Dominant2010

I love messaging Spam Bots.  However, the other day I messages a suspected bot and found an actual person behind it... or a very clever bot.  :)  It's the little things in life that are fun!

Welcome to Summer in Kansas.  A perfect time to explore some of those itches you are longing to scratch.  I look forward to discussing them with you. 

I am amazed by the number of "female subs" around here who don't show proper respect, and I'm not talking about immediately submitting, I'm just talking about basic communication skills, this isn't MATCH.COM folks, its a fetish site, where everyone should feel comfortable within their kink.  You should probably have some!

Secondly, the amount of subs who you take the time to write a personalized letter that discusses some things, and they just ignore you without even the decency of a reply that says thanks for writing and not being an idiot.  It's clear some women come here because they know they will be bombarded... I'm ok with that... but don't post stuff in your journal about how people need to approach you, and how intelligent you are, and how sick of the "get on your knees act" makes you to start off and then not act like you shouldn't contribute to that vibe.

Lol.  Welcome to the internet in all of its idiocy :)  Enjoy your play!

Writings... writings... I should do more of those.  Perhaps I need some more interesting inspiration? 

Always a hit and miss time around here... although it seems to be missing more than hitting lately :)  Still, its always good to get to know new folks and seek new experiences and perspectives.  Feel free to get in touch!

Training is divided into four distinct phases. Orientation, Transformation, Assimilation and Appreciation. Training is an ongoing process, but I have found in my years that this process can be broken down into individual goals and proceeds in mostly this manner. I don't talk about specifics, thats for me to know and a good girl to find out :)
Orientation, where you learn philosophies behind what happens while being put through basic paces, things are faily rigid at this point, and there is alot of explanation and confirmation of understanding. It is not only important for things to be done, but an understanding of why. A sub first needs to be broken. They need to understand most definitely that topping isn't tolerated, as they will certainly try to resist.
The second phase is Transformation. A sub is gradually remade from the psyche up. It is important at this stage that a sub feel empowered within herself, as well as an appreciate developed for her Dom. Remaking the psyche is a difficult thing and requires some deep exploration, which isnt always an easy thing. This phase is fairly traumatic for some subs, as they face inner workings of themselves.
The third phase is Assimilation. A transformed sub (which is an ongoing process) is put through more advanced phases, like bigger tasking, adaptive training in situations and an expansion of normal limits beyond what they thought they were capable of, after being broken and drug through themselves, this phase mainly reflects an attempt at polish, althought that too is an ongoing process.

The final phase is Appreciation. As sub learns
their true place, is prepared to accept that place without their former baggage, and exudes a strength from service. Particularly ready subs might get to play with a sub at this phase, etc. The sub will learn to appreciate their place, work within it, and to branch out from their newfound empowerment within service. Very few subs ever make it to this point.

Thats the basics. its impossible to say what training is in the sense of I do this and this and this, because training is adaptive. My specialty is the psychological because I think that is where true transformation lies, the rest is just play. Physicality is certainly sprinkled in as necessary, and is different at all levels.

Again...a good Dom must adapt to their project. Any good toy requires much craftsmanship and love :)

Hope that helps.. I like it so much Im posting it. Good question!

NOTE: Someone asked why go through training if they weren't Owned? I would never "own" a sub I did not train first, how would I know I wanted to own them. Training is a precursor to owning or collaring or whatever the folks wanna call it for a label. Perhaps thats the Culmination :) and step 5, but I'm not a formalist.

Thanks for reading.

CM seems very "hit and miss" so far, a couple of spectacular women, thank you :) ... and more than a few "misses" with people more interested in a bedroom fetish than a lifestyle, or something more exploratory.  I continue to believe in the difference of communication over legalism, the ritual of explanation over silence, and deeper exploration over mainstreaming...  Within those things lies worlds of difference.  Enjoy your flavor :)

Hope your weekend is going well :)