I'm a dominant woman who doesn't mind being topped now and then. I am interested in cultivating erotic friendships with open-minded people. Experience and interest in BDSM is a plus, but not a requirement. I'm open-minded and honest, like living life zestfully but without unnecessary drama. I look for the same in my companions and partners.
Intelligent conversation and a sense of humor are big turn-ons for me. I'm mischievous and playful and delight in finding the same in my partners.
I am a butterfly--going through a change in attitude. I no longer want a fulltime submissive. "Owning" someone on a 24/7 basis is not appealing to me. I have attempted to make it fit into my long-term life philosophy, but it does not.
Instead, I enjoy part-time topping and am willing to switch with people that I feel like switching with--and don't get mad if you're rejected, because I'm very selective in this department.
I'm pretty selective all 'round.
So I got a couple messages from a young man about the shot of my breasts. He said he couldn't take me seriously.
Well, ya know, I never really ASKED him to.? But aside from that, who needs more judgmental bullshit in this world?? I've pretty much had my fill of it.? I just want to relax, have a good time and make some good friends.? Play partners would be nice, too, but I'm not hung up on it.
But, since it's been brought up, I'll do an impromptu poll and see who thinks that the one shot makes them think worse or better of me.? I'm just curious--because I kinda like it.? The shot itself conveys a sense of motion of my body, the swing of my hair, position of my face, etc.? When I first joined the site, I was a little trepidatious of putting a facial shot up.? I've become bolder.? I'm not going to take the other shot down.? I was just wondering why this young man would feel so compelled to harangue me about it?? Why spread hate?
See? We're not all crazy, just more secure!? Go ozzies!
Happy Birthday to Me
So I got all dolled up like a naughty schoolgirl last night and the dean of students punished me for neglecting my studies.
Sometimes
letting someone else be on top is a lot of fun. I've been thinking a
lot though about how differently men and women play in public. Men who might
be on the switchy side seem to be concerned that they will lose their
Dom credentials if they are seen to be "weak" (that's the only way I
know to put it, even though submissives and bottoms are usually not
weak at all). I think they are right to be apprehensive. I've been
topped several times in the last few weeks and I have only topped once.
Last night, someone said "I'm glad you've found your true submissive
side" to me. I didn't get defensive--in fact, I gave him a friendly hug
and moved on--but afterwards I thought about it and considered that it
was meant playfully, but ultimately disrespectful.
I retain my
right not to label myself, not to try to fit into any box and to
basically continue enjoying myself until way past the time I'm putting
my teeth in a jar by the bed. I don't play with anyone I'm not sexually
attracted to. It just doesn't do it for me and I don't have a lot of
time to waste gratifying other people when all it does is bore me. If
that sounds shallow, then I guess I'm shallow. Probably selfish, too. I
like sex, but I wasn't put on the planet to please the world. There's
not enough fucking time (literally).
The labels = boxes analogy
has me thinking about Malvina Reynolds's song "Little Boxes." Sung here
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Pete Seeger, the song highlights all concerns I have about labels/boxes
as well as why I protest being shoved into one.
My life is fluctuating so much now, I don't want to screen through the steady flow of submissives.? I'm sure some are very sincere, but I'm a bit skeptical that there are so many out there that will clean my house for the simple privilege of being able to raid my lingerie drawer.
Oh, for a clear-headed, clear-minded play partner with their own life that can let me lead mine right now!
