DominantNubian

As times goes on and I re and past loves, I start to wonder with all the different layers to my personality, I question will I ever find the right person who I can grow with?

I get close and think hmmm maybe, then something happens to make me doubt it and question their sincerity and/or question my behaviour....am I being fair to myself by hiding parts of me that make the person who I have now grown to love after so long.

FUCK IT!! This is what I want and I will not stop until I find it:

1. HOT guy- physically defined
2. Intelligent- I dont tolerate idiots and intelligent people are kinky :P
3. Stable- have goals in life
4. Ambitious
5. Confident- I dont wanna have to deal with your self issues
6. Able to stand up to me
7. Sex on legs
8. Horny as hell- Sex DOES play a massive part in the dynamics of the relationship before anyone else tells me otherwise. Besides, I want sex every single day.
9. Open minded
10. Independant
11. Has a career- not because I want someone with money but I have a career and I want someone who has one too
12. Has a bad boy streak to them- GOD who doesnt love a bad boy!

I think thats enough for now but bloody hell....WHERE THE HELL IS THIS GUY???

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Thinking of leaving the kink scene for a while....getting frustrated in not finding what I want and what I do want I cant have.....too much hard work :S

I am curious to know why men....STR8 men have to take pics of their asses and cocks and choose to put up as their profile pictures.....who ever said seeing an asshole and their ass (lol) on show was being sold a lie.

new hair cut new pic it makes sense :P

Finally, met two subs who have matched my criteria both hot....think the young hottie sub is what Im gonna go for....they know who they are and thanks for a wonderful time on Wednesday last week and Bournemouth last weekend :)

Oh why do men NOT know when to take no for an answer and then theyre suprised if you say NO when they offer to pay u for a 'session' IM NOT A FUCKING PRO DOMME...then they get bitter and say things like uve just lost the chance of having a great sub at your feet.....similar to when you go out and a person doesnt take the hint and says ure loss....correction I DODGED THE BULLET!

Bournemouth was awesome....took new pics now on my profile.

Just pisses me off when you have plans set up and a sub (who knows who he is) fails to contact you, goes off the radar and hasnt even got the decency to say they cant make it and/or have gotten coldfeet and yes a TIMEWASTER!!!!!!!

But on the upside..the sub that did turn up was yummy and fun......roll on BRISTOL :)

I have decided to do a bit of cleaning on my profile by removing myself off lists of people I have no intention on speaking to or are just odd. This also includes blocking certain people too. Ive had enought of the bullshitters and headcases.

Aaaaaah just compacted my lists down....most the ones that were deleted were on the basis of if theyve bored me and havent spoken to them for a few months and not care about the fact that I havent.....DELETE!!!!

Had a really good natter with someone off collarme today (you know who you are- thanks for the cake and coffees :-P)

One of the things we discussed was the concept of Daddy and Mummy Dom/mes. The idea of a Dom/me playing a parental figure in a BDSM setting baffles me......I would like to hear from all people to find out what your opinions are of this.

DN xxx

In line with my fake crusade (which is still going strong) I have set up a B.S crusade. I have come across many a sub who talk a massive talk but means little to me (esp their little pathetic cocks). Anyway, one person is particular who actually tried to challenge me today on the phone LMAO.

davidslave22 (also known as daveslave89) is the BS'er of the week....Ladies if this man whos name is NOT David is actually NOT from London as stated on his profile, block him. He is a waste of time and space. He likes to promise things he cant give and then tries to man up when it suits. him.

If you would like his pictures, including one of hos god awfully small penis (which he says is 'average' size) I will be more than happy to share and his number.

Happy BH weekend!!

DN x

Is there such thing as a tall, well toned, good looking, professional working sub anymore??? If there is where the hell are they??

Why do  some Dommes/Doms think  that they can control someone who is clearly not looking to be dominated???

Ive had that happen to me a few times on this site......those out there who try to dom a Domme.....JOG ON AS YOU CLEARLY HAVE DELUSIONS OF GRANDEUR!

Look for the little subs out there waiting for you but dont EVER punch above your own weight because you will get hurt.

I have had it up to here with fakes and liars in general and especially on this site....

For those who fit into either one of these categories or even both......ARE YOU THAT UNHAPPY WITH YOUR LIFE THAT YOU HAVE TO LIE EVEN ABOUT THE SMALLEST THINGS LIKE WHERE YOU LIVE, YOUR AGE OR EVEN WORSE......PRETEND TO BE A WOMAN???

Come on......this should be a place where you should be able to be yourself rather than being someone else!!

If you do lie about who u r on here then that clearly shows you hate the person you actually are and need to evaluate and if all else fails, for the love of GOD pull the damn plug!!!

On the flip side, I like to thank those who I have met and are genuinely llovely people who I am glad I have encountered and will keep in my circle of friends YOU ALL ROCK!!

After getting wasted this afternoon, I come with another epiphany......

If everyone on CM  would understand the dom/me, sub or slave that you portray youself to be on here is only ONE aspect of you as a person....be yourself and there will be less chance of fakes, fraudsters and timewasters.

I myself am a strong woman, with goals and ambitions and in all aspects of my life I do not settle for less and that even goes for the subs I like. However, I am also human and have flaws which are things not to class as weaknesses but things to embrace and that seperates us from monkeys.

Because I like rough sex does not make me submissive or a slave but strong men is something that I find attractive and as times goes on and the ppl I meet on this site who are lucky to understand the full me in all its entirety will see that too.

Wearing pvc/rubber suits and gimp masks just make ppl on CM look like people who are hiding their alterego and believe me.....you are all NOT Superman or Wonderwoman.

The people who have not bored me and shown who they are have had the privilage of me talking to them as a human being rather than always having to talk as if we're having a session all the time....That doesnt me make less capable of domming u, it just shows that I am a genuine person and being a Domme is not something which I live and breath like most people on here do or expect.

For all those who use CM  as a method of escapism from your poor existence....take a step back and evaluate your poor existence of a life and change it for the better. Use this site for what it is.....to meet other like minded people who are aware that Collarme is about expressing the kink in you NOT to create an alternative YOU!

Remember boys, girls and those that are TBC, your submissive and Dom/me attributes are a part of you they DO NOT DEFINE WHO YOU ARE!!!

Ive always wondered whether a D/s can have a genuine loving relationship?

Is'nt a relationship supposed to be about two equals coming together? Also would a dom/mme be able to see past their partners submissive nature (whether its just in BDSM or beyond) and respect them as a person as opposed to using their dominant status to abuse their sub in the wrong way? (Yes, there is a wrong way lol)

Please feel free to give your opinions

DN x

Why do male slave/subs have a tendancy of sending messages with a list of what THEY want? Personally, it is the Domme/ Dom who sets the agenda, while baring in mind what the sub/slave is open to. Once the relationship is established, then the sub/slave can discuss what they like, don't like and what they want more and it would be responsibility of the Dom/ Domme to make this happens whilst ensuring that their needs are met.

Sub/Slaves- stop coming to me with ure list of what u want, just come with an open mind....you dont rule this rship I do.

Ive just had a eureka moment......this is targetted at the men who pretend to be women......as it seems to be common practice amongst the sad male population other,,,,which totals 75%, the chances of them talking to another ''woman'' is very high and so rather than having a 'lesbian encounter' that they were anticipating (hence pretending to be a woman) wont they end u having a male/male encouter defeating the purpose?

OR

Do the men who pretend to be women do it to attract genuine men seeking genuine women in order to cover up their true feelings for the same sex and trying to make it more''acceptable'' in their eyes and pretend to be a woman to acheive that?

The mind boggles once more......

I have never understood why dommes ask for 'tribute'- is that not the same as exchanging money or material goods for 'sexual favours' ie. prostitution???

I understand to some its financial domination and could be demeaning for the subs, but to me it's old wine in a new bottle......feel free to submit your opinions.

Ive been using this site for over 3 years now and have had an interesting experience:

How long have you all been on this site? Name two good experiences you've had and name two bad experiences you've had through CM

Sought out another fake today.......this ''girl'' was trying to worm their way out of sending a picture then wanted to negotiate on when a pic is sent??? from my experience, subs dont have room to negotiate right??

Hmmmmm

This is really for the female Doms....what is ure opinion on having sex with a sub.....Ive always wanted to get feedback on this....Would you screw a sub? and if yes why and if not why not....does that blur the lines of a D/s relationship??

For all those who have provided positive comments on how I look....thank you.

However, I have had comments along the lines of ' I look too nice to be dominant'

My question is, what is a dominant woman supposed to look like?

Looking forward to everyones opinion

DN x

Calling all Dom, Sub, Switches and anything in between.......send me your list of fakes that you have discovered. I think its about time to oust them!

Join the Fake Crusade!

Day two of my fake crusade and I have come accross a FEMALE or is it a male in disguise consider that their picture has been traced back to braverotica.com???

I have found a new hobby.......catching out fakes! This is day one of my fake crusade and so far one person (who I will name in gooooood time) has been caught out.....a word of warning use ure own MOTHERFUCKING pictures and be honest with yourself.

Everyone has charactertistics about them that they dont like (except me, I am Mary Poppins- perfect in everyway lol) But COME ON dont lie about what you look like....who are you trying to impress???

THAT IS ALL....WILL KEEP YOU ALL POSTED PEEPS XX

Call me Nelly cos I have yet another DILEMMA lol.....

In the last couple of days I have had a lot of interest from female subs who are fairly young.....as young as 18/19....

How do you verify someones age??? You def cant be too careful about people online of ANY AGE and especially GENDER (TO ALL THOSE FAKE WOMEN OUT THERE!!)

I admit, I look young for my age and equally there are some females and males who look a lot older than their age......

THE MIND BOGGLES

Heres another headscratcher.........this is esp directed at the WHITE subs and the BLACK doms out there........

What is the fascination with black dommes, more importanly ones who are of a larger 'set' (big black women, I love ya but Im baffed)

Also, most white subs would be more than happy for a black woman to dom them but have most of them dated or had a 'vanilla' rship with a black woman?

Come on guys and gals....get ure opinions in xx

Ive been on this site for a while and have come accross a lot things which have made me think....

One thing has stands out in my mind is the amount of straight, submissive men who are dressed in female attire.

I understand (to some extent) the theory behind TS/TV- that needs no futher discussion, what I don't understand is why straight men do it

The only idea that comes to mind is they think that by dressing as a woman, this would be a more 'visual' method of of displaying their submissiveness.

If that is the case, this is quite offensive. As a woman, I dont feel by dressing as a man that I become more empowered than I feel now. Also, SOME women are just submissive not because they are the 'fairer' sex but based upon their own self worth.

So, for those men who think that dressing like a woman makes them more submissive than they are.....NO infact you offend me as a woman to think that as a result of my gender I must be less of a person.

Feel free on and all to comment.