DsKnightDreams


	DsKnight Male Dominant, 65, Boston Area, Massachusetts

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About DsKnightDreams

Full disclosure: understand I am a couple - and if you're an attractive sensual submissive/switch female - she may also enjoy dominating you (and beware, she is a gorgeous, highly erotic, and multi-orgasmic female!! :-) ....

....so feel free to read on....

Passionate, Intense, Bohemian, Renaissance, Dominant (divorced) Alpha Male ............ who is in-touch and articulate, young & active, mature & stable, athletic and intellectual, loving, caring, divorced. I'm open to friendship, fun, companionship (and yes, I'm open to a serious relationship too should that come along) with an interesting open-minded female partner who has a fascinating imagination. It doesn't matter whether you're submissive, switch, or dominant, just understand I'm solely dominant. You'll also care about yourself inside and out, and it shows in your athletic, slender self, as it shows in me, too. Let's start slowly with writing, talking, then meeting casually and talking over coffee-lunch-dinner. Read on.....

Among many things, I'm also a Daddy type, yes, but my interests extend to far more than just lifestyle activities and mindsets. I'm also interested in sharing normal everyday-type life experiences, too. I prefer a gal that is strong, capable and independent in her own right, with goals and ambitions. (A door-mat without independent thought and ability doesn't interest me.)

Still with me? Hmmm.... perhaps you are an interested intellectual, or you're simply masochistic? ;) Most will be bored to death long before the end of this. One might think I even planned it that way ;)....... Food for thought: If you're not interested in getting to know the (whole) real me, why do you think I'd be interested in getting to know or care about the real you? Hmmm? Ok, on we go...

Soooo ..... obviously I am NOT your typical hunter! In fact, I talk primarily about NON-BDSM things!! Why?
A. Because there's a checklist you can read for that sort of thing, or you can ask, and more importantly,
B. Because I'm interested in a woman with far more to offer than just her bedroom presence!, and
C. Because I want the whole package!! Intellect! Wit! Humor! Open-Mindedness! Youth! Maturity! Inner AND Outer Beauty! Slender! Athletic! AND ultimately an ability and desire to share all that life offers!
D. Because I'm a serious yet very playful bdsm-lifestyle aficianado, known in real life to many in the community as a talented and intense Dominant, and with references available for anyone needing assurances.

Forging ahead....

I'm multi-hued and multi-faceted. I can be laid back or over the top, relaxed or active, flexible or not, well reasoned or unrealistic. Aren't we all a mixture of different things at different times? In other words, I'm human. I own my own business and work a lot, but I also make time for play. I've as disjointed a family as most divorced people, but I make efforts for relationship. I'm a loving (though not perfect) Dad to my 2 beautiful daughters.

I'm open to genuine friendship, exploring and investigating life's journey fully - passionately, mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually. I'm not interested in stale stereotypes, false facades, or mass mindsets. We're singular unique individuals, no two alike, and this is best celebrated, not feared. (By the way, you've just read the secret to both personal and world peace.) I like fun and lightness and laughter. I also like deep and serious and philosophic. I like (love) life and me.

I like many kinds of activities, having enjoyed different ones at various times in my life, and I'm always open to learning new ones. Sports-wise I like to be active and currently am most often involved in volleyball, horseback riding, and skiing (usually at Snowshoe where I have 2 units). I've also enjoyed biking, boating, snorkeling, scuba, body surfing, and anything beach, also tennis/racquet sports, golf, even billiards and bowling. I've even started yoga class (as much for the mental as physical). I'm more active than most 40 year olds, listed at 48, actually now 51, and still open to learning most any other new activity as well. What do you enjoy?

Culturally, I love going to museums and art shows, Broadway and other theatre, concerts and the like. As an asset advisor (appraiser-auctioneer, with my own company), I'm usually involved in several charity events a year, and I'm comfortable in black tie or denim, and can have fun whether at a formal event or the most colorful local haunt. I've enjoyed business and pleasure travel over the years, having spent time in Europe, the Far East, the Caribbean, and a good many places in this country. There's lots more I want to see and visit.

I'm interested in 50/50, with both giving 100%, whether we're talking about fun or something more serious and long term. If your vanity or insecurity requires that you be 'hunted' (with the guy having to take most all of the steps, do the majority of the calling, visiting, etc), please pass me by. I'm truly looking for an evolved, genuinely adult woman (regardless of her age) capable of giving as much as she's getting in/from relationship, where both parties are willing to contribute and invest relatively equal effort, with both willing to take steps towards each other. I've been in relationships where one or the other party was required to make the majority of the effort, and ultimately that's simply not a well balanced relationship. (Hey, it's only taken me years of therapy to figure this out! Yes even I CAN learn new tricks! WooHoo! :)

I believe a (good) relationship takes work, yet is very worthwhile. I don't believe in 'love at first sight'. I do believe in attraction, lust, interest, intrigue at first sight, but not 'love'. I define (adult) love as two people enjoying each other, working on the kinks with each other, and committing to not losing self in the process. That's certainly not to say people can't also have lots of spontaneous fun and play along the way!

Honesty in communication with self and with your partner is of paramount importance (and rarely truly achieved, by the way). I'm complete (though I don't always accept that). You're complete, too (whether you've arrived at that understanding or not). Together we can continue to be two learning, growing, aware individuals that compliment each other but don't overtake each other, and if desired can share life together without having to be clones of each other.

Picture note: As of Feb-07, my face is clean-shaven. No more moustache/goatee.

Personal note: I'm a non-smoker, and prefer the same. (Trying to quit is fine, as long as my help is appreciated, not aggravating.)

PS. I don't consider a brief flirtation or hello to be lazy or disingenuous. It's simply a respectful, non-intrusive indication of initial interest. Feel free to contact and I'll write back.

PPS. Long distances make getting to know each other MUCH tougher. Please consider this choice carefully. True relating takes considerable real life face-to-face time.
Ready to say hello?

PPSS. Now, this being an alternative personal relationship site, I add an obvious footnote: Intimacy is NOT a taboo subject in my book, My intimate world is at times VERY intense, unique, erotic, alternative, occasionally even to the extreme. Why haven't I dwelt more on it here? Because as previously mentioned I think there's more to my life than just BDSM, though it may be an ever present undercurrent even in many otherwise vanilla situations. I am multi-dimensional. I want you to be as well. (See checklists for more specific info, or ask me questions.)

for fun:

Sports: Richmond Volleyball Club, horseback riding, skiing-snow & water, scuba diving, biking, tennis, more. Social: Travel, NYC theater, movies, concerts-music, events. I love going out, staying in, spending time together, PDAs.

my job:

Asset Advisor, with a successful business for 20yrs; Certified Appraiser and Licensed Auctioneer, specializing in Estate Assets, Commercial Assets, and Real Estate. Also presently involved in real estate development & historic renovations.

my ethnicity:

One's ethnicity, in my view, is yet another point of beauty, like eye or hair color, as diversity makes the world interesting and worthwhile. (I've a problem with those who think one ethnicity should in any way trump another. Ditto religion.)

my religion

Very open minded spiritually with a "live and let live" approach, acknowledging a power greater than ourselves and grateful for it, not bogged down in any particular dogmatic persuasion.

my education

Got married in teens, started career, then award winning businesses; so school wasn't important to me back then. I feel differently today and can't imagine not having gone through college for the experience. I am relishing in my daughters doing so.

favorite hot spots:

Havana59, Byrd Theatre, Sticky Rice, Richmond Volleyball Club, Private Clubs, Bogarts-Jazz (catch a Roger Carroll night!), Horse shows (Western&English), Snowshoe-skiing, Caribbean-any beach, NYC-Broadway, DC-museums, new & fun things/places

favorite things:

Food? Most anything. Color? Numerous. Movies? Well, 9 1/2 Weeks & Secretary are obvious personal hints, given my presence here on collarme. Books? (laugh if you want): "Finding Meaning In The Second Half Of Life" by James Hollis PhD (A Jungian Therapist)

last read:

Usually too busy living life (incl 2 major renovations) for much reading, but mentioned a fav book by Hollis. I'm a fan of Jungian therapy and finding our fullest most complete whole sense of individual self. Hendrix's Imago couples dialog too.

wow!

Did you really make it this far??? Then you MUST be a masochist! How deliciously interesting! ;) I look forward to hearing from you!

Merry Christmas & Happy Holidays to all !!

Today's Rant: BDSM Experience means real life face-to-face time spent interacting and engaged in real life bdsm situations together (where you can see, hear, feel, touch, smell and/or taste ...... and respond to each other)!!

Online / on phone 'play' does NOT count as bdsm experience!! That is merely active imagination put to some use (yes, even if you're actually tying yourself up or spanking yourself!).

Now back to your regularly scheduled perving.

Happy Thanksgiving!! :-)

The Myth of the Mystical Magical Other: We spend the first half of our life searching for (or believing we have found) this mystical, magical other.... only to reach the second half of life and finally discover t'was but a myth, and in reality t'is the search for connection to self. Ah, life... she is a teacher with a sense of humor. :-)
(The good news for all of us is, it's never too late to learn!)

Had front row seats at Jersey Boys on Broadway Saturday night... fabulous show, what a blast!! (The lead does Frankie Valli better than Frankie himself!)

Looking forward to heading to NYC tomorrow, and hitting another Broadway show Sat night (Jersey Boys)! :-)

LOL... Good grief!... I even dreamed about singletailing last night! Psyche trying to tell me something? I'm thinking I need to start attending events more again! ;-)

Had fun conducting the kinky fund raising auction for charity tonight. (Even introduced someone to her 1st singletail scene, of which she's now a fan!.... always fun to take someone's cherry! ;-)

Looking forward to the Richmond Release Party and Charity Fund Raising Auction I'll be conducting this weekend. (An auctioneer's 'work' is never done, selling tops and bottoms and toys, oh my! ;-) See Release group on the fet site (fet about life) for more info.... and make plans to attend! :-)

Are you destined to walk with me, kneel for me, enjoy life with me? Are you destined to feel your hair tugged by me, your ass spanked and taken by me, your attentions given to me even as my attentions are given to you? Time will tell, babygirl....

Daddy

People are wonderfully interesting! I can enjoy lots of different people, on lots of different levels, lots of different ways. Friendships (including loving ones, possibly even including friends with benefits) are important for us all to have, and I welcome creating those - in real life, of course. Cyber doesn't interest me. We can talk here, exchange a few emails and phone calls, then make arrangements to meet and see what the real chemistry is like, which in my view can only really be assessed face-to-face. Worst case scenario - a respectful friendship is formed.

And please let me also be clear: When it comes to a potential life partner or significant other, I appreciate a gal with both an attractive strong mind AND an active fit body. We should both be actively caring for our wellness mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally. I am attractive, active and slim, intelligent and thoughtful, and like my life partner gal to be, also. No, I don't see that as shallow and I've no apologies for being me and knowing what I like. If you see this as a problem, I wish you the best in dealing with your issue.

Have a great Holiday Weekend!

David

and for a bit of poetic whimsy.....

mary, mary, quite contrary
how does your bottom glow
with whip mark welts
so gingerly felt
don't you love becoming my ho?

One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious. The latter procedure, however, is disagreeable and therefore not popular. Carl G. Jung

This statement is not only a truism for depth psychology, but is it not also a metaphor for those of us who practice bdsm in our lives? Are we not bringing that which is dark, forward, and into our conscious lives? I believe this to be a good and whole thing, regardless of what society at large may choose to think.

Master/slave.... 24/7.... To be, or not to be.... That is the question.

In considering writing this piece, I gave thought to how it might be received. I know this will rile some, will find resonance with others, and be ignored/dismissed by others still. Whatever your response, realize it for what it is: your response. What I write here are nothing more than thoughts that are a reflection of me. Any attempt to ascribe judgementalism to this piece is your own choice. I support your right to feel about it however you will.

Psychologically, we are a composite of many selves, not the least of which is Eros. For many of us, Eros looms as a fairly large form of self. I would hazard a guess that is true for the majority of people on this site, else they'd not be posting on a site that is arguably devoted solely to that side of self. (Yes, I do have a 'vanilla' profile posted on other sites.) My view here is that Eros is just that, a singular facet of self, and not the entire self.

If one reads through any number of profiles on this site, one will quickly learn most of them talk pretty much only about the Eros side of self. The sensual, or the sexual side. They don't talk much about their family side, their work side, their parental side, their personal explorations of self (outside of Eros, that is), etc. (My profile, you'll note, particularly relegates Eros to a minimum of expression.... which frankly is probably too underplayed, as it plays an important role in my life too.) In many of the profiles, you'll read about a desire to 'live' the role of master or slave, to one degree or another, up to and including '24/7'. What does 24/7 mean? Ask 100 people, you'll get 100 different answers. We are, after all, each unique individuals. I think this is a good thing. There is no 'right way', other than the one that is right for you.

So what about 24/7? Is it right? Is it healthy? Is it well adjusted? I think the answer to that lies in motive; to what extent are you attempting to live your life within any given facet of self, Eros included. To the degree any one facet of life is out of balance with the other facets of self, to that degree our behavior is pathological (ie. extreme, uncontrolled, unreasonable). So is 24/7, pathological? Again, I think your answer defines itself; is that facet of self lived within balance of all my other facets? To what extent is your Eros side of self ruling your life? It is no more balanced to let Eros rule, than it is for Ego to rule, or any of the other facets of self.

I am very interested in the life process known as individuation (which makes sense, given that I'm now in the 'second half of life', and that is typically when that task becomes a more important process). Carl Jung dealt with it extensively, and it has been expounded upon by many other important thinkers, including notably James Hollis in his book 'Finding Meaning In The Second Half Of Life'. Google the word 'individuation', and many excellent articles will appear that are worth reading. Shortly before Jung, Maslow used the term self-actualization, and nearly identical in meaning.

Individuation: the task or open-ended process of obtaining psychological maturity. The individuation process is, above everything else, a process of wholeness.

What does individuation have to do with master/slave, 24/7? Just this; I think many who seek/indulge '24/7' live life out of balance, letting Eros (or Ego, or both) inordinately rule their day (and night). This unbalanced rule stifles individuation and the process of wholeness. We are all male and female, shadow and light, power and powerlessness, ying and yang.

For me, when it comes to making a life-partner decision, it is important to find balance. It will be for one whom I choose as life-mate as well. That is my choice. I defend your right to make your own choice, whatever that might be. I'm a romantic, love my Eros side, and will certainly be engaged in that with my partner, but I don't want Eros ruling our life together. I want it to be in balance and harmony with the rest of our life.

Shameless Advertisement: That said, if you're just interested in a bit of play of one kind or another, bring it on girl.... I've got the spanking bench and the toy bag and the deviant mind to ensure lots of fun within the realm of Eros!! ;)

To those of you new to the community and to the lifestyle, let me suggest you add a couple of non-fiction books to your on-line resources. Unfortunately the on-line realm is rife with myth and mis-information. These books will help you distinguish the D/s from the BS:

Screw The Roses, Send Me The Thorns, by Molly Devon (whom I've had the pleasure of dining with in the past)

The Loving Dominant, by John Warren PhD

There are, of course, many other good non-fiction books as well, but these are a good place to start. You can order them through Barnes-Noble or Amazon. Happy reading, and exploring!

It has been (accurately) pointed out that my profile indicates I'm SOLELY looking for a full time, significant partner relationship with someone. First, to be clear, I don't want something that is 24/7 bdsm all the time, even in a significant partner relationship. I'm a busy working man, not some retired milionaire. Additionally, I am ALSO fine with only a bdsm 'play' involvement with someone, with no expectations of anything further. That alone can be quite fun, intense, rewarding, and highly erotic. (Yes, as my profile makes clear, I am also open to finding someone along the way to have a significant relationship with, however that in no way precludes meeting just for play.)

You want 'bdsm nice' ? That's fine, as long as we're both having fun and getting something out of it. You want 'bdsm rough' ? Great, let's ramp up the intensity! You want that demon that torments you released (or ripped) from your soul ? Fabulous! Bring it on! Let's push the envelope! I leave to you to decide whether that merits further conversation. Enjoy your day.

Picture Note: As of Feb-07, now clean shaven. No more moustache-goatee. (Horse pics taken Fall-06.)

Just saw Riverdance today. What a blast! Love good shows, good music! Need to get back up to NYC for some Broadway sometime soon, too. Live life in the real world, folks! Minimize the cyber time! Ok, off to perform a benefit charity auction tonight. Have a spanking great evening!

Looking forward to getting away for a few days of skiing up at Snowshoe this long holiday weekend. Hope you enjoy yours, too.

Had an absolutely beautiful ride this morning... ever ride horses?

Note: My search criteria is set to only profiles with photos, since I'm interested only in a r/l relationship. If you don't have a profile posted for modesty reasons, I understand, but the ball is in your court to contact me. If after reading my profile you feel there's a possible mutual interest in our talking further, do feel free to write. Have a wonderful day/night.

Ever ridden a quarter horse in a barrel race? Talk about endorphines and an adrenaline rush! Had a blast working with my paint horse - Picasso - last night! Save a horse, ride a cowboy! (or is that: ride a cowgirl? ;)

I think it's getting near time to take another theatre trip to NYC, however. Have to feed the soul in lots of different ways, yanno!

Confession: I am SUCH a Daddy!! Sheeesh!.... I just read a profile of a lovely girl, who's a strong, successful, independent woman in her own right, yet who wants the safety of a Daddy's arms to be wrapped within, craving the pain and pleasure and the love of his touch.

New profile update on 11/19/06. Happy Thanksgiving!

PS. I'm a busy man and don't take the time to browse through non-pic profiles. If you don't have pics on here for modesty sake and think we should have a conversation, you're going to have to be bold enough to write first, and I will write you in return. I look forward to hearing from you.
David

Someone remarked I haven't journaled recently, and wondered if that meant I'd found my partner. No, I haven't (to both implied questions). I'm simply not interested in spending my life on-line. There's too much to do, see, experience, and enjoy in real life. I'm open to real life friendships on many levels. If you think I'd make an interesting friend, in one way or another, do feel free to contact. I'm interested in building a new network of friends. What do we have in common? What would we enjoy doing together? Write. Let's find out.

Sheesh!! Working till nearly 1am tonight, and likely nearly every night this week!! This is cutting into my collarme time! NOT that I'm really complaining; I'm glad to have the business. But, if I don't find myself a quality secretary with extreme organizational and microsoft office skills soon, I'll never have enough time on here to reconnect with old friends or make new friends, much less find a potentially interesting partner! (Anyone with any good ideas, do feel free to make them known!)

What have you learned from past relationships?

As for myself, one VERY important thing is: COMMUNICATION! Yep, that?s it in a single word! What that means, of course, fills books (and therapist?s chairs). Communication must be honest, complete, on-going, thorough, in-depth, and frankly soul searching if we?re talking about communicating with one?s partner in life. Communication is a loving act (even when it hurts) when it?s sharing yourself with your partner. Whenever, wherever communication stops, relationship stops!

It seems I need to add another post: If bdsm is your sole focus in life, if you have no other interests, then we're not going to work out. I understand the attraction to the lifestyle fully, it's pull, it's dynamic, it's fulfilling erotic nature, but we can't spend all day and night in the bedroom!! No matter how attractive that might SOUND! (Well ok, maybe once in a while you'll spend an extended period of time bound to the bed, but that's still different!) Be a well rounded person with diverse interests of your own, including a desire to become involved in some of my interests, and I in yours. Be real, be whole! (And be brave enough to write!) Thank you.

PS. Yes, of course what you seek within the "lifestyle" is important to me, but I want to know more about the complete woman that is you, not just what you desire "in the bedroom". What does your life look like now? What do you want your life to look like in the future? What are you goals, desires, aspirations, dreams, and what does your everyday life look like? Yes, we all want heaven in the bedroom, and yes - that is very important to me too. But what of the substance of the rest of our life and times together? Let's talk, maybe get together sometime over coffee, lunch, or dinner, and get to know each other and explore that, shall we?

Public Service Annoucement: Folks, please try to "speak" (type) intelligently.
DOMINATE is a verb, an action word, used to describe an activity, such as "I want someone to dominate me" or "I'm hoping to dominate that girl".
DOMINANT is an adjective, used to describe a type of person or personality trait, such as: "He is way too dominant for me" or "I'm a dominant".
Thank you.

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