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1/16/2010 10:56:12 AM
IF you talk the talk then walk the walk....alot of BS on here

6/9/2009 1:29:56 PM
Bought a Sybian to add to the Dungeon,,,,,Now that makes the 8th station....smiles

5/16/2009 12:44:02 PM
From the profile of brokendove that I beleive ALL needs to see

A Man who displays sensitivity will be a Master who is sensitive to you.
A Man who displays humility will be a Master who will show you respect.
A Man who is not afraid to cry will be a Master who understands your tears.
A Man who is quiet will be a Master who will hear your quietest whisper,
A Man who knows fear will be a Master who will not leave you to face yours alone.
A Man who will listen to a child will be a Master who will always work to understand your words.
A Man who can stand alone will be a Master who will not crush you under His weight.
A Man who controls Himself with ease will be a Master with the ability to control you in the same way.
A Man who does not have to prove His point will be a Master with many worthwhile points to share.
A Man who never makes demands will be a Master who treasures anything you give.
A Man who doesn't run after you will be a Master you will never need to run away from.
A Man who is calm will be a Master who can weather your storms.
A Man who has walked the path to peace will be a Master able to guide you along that path.
A Man who does not shout will be a Master who will never deafen you.
A Man who knows Himself will be a Master who will have time to know you.
A Man with an open mind will be a Master who never stops learning.
A Man who never stops learning will be a Master who never stops growing.
A Man who always seeks to be the best He can be for you is the only Man truly worthy of being called your Master.


8/6/2008 12:09:54 PM

Seen this on anothers profile and thought that it REALLY needs to be seen


"Approaching a Prospective sub"  
 

Reposted by request: Article I wrote for another site. 

I am Sir Joe. I have been on this site for a about a year or so now, and I have had several conversations with multiple submissives.  The one thing that they all have in common is the incredible exasperation and frustration they feel regarding the emails and IM's they get from male Dominants.

(I am directing my comments to Male Dom's, not Domme's the rules are somewhat different for Domme's, and my comments here only generally apply you.)

Gentelmen, this is after all a fetish website, BUT, if you are really the Dominant you claim to be, and a member of the lifestyle that promotes "Safe", "Sane", and "Consensual" or the more aptly, RACK (risk aware consensual kink) then how is it that so many of you begin an introductory email or instant message with commands you have not been given consent to make?

Hi I'm Dom (whoever) now, "On your knees bitch!" or "I want to stick my dick in your ass!" or my personal favorite "Be a good whore, and reply to me NOW!" are not the kind of phrases that any woman, sub or not will respond to. So Stop It!

Just because she is a submissive does not mean she is (or ever will be) submissive to you.

I have been in this lifestyle for over 8 years, and I have met every woman I have dated since 2000 (including my last wife) online. Why, because no matter who I am talking to I offer her the same respect I want for myself.


You would no more walk up to a woman at the Mall, and tell her to get on her knees, how  can you assume that this will be a winning strategy here? Is it because this is a fetish site? Poor assumption, if that's what your thinking.

This is a lifestyle based entirely on trust! Who in their right mind would trust you if your first comment was so derogitory that it was  offensive. Don't get me wrong, in a scene,
when consent has been gven, you can talk to your sub in whatever way turns you or her on. However, do you expect to get to a point where your having a real time encounter with a sub, if you are so blunt and disrespectful in your initial introduction?  Or even before you have established a basis for that kind of discussion, or email.

Like I said, I have been on (this site) now for a while (this time, 2 years the last time) and recently, I have met several women in person, and am chatting with others, whom I expect to meet, (in search of that one perfect slave for my household that is the counter-balance to my Dominance.) and there is no doubt that in their minds, or fanny's for that matter that I am Dominant. But I didn't make any overtly sexual or BDSM related comments in my initial introduction. WHY? Because when it comes to female submissives, they are not about to offer trust, or themselves to anyone who can't even respect them enough to introduce themselves in non threatening manner.

It doesn't matter if the sub has said, "write
me, and tell me what you violent degrading things you want to do to me." why, because unless your writing a letter just to get her off, then odds are your not going to be anything
more than the sender of a dirty letter. If you really want to meet her and do those things, you need to understand TRUST! It might work occasionally (1/10, 000) but that is pretty
poor odds. and it will be (0/1, 000, 000) if it is a newbie or novice sub, who is nervous to begin with.

If you can't make a vanilla (I use the word to make my point clear) introduction of yourself to a female submissive, and establish that your not some wack job or psycopath, then don't write them at all. It is the conclusion of
those of us truely in the lifestyle, that anyone who can't see the reality of trust and consent in the process is nothing more than a wanna-be, who is making the rest of us look bad.

(Funny the ones who really need to read this probably don't read the articles...)

I am personally offended by any man that has no other articulate way to introduce himself to a woman than to say, "get  on your knees bitch!".


If that is your standard introduction grow up. If your offended by what I've said, then you're exactly who I am talking about and guilty of being an ass-hole. 

DOM doesn't mean DICK. If you can't be Dominant, or assertive without being a dickhead, turn off your computer, jack off an go to sleep, because in the end, that is all your going to be doing anyway.

I am Sir_Joe (sir_joe_1211) I am the active in the real scene and vice president of IMAs (Indiana masters and  slaves/ submissives/ switches) and I am a real Dom seeking exactly what I stated in my profile - and if you have any comments feel free to let me know. But
know this, I am right. Ultimately, respect and trust, will be the only way you get the  consent you need have a real life encounter with a sub. 
 
Sincerely,

Sir Joe


 


9/11/2007 10:08:02 AM
Tell me your darkest Desire and I will show you my Den.... 

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