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Male Dominant, 48, Aurora, Colorado
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Male Dominant, 35, st. augustine, Florida
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Male Dominant, 51
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About DomThoughts
What am I looking for here?
I'm here for some interesting, intelligent, stimulating conversation. I want to find someone who can make me think, who can entice me enough to want to know and understand her point of view.
I'm looking for a girl with balls. (Metaphorical balls that is, actual balls are less appealing) I want to find someone who can be challenging, who can make me think my way through some intellectual sparing.
First and foremost I am looking for an interesting mind, everything else falls behind that. I'm not here to get to see your naked pics. I'm not here for a quick session. I'm not even specifically here to meet. I want to find someone that I want to meet, I'd like to find a relationship where the sexual, and D/s elements can be explored and enjoyed.
But in the first instance, I just want someone who can show me they have a mind, and that it is a mind that they are open to mutually exploring.
Would you do me the pleasure of coming and exploring with me… |
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My old profile...
Tired of monotonous orders? Bored of the general tedium that gravitates around this place and the typical ‘Dom’ that resides here.
Because I am certainly tired of being mistaken for that stereotype, if you are expecting somebody to tell you to submit to them in the first message, to order you to kneel by the second paragraph (do they actually expect a woman to fall to her knees at the keyboard? Are these people that stupid? Have I missed a point?)
I am here to encounter interesting people, and if I happen upon the right person I am ultimately looking to find somebody to form a long term relationship with.
For that reason, if I have sent you a message you can expect it to be polite and courteous, one day I may call you a bitch and a whore, however it will not be until there is some sort of connection formed, and it is an appropriate thing for the moment. I don't believe discussions about sexuality should occur in an opening message, that message should simply be for the purpose of expressing an interest in somebody. If you send me an opening message I expect, nay I demand, that you follow the same rules as I have just set out. Please do not set out under the assumption that a quick list of things you would like a man to do to you will win you favour with me, it does not, it will cheapen my image of you and negate the possibility of things developing further. Show me you are an intelligent and interesting woman and command my attention.
I know my value in this place, I know I am one of the more interesting conversations you will find here, I am intelligent, quick witted and mischievous with a woman that has my attention. However I am also obnoxious, rude and impatient with those that cross me.
I should probably have a few words about what it is I am actually looking for, in terms of my kinks and interests.
I want to find a sub girl I can explore with, who, initially is enjoyed purely in a 'reasonably' vanilla D/s relationship, that can be a solid ground for an experimental environment that will sustain a physical and intellectual relationship as it grows and solidifies. In that context I don't believe I have any limits (apart from typical) I am generally a gentle and kind person, with a huge mischievous streak, that can manifest into quite a sadistic streak when the time takes me. She will need to be willing to accommodate whatever limits we mutually discover along such a journey.
I want a woman who can help me discover what all of that means to me. But I would suspect that would only encompass a one facet of, what would hopefully be, a very multifaceted relationship. I want a D/s relationship because I enjoy the dynamics of the power exchange. Having someone for whom a look will indicate my approval / displeasure etc, to have someone to teach and develop to become the perfect submissive for me, has very obvious and direct appeal.
I want a relationship where creative juices are the major exchange rather than bodily ones (although, that would still be a major aspect of!) she needs to be an equal, and able to keep up with me mentally (that's not too difficult a task most days!) she needs to have a fire in her belly, I don't wish for a yes girl, because there is no challenge in taming that type of spirit and I thrive on challenge of these things. If you are looking for someone who will start giving you tasks very early on, then you probably need to move on because that isn't me, for me tasks take an understanding of the girl involved, requiring a mutual respect and attraction to make it anything other than a naive and clichéd tool.
On a slightly more general note, I am not an overly easy person to get to know, people either really catch my attention or they fade away, I'm not much good at the social butterfly thing, I have a group of very close friends, and very few actually make it through to join those ranks. I believe I am worth the effort of getting to know, and I'm aware that sometimes I have lost potential connections because that initial connection was never properly maintained. Basically, if you really want to get to know me, catch my attention...
That will do for now, if you are interested and wish to know me, send me a message and who knows what might occur.
Kind regards, Michael |
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I wrote this as a message some someone in here (thank you for the prompted though, you know who you are!) and I liked it so much, I thought I would share it, because I think it points a large way to who I am and how I approach these things.
I think a major problem with this side of sexuality is that we often find a person who can physically fulfil the need but disregard the emotional connection that is needed to sustain that relationship, because we allow our sexual beings to outrank our personal So we get into relationships where the kink is there, but once the spark of that has faded, we are left with nothing but a vacuum where emotions and respect should have been, and if we're not careful we can sometimes try to fill that vacuum with more kink, which can become very damaging to ourselves, both emotionally and physically.
Maybe that is significant of the difference between how men and women approach these things. For the most part the majority of men are oblivious to that vacuum, it simply doesn't show on their radar and hence they never see the problems of emotionless sex. There are a huge number of men who could quite happily have a 20 year marriage as long as the sex was constantly good, without ever having as much as a conversation with their partner. Personally I believe that without that emotional connection there is so much of the kink that suffers, a body, either male or female, can be made to orgasm, mostly against the will of the person, it is a physical reaction to the appropriate stimulus.
We all know the difference in strength between an orgasm because we're bored and fancy cuming and needing to cum because every corner of our senses is screaming that it needs to. If both parties aren't aware of the emotional needs of the other, then they can never mould the scene into something that is tailor made to be all it is capable of. If time isn't taken to understand a submissive's needs, the scene will just be something from a story book, a clich?example of somebody doing something to someone. It can take a minute detail to make that exceptional, but that minute detail can take a lot of work to discover. |
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Is it just me that feels ever so slightly nauseous at the female Domme profiles in here? The ones that demand all correspondence starts with Goddess Whore or other such nonsense. I wonder if I'm missing a point somewhere along the line, but unfortunately I don't think I am. I can't actually decide whether it is the Dommes themselves that I struggle with or the calibre of the ones who read such a profile and pay heed to it. (hey, maybe I'm just jealous!) Maybe it just speaks to the gulf of difference between a woman's desirability and a man's. I know there are Dom profiles out there that give the same attitude, but you somehow suspect they aren't going to be quite as popular as their female counterparts. The one that got me writing this said something akin to ? I don't care what you want, need, think, you'll follow my every command. ? I thought I was a narcissistic egotist! Appears I've lots to learn. |
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I received a message yesterday, highlighting that my profile perhaps tarnishes the Doms in here who are actually respectful and genuine with the generally weak and ineffectual masses that exist here. I appreciated and respect that comment, and wanted to add a note here to say that I am aware of that, and no offence is intended, it is perhaps a sad indictment that the typical dom in this place is such a weak character. |
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