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	About DomDepot UPDATED 11/15/2016 I’m not looking for some drama-ridden doormat, some robot I have to program, or some pet I’m expected to support. I’m a fucking adult, and I expect you to be too. Over time, I’ve found that I have had some of the most successful relationships with ‘type A’ personalities: opinionated, picky-ass pro-active individuals who knew who they were as a person and who have been secure in their own self-worth. Personally, I like picky-ass people: people who knew that this is not a game, and that if we start something, we’re doing this with an eye for the long haul. I’m quirky. That is to say, I’m not your average fill-in-the-blank. I’m not your average anything. I have a hearse. I’m not goth. I’m polyamorous, demisexual, and sapiosexual. I’m not interested in __-ways, or jumping into bed sports with folk I hardly know. Folk don’t seem to comprehend that just because my options are more open than theirs doesn’t mean that I want or need to take them all, much less that I'm obligated to do so because they’ve expressed interest. I discipline, but I punish rarely – I’m much more likely to withdraw my attentions: if someone is not devoting the effort necessary on their side, there’s an issue. If, after addressing that issue, there is no improvement, there is no reason for me to continue to devote my time and effort into solving an issue when I am the only party doing so. I actually gasp say what I mean (the horror!!!). I believe that it's possible to have a respectful, level-headed discussion, knowing that someone gets the final decision, but having both sides air their opinions in full. On that note (a quickie tangent for the interested) ... all of my _intentional_ physical alterations are above the shoulders ... I've seven piercings (6 ears ... normal, I know ... and tongue), and three tattoos. When starting a relationship, I greatly prefer to interact with a person, not an entity. I have no objection to starting a relationship with people that are involved with each other ... but I interact with them as themselves (treating each relationship with me as a separate dyad) rather than as a set ... and to that end, will rarely - if ever - start a new relationship of whatever type with two mutually involved people at the same point and time. I have no objection to triads - but with me, a triad would be something that would have to grow out of three dyads naturally combining over time, and not be the ultimate goal. [Quite honestly, I've never understood folk who say 'you MUST start relationships with both of us, AND feel EXACTLY the same way and EXACTLY the same degree towards us both at the same time' etc. Essentially you're expecting someone to click with two (or more, if a triad, a quad, etc) folk at a time, to fall in love at the same rate, to have one nipple perk for each at the same time ... when everyone on this planet is unique, and so is every interaction. shudder I detest folk who are obsessed with keeping score. Relationships should NEVER be a competition.] I am a safety freak (I have no problem with the concept of hurting another in an enjoyable, mutually consensual manner, however ... I have a REAL problem with HARM, be it emotional, mental, physical, or other, whether caused through ignorance, stupidity, or intent. I can't do much about stupidity or intent, but ignorance I can do my utter best to lessen as much as possible. No honestly-asked question is 'stupid', etc ... if you have any, please just ask - I'm quite hard to offend, and will answer honestly and to the fullest extent of my knowledge. steps off soapbox). I've been told this repeatedly throughout my life, and as I grow both older and wiser, I come to believe it more and more! To that end, one of my goals is to create a checklist that is as complete and thorough as I can make it (right now, I'm up to 17 pages!). I identify as sapiosexual. It's not that I am attracted to females in particular or males in particular (actually, I'm not all that physically based), but to me it seems kinda stupid (to put it bluntly) to let what hangs between get in the way if I am attracted to someone as a person &/or slave, &/or masochist, &/or submissive, &/or fill-in-the-blank ... you get the idea. Essentially, what's going to potentially attract me to you (with regards to any dynamic or relationship structure) is going to be a combination of your personality, and of how you comport yourself with/around me/on my behalf - not your genitalia, gender, or sexual orientation. I am polyamorous (both in the sense that I own more than one, and in the sense that I love and am in love with more than one ... I clarify, as I know the term 'poly-bdsm' can be confusing and at times, misleading). However, as in everything else, I do have my own little 'quirks' that some may view as strange. For example ... while I am quite happily involved, I do not come as part of a set with any or all of my loves ... if you're interested in someone that I'm involved with, contact them, not me - if they're available and interested, I'm sure they'll let you know. To clarify as to the use of some polyamorous and poly-bdsm terms ... example: the use of terms like primary, secondary, etc ... I don't have a primary(ies) or a secondary(ies), etc ... I have my loves. I don't own 'alpha' and 'beta' slaves or submissives. There is no hierarchy dictated by length of ownership, involvement, etc. For myself, I don't choose to limit how far a given relationship may grow ... that choice is merely just another part me being myself, of me choosing not to put on an act or pretend to be other than I truly am ... I choose to be myself, to feel the way(s) that I feel, to not censor nor limit nor restrict my emotional involvements with another(s). Currently, my relationships with m'loves, and my property are at different levels at this point and time ... not because I choose to prune them and limit where they will grow and to what extent ... but because each relationship grows at it's own pace, and in it's own time. I live in this neat area between two small cities just outside of a main metro area, so I’m outside of all borders, in this ‘limbo’ area where I’m in a small subdivision where everyone has acreage – but it’s still a subdivision – but it has NO light pollution – and NO noise … I’ve come home to red foxes in my backyard, deer, bunnies … and yet WALMART is five minutes away, and the metro area is fifteen. I can go sit in the backyard and listen to the occasional cow MOO. I’m frugal, but I’m not cheap, if you can discern the difference (“everything in moderation, including moderation” grins). I’m a state employee, so I’m not rolling in the dough, to say the least. I recycle but I’m not obsessive about it. When I start working on my yard (after I finish my house!), I plan to build a duck and chicken coop, and put in a vegetable garden. Learning about useful plants fascinates me (loofah, soapnuts, shampoo ginger) and I plan on using many of them as well as fruiting trees, bushes, and vines when I do my landscaping. I find stress relief through a good massage, losing myself in a fantastic book, feeling as if I’ve accomplished a major goal or task, positive attention, or creating something of personal impact. I'm an avid reader and adore urban fantasy, paranormal romance, science fiction and fantasy, among other genres. Given the opportunity, I'll devour a book a day, at minimum (yum!). I write and attempt to publish poetry, sometimes successfully. Comedy clubs are fantastic...I love to laugh and don't get near as many opportunities to do so as I would like. I've got a wicked n' warped sense of humor. I love to cook, but given my life I rarely have the opportunity to do so to the extent that I would like (not to say that I don’t like being cooked for!). I’ve recently given in to being labeled a ‘foodie’: overall I’d rather eat healthier than not, prefer to not eat fast food, and vastly prefer that my taste buds sing rather than merely endure the nutrients I must ingest. I love to travel, but (again) given my life I rarely have the opportunity to do so to the extent that I would like. I’d love to buy a teardrop trailer, hook it to my jeep and just hit the road. I enjoy brainstorming, and working with my hands, and would love to find folk of whatever type to share those loves with. I make everything from torturous toys to traditional jewelry to demented dolls (I sell the jewelry and aromatherapy goods locally); and I also do renovation work on my house and on my rental properties (Pssst!!! lifestyle-friendly housing in Baton Rouge!!! www.altlifesolutions.com). I'm also more than a bit of a hedonist ... Massages are fantastic ... I love them! I love skinny-dippin', lolling around in a hot tub, having my hair brushed, sensation play ... mmm ... yummy. However, with regards to the romantic dynamic (when that exists) I also enjoy pampering others! I'm both a hopeless and hopeful romantic ... I love being treated in a romantic, loving, caring manner, and tend to shower the same type of attention upon any loves that seem to welcome it (some people, unfortunately, are just NOT into romance ... shrugs ... go fig!). Irregardless of the dynamics shared, I actively enjoy making others feel better ... whether physically, mentally, emotionally, or otherwise. I tend to lend an ear and shoulder at the drop of a hat, and if you feel that you need that, feel free to give me a yell. I've never done illegal drugs. I used to smoke (nicotine), but quit cold turkey quite some time ago ... however, in times of great stress; I've been known to start up again temporarily. I'm sapiosexual, polyamourous, and into BDSM ... and out to varying degrees to different people about those three subjects. I'm out as to being polyamourous, kinky and sapiosexual to basically everyone I care for aside from my father (we're estranged, no contact - long term). My mother and sister know, and so do my friends. Frankly, I see no sense in putting on an act when I want to be appreciated, valued, and loved for myself, not a fantasy. Essentially, I'm looking to meet open-minded, honest people in person, via email, via phone, etc, etc for platonic friendships (anything can grow, but that is not my immediate goal - if it's meant to be, it will flow naturally). Whether you are vanilla or baskin-robbins ... straight, gay, bi, etc ... male, female, or someone in-between ... irregardless of how society defines you, I'd like to hear how you define yourself. Honesty & an open-mind is ABSOLUTELY mandatory when you deal with me ... and keep in mind ... don't ask a question if you aren't prepared for the answer. If I have indeed piqued your interest, to be complete I need to say this: I understand that different things/appearances/attitudes attract different people to others - it's a fact of life, just like pheromones. While some may call others who state these 'requirements' superficial/shallow, I've come to the realization that it's just that ... that's what floats your boat, you need to be honest with yourself and others about it upfront. It may cause you discomfort to look hard within yourself, to find these 'prerequisites' ... irregardless of how 'shameful' or 'superficial' they might be to others, they're an integral part of you, and you need to be upfront about that, and accept that information in return. For instance: if you're not into plus sizes, don't waste our time - life's just too valuable to piss it away. By the same token, just as some folk list that they are looking for a specific requirement - be it height, weight, hair color, location, child-free ... I must state mine. In addition to the requirements I've stated above (examples: honesty, illegal-drug free, etc) ... What you need to know, is that for me, BDSM - it's not a ‘kink’, it's not a game, it is a lifestyle ... it is an integral part of my life. TPE is something I cherish, that I need just as much as the air that I breathe. Not to say I'm not a sadist, but ... if I had to choose between someone with submissive tendencies and someone with masochistic tendencies, I'd pick the submissive one hands down. There are many facets to me - I'm a dominant, a master, an owner, a sadist, an edgeplayer ... far too many to list (grins kind of like my kink interests ... waaay to much to list here!). I cherish who, and what, is Mine. And for perfect honesty, I need to tell you that M/s is central to my life - at the utter least (at this point in my life) anyone I'd consider exploring a relationship/dynamic with would need to be seriously submissive, if not a slave (for clarity's sake, my personal definition of a slave is someone who is willing to give up their limits in exchange for the limits of the one that owns them). I can't say that there will never be an exception - what will happen, will happen - but even so ... snort ... I can't even bring myself to type 'they'd have to accept that part of my life' ... because it's not 'a part' of my life ... it IS my life. If this is what you are interested in, your sexuality/sexual orientation is not an issue - I'd welcome a gay male or a straight female into my household with no reservations - I don't hold the belief that one must be romantically &/or sexually involved in order to have a fulfilling TPE relationship. If we are compatible as more than friends, I'd love for life to bring me a service oriented, submissive (preferably slave material - slave by my definition, may differ from yours) 'squeaky toy'.. someone who is verbal, and gives a lot of auditory feedback when they are being Topped. My ideal at this point would to be to find someone whose primary fulfillment was to serve, who loved to do 'the little things', who adored making service special - and who KNEW what I meant when I said that. That person being a masochist would be a plus, but not a requirement. Romantic involvement down the road ... honestly, in some cases, could be considered a plus, could be considered a negative. I'd adore a PURELY service oriented relationship, but I'm not going to prohibit a relationship from growing where it will. And yes, by romantic, I mean romantic, not sexual, and by service, I mean service, not sexual service. Any questions, write me. I've been a daddy, but at this point in my life I'm not looking for that type of relationship. Nor am I seeking any age-play relationships. Other than you being a non-minor, age does not matter, and neither does body size. If we are to be, YOU will attract Me .. your personality .. not merely your body. Honesty is 100% mandatory. period. no negotiation. If you have outside relationships, you must be honest with them about the existence of your other relationships, disclosing the content or details of the relationship(s) is up to you. If you think that you can cope with me on those terms, and if my profile piques your interest, feel free to drop me an email ... I'd love to make some more friends who won't shriek and flee in terror/(culture)shock/etc when I'm just being me, myself and I. WARNING: All institutions and/or individuals using this site or its associated sites for projects or personal: You do not have permission from me to use any of my profile or pictures in any form or forum both current and future. If you have or do, it will be considered a violation of my privacy and will be subject to legal action.

off to go change my age again *le sigh* ... I'm now 6 squared ... (hey, indulge your inner child whenever you can, right?)

... was looking through my journal entries, and was surprised I had not made one for 9/1/08, so here is an update:

on 9/1/08, hurricane Gustav crushed our home. as a result, we were moved from lodging to to lodging (and often were without internet for lengthy periods of time) for months. understandably, pretty much everything on the housing market post-Gustav could be termed a fixer-upper at best.

faced with the options of having to totally rebuild (something that we had been told would take months to over a year, and our lodging allowance was running out), or of being able to at the very least have a roof of our own over our heads, I purchased a fixer-upper with good bones in December of 2008.

That brings us up to date: right now, work is almost completely done on the second floor of the house, and we are working our way through the first floor. I am still sleeping on a mattress on the floor, but my child and my property have finally gotten into their rooms and are settled in.

Although I am fighting with my insurance company in court, I do not expect that to come to a resolution for quite a while (they are drawing things out).

So. Right now, any time I am not at work, I am usually trying to co-ordinate fixing our home. We are still living 24/7, but physical play has been put to the side for a while as physical security has held a higher priority.

I do not post this to deter conversations. If you are local, and you think we have enough interests in common to become friends: please drop me a line ... I could definitely use more friends, and the occasional outing would definitely lower my stress level.

quick note to those that have/will email: there's been a death in my family, which will as a consequence, delay replies.

thank you for your understanding ...
Jennifer

Have been taking some classes (loads!) *read cramming* of the work related/work requirement/continual training types, some of which have involved psych testing. For those of you who are interested, this week I tested as an INTP via Meyers-Briggs. (Close to INFP, it was more of a 60/40 split INTP/INFP, but they had to pick one, so they went with the more dominant *grins* traits.) When I'm told more, I'll post more, as folk have expressed interest.

First journal entry, figured I'd try this function out. Made it through 6/6/6 intact, alibet with a migraine (hence the insomnia, gentle readers).

The house projects continue (ironic, how right after I bought a house [didn't mention it in any way, shape, or form, even!] I started to be deluged with subs and slaves writing me that had construction &/or renovation specialties, all eager to serve but either FAR away and unable to travel, or inexplicably going *poof* ... I think the universe was trying to tease me *grins*) ... right now we're all working on painting the exterior of the house, weather & humidity pending (a major factor in Louisiana).

Other ongoing projects around the house ... I'm working on seedlings for an inverted garden I'm designing, expanding my dwarf fruit tree inventory in preparation for installing my privacy fence landscaping, finding studs for my siberian husky and schnauzer, preparing to install solar lighting on the perimeter of my lot, and slooooowly working on restoring my two antique Plymouth Trailduster Convertible Trucks. (any mechanics or body-work folk out there locally? I'd love some input!)

Started to list stuff on FetishAuctioneer again, we'll see how that pans out - I have my hopes, but then again, FA just ate all of my inventory pics. Bugger ... *sighs* ... I'll work on fixing that tomorrow, after (hopefully) my eyes don't feel like someone is stabbing the backs with icepicks to the tune of the anvil chorus.

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