate, but around 125.
Lesbian (bisexual negotiable), tom-boy with a femme side is ideal.
What do I feel is "fun"?
Fun is having the opportunity to crawl inside your heart, your body, and your mind, and do what I want inside you. I act in the girl's best interests: I'm interested in empowerment, achievement, and positivity. I want to be in your head and your pulse, I want to make a nest there, and always be in your thoughts. I want you to feel like you're floating and wisps of memory or a call from me makes you smile. I want you to reach new places, expand boundaries, and live on the edge. To me that is fun.
What does this mean for me as a domme?
I don't take power but I deftly weild the power you surrender to me. I have no desire to "break you". It means I don't like humiliation. I'm not interested in fear; I find it to be a very poor motivator. If you do not wish to have a future you will bore me. It means pain is a tool but not a pursuit and it also makes for a very poor deterrent or motivator so I would like to avoid it as a punishment. More than a domme I'm a teacher and if you don't pick up the lessons or adapt, grow, and learn I'll find it very frustrating. I am not a micromanager and if you cannot dress yourself please figure it out and get back to me. As such the classical description of a slave does not interest me but ownership still does...there's a loyalty much deeper than slavery. If that concept makes any sense to you then we have something to talk about. If you expect me to be perfect, or feel that I'm perfect, I'm afraid that is not realistic. If you wish to be in an environment with no leighway for failure or you wish to constantly push boundaries and "get in trouble" please move on. I am not a fan of drama.
What would life look like?
"Normal" with a whole lot of kink, intensity, passion, and hopefully smiling. I'm assertive, I'm domme, and I'm confident. You being less so does not make me feel better, superior, or important. Having energy, confidence, independence, intelligence, a desire to do well, ambition and strength are key attributes I look for in any person, much less my girl, and if you don't have them I will try to build them or discover them within you. If they're not there it may be problematic.
I am looking for a partner that can stand beside me and society may never know that she also happens to kneel, surrender to me, sacrifice for me, answer to me, and is open to me crawling inside her (in more than one way).
I am more than happy to talk on the phone as soon as I chat with you and I can even jump on a web camera to verify whatever.
Oh, and sorry guys -- I'm lesbian, and however much you may feel this describes you your mail gets instantly filtered to the "bulk" folder based on CollarMe settings and I will never read your mail and you will never hear from me.
If you're still reading we could probably have a fun conversation even if you don't agree with what I've said. I have a girl I am considering who I have long felt could be perfect for me. She still has a lot to prove though. |
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This weekend I had the opportunity to see Great Cats with trainers and the most interesting comment came out about a Tiger cub (that happened to be about 3.5 feet at the shoulders and at one year, already weighed 600 pounds). The trainer said "we have a reward system to train them. There isn't a lot of things you can do to discipline a 600 pound powerful creature like this". He went on to indicate that the trainer learns the tiger while the tiger learns the trainer, they create a relationship, and it's based off rewards, not negativity of any kind. The most important part was the disposition of the tiger.
It resonated D/S to me, and specifically about a topic so few seem to understand. Why beat someone into submission? Why hold them down and crush them? Oppress them and use negativity? A relationship where we understand each other and is based on a reward for service arrangement would be perfect. Why can so few see this? I want a tiger, strong, lively, fully clawed. Why would I want to beat a tiger into a demoralized kitten? I like to reward, learn someone, just as they learn me, and if my tiger's disposition is right we can both win. |
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It seems many believe being dominant requires expressing anger, arrogance, or other negative emotions...
Are there any looking for a domme focused on positive? Not looking to demean or break or oppress...but rather nurturing, teaching, guiding, loving, protecting, fun, and compassionate person? |
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I am again reminded that there are a few real people lurking out in CollarMe land whose lives can be so much better with a supportive, positive lifestyle relationship that's done "right". I find that really inspirational. |
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