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What you permit, you promote. First things first.
Your ass is mine. Literally. Figuratively. If you forget, I'll remind you. If you don't forget I'll remind you anyways. Mine. Bound by words or by ropes or technologically, but helplessly bound to me. I am not looking for a play partner, I am looking for a slave with whom I would like to play. That means I need a reason to like you and ideally even more over time. I'm attracted to the strong intelligent man who has found his submission to be an erotic road to intimacy as well as freedom. Merely having an oral fixation is not what this is about. nor is it about whether you get off on restraints or chastity or cbt, but rather that you get off on the servitude in the big picture. Servitude in which you endure these and more for me, where ultimately the connection is so strong the servitude itself is its own reward. I am soft on the outside, titanium on the inside. On occasion, the other way around -- no I am NOT a switch. I am a sadist, but bear no malice. I am nurturing and provide a safe haven for sharing all your desires and your fears, particularly those which are one and the same. Robandjill, and Namio (remember it's art; hygiene matters and if you're looking for scat look elsewhere), they should be at least interesting if not very appealing to you. I find them fun, and if the connection is right the intensity and intimacy is indescribable. CBT, OTK and any of a variety of measures which make you squirm, jump, or gasp or moan have their place of course. And let's not forget the fun we can have with chastity...... Fun in their own right and tools for me for use and abuse...... Short tempers, narrow mindedness, emotional blackmail and the like won't be tolerated. I'm not talking about mere punishment; I'm talking about banishment. You need to be a class act as a person; how you treat the busboy matters. A lot. Mistakes are not a problem; I know how to handle those easily enough. But character flaws, offensive or boorish personality traits point to the door with a "thanks but no thanks", do not pass go, do not collect $200.00. Know now that should you demonstrate a lack of character or integrity, we are done. I consistently give the benefit of the doubt and trust until I have reason not to -- you should be the same. I am strict about conduct. But who you are as a man, your character, is what differentiates a keeper, from yet another disappointment (think: Amanda Priestley). Be my age. Be single. Be local. Non-negotiable. Unless you're a big guy, I probably outweigh you. I'm also fairly strong and I'll use that to my advantage, or rather, I'll use it to your disadvantage. As for Female Superiority: Do I believe that females are superior? That's irrelevant; if we are in a relationship, I am your superior and that's all that matters. That's what defines a hierarchy, and d/s if nothing else, is about a hierarchy. In this case, it's loving female authority. It's not about "better than". Besides, there are women whom I wouldn't trust with the care of a goldfish. There are men in that category too, and it has nothing to do with the presence or absence of a penis or vagina and everything to do with integrity, behavior and competence. Demonstrative worship is a big part of this, as is anything which enhances your submission. There are any number of psychological mechanisms as well as physical tools which I will exploit to make you mine. I want to make you tremble, wince, moan, laugh, gasp. I want to see your eyes glaze over in sub space. your pupils dilate when you see what's coming next. I want to see you accept inevitability, embrace the reality that I have become your world and immerse yourself in that. I want you to demonstrate your devotion through sacrifice of mind body and soul..... This is not Old Guard. This is not sugar and spice tap and tickle. It is just my way. Spelling and grammar matter. If it's not important to you, then your message will not be important to me. Let me give you an example of why it matters: It's the difference between: You know your shit and You know you're shit. Now tell me how apostrophes don't matter and using "ur" will suffice.

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11/7/2016 5:08:08 AM
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12/24/2015 6:21:55 AM
Had I claimed you as mine, this would be a Christmas you'd not soon forget.

7/26/2015 5:06:28 AM
The slave is responsible for service.
The Dominant is responsible for the relationship.

There is a difference between a failed relationship and one that has simply run its course.

5/17/2015 12:32:04 PM

 

1.) “Skills can be taught. Character you either have or you don't have.” 

2.) “If you’re twenty-two, physically fit, hungry to learn and be better, I urge you to travel – as far and as widely as possible. Sleep on floors if you have to. Find out how other people live and eat and cook. Learn from them – wherever you go.” 

3.) “Don't lie about it. You made a mistake. Admit it and move on. Just don't do it again. Ever” 

4.) "What nicer thing can you do for somebody than make them breakfast?"

5.) “Travel changes you. As you move through this life and this world you change things slightly, you leave marks behind, however small. And in return, life - and travel - leaves marks on you. Most of the time, those marks - on your body or on your heart - are beautiful. Often, though, they hurt.” 

6.) "You learn a lot about someone when you share a meal together."

7.) “Your body is not a temple, it's an amusement park. Enjoy the ride.” 

8.) “Maybe that’s enlightenment enough: to know that there is no final resting place of the mind; no moment of smug clarity. Perhaps wisdom...is realizing how small I am, and unwise, and how far I have yet to go."

9.) “I don't have to agree with you to like you or respect you.” 

10.) “Good food is very often, even most often, simple food.” 

11.) “We know, for instance, that there is a direct, inverse relationship between frequency of family meals and social problems. Bluntly stated, members of families who eat together regularly are statistically less likely to stick up liquor stores, blow up meth labs, give birth to crack babies, commit suicide, or make donkey porn. If Little Timmy had just had more meatloaf, he might not have grown up to fill chest freezers with Cub Scout parts.” 

12.) "Open your mind, get up off the couch, move.” 

13.) “Luck is not a business model.” 

14.) “There’s something wonderful about drinking in the afternoon. A not-too-cold pint, absolutely alone at the bar – even in this fake-ass Irish pub.” 

15.) “Under 'Reasons for Leaving Last Job', never give the real reason, unless it's money or ambition.” 

16.) “It’s very rarely a good career move to have a conscience.” 

17.) “The way you make an omelet reveals your character.” 

18.) “Context and memory play powerful roles in all the truly great meals in one’s life.” 

19.) “Good food and good eating are about risk.” 

20.) "They're professionals at this in Russia, so no matter how many Jell-O shots or Jager shooters you might have downed at college mixers, no matter how good a drinker you might think you are, don't forget that the Russians - any Russian - can drink you under the table.” 

21.) “If you look someone in the eye and call them a ‘fat, worthless, syphilitic puddle of badger crap’ it doesn’t mean you don’t like them. It can be – and often is – a term of endearment.” 

22.) “Without new ideas success can become stale.” 

23.) “But I do think the idea that basic cooking skills are a virtue, that the ability to feed yourself and a few others with proficiency should be taught to every young man and woman as a fundamental skill, should become as vital to growing up as learning to wipe one’s own ass, cross the street by oneself, or be trusted with money.”

Anthony Bourdain 2015


1/14/2015 2:48:47 PM
Evasiveness = red flag

No matter what side of the kneel you're on, caveat emptor. Particularly when it happens in the most vanilla of contexts.

Say g'nite gracie.


1/1/2014 4:46:38 AM

Baring your soul, being willing to just try to bare your soul. Being naked while dressed.


That's submission.



12/30/2013 4:38:29 PM

Intimacy: The act of connecting with someone so deeply, you feel like you can see into their soul. 

 

 


12/29/2013 9:50:58 AM

Beef tenderloin and a roasted vegetable gratin for friends last night. (came out picture perfect ---whew---) Four loaves of home made crusty bread today. It would be so nice to have someone wearing just an apron (and some dangling attachments) do the clean up.

 

I think I'm getting a bit of the Christmas spirit now that Christmas is done.  I was rather bah-humbugish earlier ... and no one to take it out on!. 

 

Good scapegoats are SO hard to come by.

 


12/22/2013 8:21:59 AM

When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.

--Wayne Dyer


12/22/2013 7:45:49 AM

Ringling Nutcracker; delightful performance by the Sarasota Ballet. Remarkably engaging and they are so polished.... Very creative and entertaining. The zebras prancing around gave me a finer appreciation for pony play. Not a kink of mine but it was a pleasure to watch those lads in their leotards under the crack of a whip and a crop.

 

I love this town.  All the amenities of a thriving metropolis without the congestion or industry.


10/2/2013 4:12:52 AM
What an amazing sunrise. Life is good.

8/5/2013 1:19:55 PM

Coming back from Costco to elevators that don't work in 90 degree weather does not make me happy.


7/7/2013 7:10:59 AM

Another year older... tick tock tick tock.  I've never really given much thought to birthdays or aging, but now that I am undeniably closer to 60 than 50.... that's a bit of a head bender. Not at all afraid of dying --and in fact it's preferable to outliving everyone you love-- but the process is on my mind occasionally.

Fascinating. (where's Spock when you need him?)


5/31/2013 7:22:42 PM

I forgot I had written that last entry and how I can taste the irony now.  Unintentional foreshadowing.. what a shame.


5/9/2013 4:34:34 AM

It's remarkable to me that the simplest of requests are blown off or ignored. That said it's certainly good information to have; after all if compliance out of courtesy is too much to ask for there's no point moving on from there.


12/6/2012 8:03:24 AM

The problem with the world is that the intelligent people are full of doubt and the stupid ones are full of confidence.

--George Takei


11/27/2012 5:00:43 AM

What you permit, you promote.


10/25/2012 8:26:57 AM

Politics matter to a certain extent. After all,Matalan and Carville make it work.

But if there's an ounce of racism or bigotry, or if you get your info from anonymous emails which do nothing but incite fear and anger, let me tell you now:

this ain't gonna work.  Do not pass go, do not collect $200.00.


9/26/2012 8:00:32 AM

September is being such a slow month, and good scapegoats are SO hard to come by.

 

:::::sigh::::

 


9/16/2012 10:42:34 AM

You really must breathe darling, otherwise how will you thank me and beg for more?


9/12/2012 2:37:45 PM

Risotto  con funghi, a drizzle of truffle oil and a a sprinkle of pecorino

 

yum

 

 


8/21/2012 7:18:54 PM

Andrea Bocelli and Tony Bennett duets on Great Performances. PBS is your friend.


8/15/2012 4:03:11 PM

History:

It should make one better, not bitter.


8/1/2012 12:29:24 PM

Adam was not alone in the Garden of Eden, however, and does not deserve all the credit; much is due to Eve, the first woman, and Satan, the first consultant.
- Notebook, 1867

Wheresoever she was, there was Eden.
- "Adam's Diary"

After all these years, I see that I was mistaken about Eve in the beginning; it is better to live outside the Garden with her than inside it without her....I should be sorry to have that voice fall silent and pass out of my life.
- "Adam's Diary"

Adam was but human--this explains it all. He did not want the apple for the apple's sake, he wanted it only because it was forbidden. The mistake was in not forbidding the serpent; then he would have eaten the serpent.
- Pudd'nhead Wilson



gotta love Mark Twain....


7/24/2012 6:34:33 PM

http://stoiss.blogspot.com/2006/12/all-credit-goes-to-erotichumilliation.html

That sums up prostate massage/milking rather well :D

 


7/24/2012 3:59:15 AM

grrrr.. just found some dominant fellow plagiarizing me.

NOT happy

However, there is some satisfaction to be had at the prospect of his humiliation once his  Roxanne catches on. This is known as "incidental learning" btw. Not a planned aspect of one's education, but quite valuable nonetheless. And if she doesn't catch on, then they deserve each other.

Yes, I have messaged this fellow. I'll be curious to see if he can man up and do the right thing. 

Integrity is such a foreign concept these days. Seems like a boy needs to have it beaten into him.

 


7/23/2012 4:19:22 PM

 

Just breathe darling. No it won't make  you more comfortable, but you'll take all the fun out of this if you faint. And then we'd just have to start all over again.

On second thought, feel free to hold your breath after all.

 

 


7/23/2012 4:17:35 PM

Up north, the weather makes cheeks nice and rosy.  Here in the south, I consider that my job.      }:D

One end from embarrassment, and the other end from contact sports. Did I mention how very fond I am of contact sports?

Intimate.  Intense. Invasive. How yummy!


7/5/2012 4:04:55 PM

"No no. That wasn't a question." Miranda Priestly. The Devil Wears Prada


7/5/2012 9:10:33 AM

Common courtesy, like common sense, is all too uncommon sadly enough.


6/30/2012 5:13:46 AM

I say. You do. Any questions?


6/25/2012 4:27:59 AM
After creating women, God promised all men that good and obedient wives would be found in all corners of the world.
And then God smiled and made the earth round.

6/24/2012 2:23:52 AM

oh that delicately fine line between anticipation, and apprehension!


6/23/2012 6:53:32 AM


Thou art to me a delicious torment ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

Submission is not about being used, submission is about being of use. Submission is not thinking less of yourself, submission is thinking of yourself less. Submission is not about what is done to you, submission is what you can do for others ~ Unknown

Most welcome, bondage, for thou art a way, I think, to liberty ~ William Shakespeare


6/20/2012 12:17:36 PM

Spelling counts, and so does grammar. 

 

Words, and how they are used, matter.


6/11/2012 6:47:11 AM

Can I play the bitch? Oh my yes.. but.. keyword: play. When we play, the relationship goes into another zone. An intricate intimate dance.

 

But.. I do not suffer fools or fakes. If you come to please, then you need to do so. However if you are looking for unrelenting cruelty, if you are a do-me-sub, or a high maintenance painslut looking for more and more tissue damage, keep looking because you won't find it here.

 

torment? . well... perhaps we can talk ;)

 

actually, when it comes to torment, we'll do more than just "talk".


6/11/2012 6:34:10 AM

I am looking for someone my age or older. I am looking for someone local.

 

I will not be responsible for someone uprooting their life, only to find that we're not compatible on a day to day basis. I want someone I can see on relatively short notice.

 

I am not not looking for a live-in companion nor a roommate, nor spouse. I know better than to say "never", and the hallmark side of me loves the idea of riding off into the sunset....

 

but.. I am a realist at heart.  (no oxymoron there, huh?). I just don't see it happening.


6/10/2012 7:40:22 AM

I know some truly superior women, and some truly superior men. It has nothing to do with whether they're involved in a hierarchical intimate relationship or not and everything to do with character.

However, I love being treated "as if" I were superior. That's great fun in the bedroom (and elsewhere). It's hot.. keeps the adrenaline flowing and arousal high.

But I REALLY love being appreciated for who I truly am.. and I'm betting you do too. I really appreciate submission, service.. I think it's wonderful that you get off on it. I love to reward it.... assuming it's done well. So the question is whether our kinks match and whether we really like other.

I'm not pinning anyone to a butterfly board, I'm not going to do scat, I'm not going to cuckold anyone.

I will gladly make you squirm, flinch, moan, beg, cry out, laugh, struggle, curse, make you nervous, make your heart pound... and who knows what else.  The intensity of that has to be a level at which both of us are basically comfortable. I want to take you into subspace, and then be there for the aftercare.

I want to like hanging out with you.. being vanilla in public.

And.. I  call the shots because I'm good at it.  I'm fair, astute, and even in negotiations someone has to have final say.


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 Submissive, Age:  26
 Houston, Texas
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