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Female Switch, 26, Orlando, Florida
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About Domoveryou13
FIRST - PLEASE READ MY ENTIRE PROFILE... IF I GET ANY INDICATION THAT YOU HAVE NOT READ MY ENTIRE PROFILE I WILL DELETE ANY MESSAGES FROM YOU. SECOND - I AM MARRIED... IF YOU ARE LOOKING FOR A HUSBAND THAT IS NOT AN OPTION. THIRD, I am not looking for NOR will I accept anyone looking at this site to get a green card or a FREE trip to the United States - if that is what you are looking for, MOVE ON please. Fourth - I am more of a Sadist then a Dom as I tend to be very spontaneous and hate routines so it is difficult for a slave to be able to "read" Me and My expectations.
NOTE: I was recently diagnosed with prostate cancer and My prostate has been removed so I am unable to ejaculate - I know that can be a deal breaker but I want to be as honest and up front as possible. No sense in getting expectations up and wasting time chatting if you are a cum slut.
Before you contact Me read My blog http://bdsm-whatitisallabout.blogspot.com/?zx=39c6e416d579c1ae thank you
I met a wonderful sub on this site and we are now married. She is the second person that I have collared on here... the first was BLBsubbie957 - and I have met some other wonderful subs/slaves on here as well. I/we are looking for a bi-f switch/sub/slave pain slut to use and abuse and train. Her profile on here is subtoheart. I am also on FL as MarqKDs and she is on there, as well, as subtoheart. She was straight but now considers herself at least tending toward heteroflexible and willing to participate and open to threesomes and knows that I eventually want, believe, trust and hope our family will turn into a 24/7 TPE poly... no guarantees but then there are no guarantees in life. I believe that a relationship - even more so in this life than in the vanilla world must be built on honesty and trust and I will be as honest as I can... almost to a fault. I am strict but fair - if I believe you are working with me I will work with you... if on the other hand you are working against me I will work ON you. Yes, I am very much a sadist, but I am also a Daddy Dom... I am a very concerned, compassionate Dom and NO that is NOT an oxymoron. Ergo, if you are not a masochist it probably won't work, but... I assure you that I, My sub wife and this is VERY real. Write soon, there is so much to learn and so little time. I/we are willing to meet at a public venue after chatting on line for awhile and hopefully on the phone... I believe in taking it slow... not too slow, but. I believe in getting to know anyone I am going to scene with and certainly anyone who might be joining My household. Also becoming more and more active in the local community. We are D/D free and would expect the same in/from you. You may write either Myself or my /s wife or both. I have recently decided to consider F/F or M/F sub or slave couples - I know I am up to the challenge (again - I love a good challenge) - if you have the slightest interest - please feel free to write... let the fun begin.
I wish everyone good luck in their search. |
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Looking for /s M/F Maso Couple to Own and Be Used to Make Training Videos.
- Should be over 35 years old.
- Prefer no to little experience in BDSM.
- Must be willing to have ALL limits tested and stretched.
- You should be into exhibitionism, as your face and body will be used in producing training videos.
- Male will be turned into a sissy cuckold.
- Female will be trained to lactate.
- All sizes and shapes will be considered but prefer fluffy, curvy or BBW to Twiggy types.
- No permanent injuries will be inflicted.
- Safe word will be respected.
- BDSM must remain safe, sane and consensual and that will be reiterated through out all of the videos.
- W/we are very real and sincere.
- Please be D/D free.
- Must have been biologically born M/F - not looking nor will I accept any post-op sex changed people.
- Skat, children and animals are hard limits.
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Keep the faith baby!!!
Ironically, as I was typing that, I remembered the given name of My first collared sub - faith (actually fay-th, LOL). There are a lot of male "doms" (intentionally lower case) on here, that think that by calling themselves such that the submissive women MUST give them sex upon demand - get a life guys. you (again, intentionally lower case) have NO clue about the BDSM life. Trust Me you true sub/slaves there are true Dom's on here that do understand. My s/ wife and I met on here and are quite happy. Now I have had faith, have hope, looking for charity - are you out there????
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MUSINGS OF A DOM
I have been doing a lot of thinking about what BDSM is all about, ironically from chatting with some sub's that I know. Quite a bit of this I have known for quite awhile and some of it I knew but never really thought about and some of it I realized (or I knew it but it just jelled) recently. I used to use the terms Master and Dom interchangeably but recently decided to just go by Sir or Dom - I realized that I have a long ways to go to become a Master at any of this as it is an evolving life and the more I learn the more I realize I have to learn. As such I will add to this periodically.
WHAT BDSM IS NOT
It isn't an easy way for a so called Dom (I call them Dom Juanabe's after Don Juan) to get quick easy sex whenever they want it - although too many people are looking for exactly that. If you are looking to put notches on your belt become a swinger. In BDSM while sex is certainly part of it, it is more about the control aspect then the sex.
WHAT IS BDSM
BDSM is SAFE, SANE AND CONSENTING... All parties involved must use judgement and common sense (although these days there is NOTHING common about common sense). The last thing any self respecting Dom wants to do is send their sub/slave to the hospital or the morgue. This is where the trust comes in - the sub/slave Must trust their Dom to keep them safe... if you don't know the Dom how can you trust them to have your best interests at heart.
PROTOCOL
Every relationship is different just as in the "vanilla" world. However, as I heard it put once and have used ever since is a hierarchy... as follows -
- The Needs of the sub/slave comes first.
- The Needs of the Dom.
- The Wants of the Dom.
- The Wants of the sub/slave.
WHAT IS A SUB/SLAVE
A sub or slave that is NOT your sub or slave deserves the same respect that you would show anyone else. It takes a strong person to turn control of their life over to someone else and that takes trust. Trust takes time to develop and therefore it is critical that you don't start ordering them around UNTIL they accept you as their Dom. Obviously during a scene is one thing but when the scene is over so is your empowerment over the respective sub/slave. A sub/slave deserves the ultimate of care. Just like a car, if you don't change the oil, check the fluids, wash and wax it regularly it will stop working when you need it most. You wax, oil and polish your fine furniture. If you have a hunting dog you need to work with it, care for it and spend time with it. You need to do the same thing with a sub/slave - if you don't take care of it eventually it will break down. You need to train your sub/slave as well and as such I believe that there needs to be a list of rules so that everyone is on the same page and knows the expectation. Punishing a sub/slave for a broken rule that they didn't know existed is not punishment it is ABUSE. A sub/slave must not only trust but also respect their Dom - both of which need to be earned... it Your sub/slave does not respect/trust you, you would both be better off going your seperate ways. A sub/slave should NEVER show disrecspect for their Dom and if they can't trust you and don't respect you this is virtually impossible.
WHAT IS A DOM
A Dom (although on the surface it may not appear that way) should be caring and compassionate. To be intrusted with control of someone elses life they need to be in control of theirs. The role of a Dom is to train the sub/slave to be the best that they can be. The Dom is to stretch their sub/slave to the best of their limits. Hard limits are just that hard limits... NOT to be breached. A Dom must be trustworthy so they don't cross those hard lines and also if there is a safe word - they MUST respect it. Ideally the Dom and perspective sub/slave should have very similar ideas as far as interests or the relationship probably will not work out. As I have heard it put... when you are bound and gagged is NOT the time to realize there is a difference in expectations.
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Again - time to vent - why do so many people not at least respond to a mail notice and say no thank you or I am not interested but thank you for contacting me?
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OK time to vent - LOL. Why do so many people post a profile on here and not list ANY experience or desires they would like to at least try and experience... and all they say is ''looking for someone'' or something to that extent? It is nice to have some idea of what people are looking for... if you haven't done so as of yet PLEASE go through the lists they provide - you are about to make what is most likely the biggest decision of your life - to either turn over most of the control of your life to someone else or take control of someone else's life... PLEASE TAKE TIME TO CONSIDER WHAT YOU WANT AND ARE LOOKING FOR and let people know. Thank you. |
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I have a collared /s that I met on here. I love, adore and care very much about - subtoheart... we (I - lol) am looking for a bi FEMALE sub/slave to scene with and possibly develop into a 24/7 TPE relationship - and she is quite aware of this. |
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What does a total power exchange mean - what does it entail? It's based on trust and faith. A true D/ can not and will not demand that a /s give up that power until the /s is confident that the potential D/ has the /s's bet interest at heart - that does not come from a D/ demanding on line or at the first meeting that the /s submit to them on the spot immediately. If you as a D/ truly do care for /s's then take time to get to know them before you start trying to control them. How can you help and nurture anyone without getting to know them first. There are too many selfish D/'s out there or at least people who claim they are but they are just users who don't care about the /s - just themselves and that gives a bad name to the truly caring compassionate D/s and tragically I am meeting more and more /s's that have been devestated that don't want to leave the lifestyle but don't feel that there is anyone out there that can meet their needs and that my friends is tragic. I understand the vanilla's not understanding the lifestyle but it truly is tragic when people who report to understand the lifestyle are willing to ruin other peoples lives just because they are selfish users. The power exchange is based on the /s trusting that the D/ to whom they are willing to turn over virtually their entire life too in order to be nurtured and developed - and yes using and abusing can enter into that but that is not what it's all about. If you are a true D/ you will nurture Your /s and help them grow and develop through various means and everyone is different so You need to get to know them before being willing to ''collar'' them so you know what makes them tick. The s/ might be willing to accept You but make sure you understand their psyche before you accept them... Please don't destroy someone completely and yes I realize that sometimes you need to break someone before you can nurture them but just Please Please Please be aware of what you are doing before you destroy someone unless you are willing to revive them afterward... This is a committment on the part of the /s but it is even more of one on the part of the D/. You are literally holding someones life in your hands - PLEASE - don't take that responsibility lightly. Thank you. |
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I wish to thank all the /s's out there that are willing to make the supreme sacrifice. Turning your ENTIRE life over to Your D/. I assure you - that is not something that I take lightly as a true caring and supportive D/. The role of a true D/ is caring and compassion of the person(s) that are willing to place their entire life in your hands and turn complete control over to one person - THEIR D - that D/ better be up to the challenge - I assure U -I M. I M there for you R U as well |
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Why are there so many bad D/ 's out there that don't truly understand the roll of a D/ ? Or are they just players. Have chatted and or met so many /s's that have gotten burned by D/ 's that either don't understand the true dynamics or don't want to and are just players or users. There are /s 's getting out of the lifestyle every day because of bad experiences with what I can only define as a poor excuse for a D/. First of all a true D/ is not on first contact going to start making demands of a potential /s. There is a trust factor in the BDSM lifestyle that is much bigger than ANY marriage. The potential /s is basically turning over control of their entire being to ''their'' D/ and that cannot be entered into lightly on the part of EITHER partner - it requires a major commitment from everybody involved. That can only come from trust and trust doesn't come from opening demands before people have even met. That will just send up red flags on the part of any self respecting /s - or should. Too many s/ 's are leaving the lifestyle and are so burned they refuse to have ANY relationship vanilla or BDSM - I feel sorry for them but don't blame them. D/ 's lets get real - if you truly are a D/ get to know your partner - your roll is to help them grow and develop - NOT destroy them. If you don't agree with that or aren't willing to do that - either don't get into the lifestyle or at least be honest with any potential /s and let them know that your intent is to destroy them - BEFORE enterying into any relationship so that the /s can at least know what they are getting into. There are many people looking for many things - but HONESTY is sooooo critical in this lifestyle. TOO many people both D/'s and /s's jump into things faster than they should - I am not advocating waiting for 2-3 years like people do when they get married but where knowing your partner(s) in the BDSM lifestyle is even more important then in a marriage due to the dynamics and committment involved... PLEASE take your time to get to built trust and be honest with each other and get to know one another. Thank you. |
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Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh - I see it's time to add a new entry to my journal... to all you D/'s out there and /s's too...
sub does not mean sub-human it means submissive - /s's are people too and they all have different needs. It takes time to get to know the needs of each and every /s out there. /s's are basically turning control of their lives over to the D/ they are submitting to. I have known /s's that are skin and bones and need to be told that they MUST eat everything put in front of them to reach a healthy weight. Then, there are some that are overweight and need to exercise and have their food intake monitored... still others are on prescription meds and need to be watched to make sure that they take those. Some times pain is thought of by the /s as a reward and maybe need to be isolated for awhile or have their pain limits pushed... To ALL D/'s - please get to know your POTENTIAL /s before taking on the RESPONSIBILITY for them... and also BE RESPONSIBLE YOURSELF FIRST!!!! Every /s out there has different needs and therefore every D/ willing to take on the responsibility for a /s needs to know the needs of their potential /s before making the commitment. Thank you for taking the time to read this. |
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Why are so many people that think they are D/'s just players? This is NOT a lifyestyle that you can ''play'' at if you are truly into the lifestyle. Yes, people can play at the lifestyle but if you are truly going to ''live'' the lifestyle IT IS NOT A GAME. A true D/ has to have the best interest of the /s at heart. When a /s MAKES the commitment to turn ''control'' of their life over to a D/ they are giving the ultimate gift - that is NOT something to be abused!!! A true D/ won't destroy His /s but help her grow and develop through care compassion and yes punishment for bad behavior. AND YES A BAD D/ CAN WILL AND HAS DESTROYED many /s. At first there will probably be strong control with that diminishing as the /s show's her growth, development, commitment and good behavior. A true, good, caring compassionate D/ will get to know their POTENTIAL /s - this takes time as everyone is different in their needs and ways that they learn and grow... this lifestyle requires a commitment on the part of all parties involved. If you, as a D/ think that this is all about control you are in the wrong lifestyle... it is about CARE AND COMPASSION AND YES COMMITMENT... a /s makes the ultimate commitment... giving you the greatest thing that they can give anyone - and I am not talking about their bodies... They are placing their life (lives) in YOUR hands and that MUST BE EARNED - it is not something you can command or demand. This MUST be earned. A bad D/ (I use the term /D loosely here) can, as I mentioned before, and has destroyed many /s's physically, spiritually and emotionally. Also, do NOT enter lightly into a poly relationship... it is difficult at best to have a relationship between 2 people - the dynamics with 3 people creates a 6 way dynamic D/<=>/s1 D<=>/s2 /s1<=>/s2. Yes it can be done but just enter into it with open eyes and as a D/ you MUST aguard against jealousy on the part of the /s's. If you are a player DON'T get involved in this lifestyle... this is NOT something to enter into lightly - you have the future and lives of people in your hands and it is not something to enter into lightly. THANK YOU
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Have met some awesome and very special women on here so far... not everything has worked out the way I had hoped but... that's life - my life is better for having met them thank you each and everyone that I have corresponded with and met - have grown from each of you - a special thank you to the two I met this past week. You are both beautiful and wonderful.
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