DominaYork

Going to update this now that I've been on this site a while.

I haven't been active in BDSM in years. So while I have some experince I'm not going to pretend to be the Queen of the Sandbox by any means. I had to put a great deal of things on hold to focus on family and work for too many years.

Now I have a bit of time to breathe and am looking to find a play partner. I'm a sucessful writer, married and happily so. The husband is vanillia and aware of my desires and has encouraged me to seek another slave.

I work far too many hours but I always have Tues. some Weds and occasional weekends free.

What I'm looking for is somone that amuses me. Service slaves would be welcome but I'd like for him to be submissive as well. There are things I want to do and try and experince again. I'm not looking for a lover, if your idea of service is oral worship please keep looking. The overwhelming crush of sub males that this site calls 'do me' subs turned me off of this last time. I'm sick of it, its exhausting. I'm not perfect, no one is, and I've some interesting quirks. I want the gift of someone's submission and service without having to censor my thoughts/desires/wants. If I feel like being a silly brat one day I want to laugh and if I feel like hurting you one day I want to hear you whimper.

I am not looking for online slaves. Online slavery doesn't feed my need for attention and reaction. You'd have to be exceptional and spoil me rotten to get me to agree to this and so far no one has. If you can't be on hand for real time encounters, please note that it's an uphill battle.

I'd like someone with some sense of the world around them. I'd like for any men to have a non-BDSM life of some sort. Please be HWP, not older than my father and not cheating on your wife. Oddly, if I were a prodomme? I'd have little to no trouble with a sub male being married and not telling his wife but playing for the love of the play it bothers me. It's a different level and type of relationship and I just don't wish to censor myself with my slave, opps left a mark and wife saw it and freaked out? Not my scene. I just don't wish to wear kid gloves for my play to protect your lies. Skin tone isn't an issue, gender maybe. I'm far less likely to play with a sub female, not ruling it out as everything said here has exceptions, I'm just not that attracted to women. Transgender/intersexed is another story and would have to be taken on a case by case situation. Not actively seeking but I'm more looking for personality and compatiablity than a checklist of height, weight, gender, color and all that crap.

I tend to be easy going, slow to anger, flexible and like to learn. I am a woman of contradictions and snarky comments. I do not like to be bored. I tend to be quite straight forward and honest. I like attention and being courted. I want a slave who will walk across fire for me on my whims alone. He must be strong enough to bend for me, grow with me and smart enough to keep up. He must understand that our time (should there be an our time) is about amusing me, pleasing me.

I fully admit I'm not the best, most social person online. I am an introvert by nature. Say something in an email to fascinate me, catch my notice and I'll arrange to meet you the next possible Tuesday I have free. I'm tired of games and bouncing around, endless emails from men who chicken out or wimp out. Online can be flat and hollow and if you can make me smile in an email we'll meet someplace as follow up. I don't wish to believe so many of the men here are jerks.

Okay, so how to contact me. One line emails won't get an answer. Copy and pasted emails won't get an answer. (I've had men send emails where they've forgotten to change the NAME of the Domina they were pasting their info to!) Tell me about yourself, your D/s experience, limits, what you like best. Tell me about your real world life and send me a photo. Oh and read my profile and listen to it. If you can't obey a few simple written lines, how can I assume you will obey at all?