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Each person's perception and definition of submissive seems to be different.  At one end of the continuum there seem to be women who are a bit kinky and enjoy being submissive to a physically dominant male for occassional sessions of lovemaking.  At the other end of the continuum we find women who want to submit completely and, depending on ones perspective and semantics, they desire to serve as slaves. 

It's all a bit confusing and in a great many cases women are seeking to find their boundaries and expore their true needs.  In my own case, I tend to quantify her submissive nature by my perception of her true desire to please.  That's not to say that a very submissive woman will jump of a building if she's told to do so.  In my experience and by my definition, a truly submissive woman exudes a sweet and patient personna as long as her Dom treats her well.  She doesn't sweat the small stuff and, as the saying goes, it's all small stuff to her.  At the other end of my perceived spectrum are woman who have a long list of wants and needs.  They remind me of the dating sites like POF where a person posts a very long list of qualifiers.  Honestly, everyone has the right to draw their own boundaries and dealbreakers.  But, when we draw these boundaries are we setting limits for others or exikling ourselves inside our own compound.  It's something I ponder myself.  

Here's the bottom line to my rambling.  Ladies, if you have boundaries or are a bedroom submissive, please be clear.  If you are exploring, be clear about where you think you want to go.  Most of you have done a wonderful job of communicating where you are in your journey.  The other thing you might do is describe YOUR Dom/partner.  But, that's another topic.  

As for me, I want more than just a bedroom submissive.  She doesn't need to be 24/7.  Although, I am open to 24/7 with the right woman.  I want someone who doesn't sweat the small stuff.  I do want someone who will laugh and talk with me.  I have three dealbreakers: 1) anger issues, 2) poor communication/listening skills and 3) selfishness.    

I beleive the submissive is the ultimate decisionmaker.  She chooses to give her heart, soul and body to her Dom.  She may also choose to move on at any time.  In the long term, the Dom must be tuned in to her emotional state and her general wellbeing and be almost empathic.  He must also give careful consideration to the needs and best interests of his submissive.  If not, he will find himself the king of nothing.  I find the king and queen metaphor very appropriat as I think of their deep, committed relationship.  She pledges her loyalty and obedience to him.  She answers only to him and he in turn raises her above all other women.  She bows to him out of appreciation, respect and admiration and he cherishes and protects her appreciates her service and obedience to him. 

"Inside every woman is a queen.  Speak to the queen and she will listen."

More about me...

Adventure - I enjoy sailing and owned a sailboat for about ten years.  I've also been a SCUBA diver (about 300 dives) and a pilot (about 250 hrs).  I have flown out into the Caribbean as far as the Turks and Caicos Islands.  I don't fly any more and I seldom SCUBA dive.  I tend to do activities that I can share with my sons.  I'm going to take my boys on a three or four week sailing trip in the Caribbean in two years.  I would love it if I had a partner who could go too.
Nature - I've hiked, camped and paddled canoes and kayaks across lakes and down whitewater rivers.  I've gone on canoeing trips in the back country as long as a week without seeing another person besides my companion.  I still enjoy camping with the boys and I own a Coleman pop-up camper.
Travel - I've been to more than thirty countries and island nations and been to about forty states.  I've been on safaris, vacationed on the great barrier reef  and stood on the great wall.  I've been all over the Caribbean.  I've been to more than a dozen islands in the Bahamas. I've been to St Croix, Barbados, Bonaire, Little Cayman, Cayman Brac, St. Vincent, Grand Turk.
Music - I pretty much enjoy all music except rap.  Like you, I'm not a big fan of country.  But, I do like some of the classics.
Poetry - I'm well versed (pardon the pun) in poetry and have written a few lines myself.  I enjoy so many poets, including the romantics as well as more modern poets.
Sports - I'm a big, strong man and I played many years of football.  I still downhill and cross country ski each year.  I also enjoy a leisurely bike ride or hike.
Sensuality - I still remember how to kiss a woman and fill her heart with desire.  I'm also very open-minded.  I'd love to give you a massage with a fragrant oil.  I have dozens of candles.  I love candlelight.  There are no window coverings in my house on the river.  At night I look at the stars.  The starlight is so romantic.
Art - I know a little bit about art.  I own at least fifteen originals in water color and oil on canvas.  I have some beautiful, limited edition serigraphs and prints.
Dance - I love to dance.  I just haven't had a partner for many years.  I've love to take dancing lessons/classes with someone very special.
Cooking - I love to cook.  I just don't seem to find the time.  When it's just you and me,
Home Improvement - I sold some stock and bought a chalet on the Sandy River two years ago. I've renovated the bathroom, the utility closet, the security system, the hearth and the woodstove thus far.  I've removed the flooring on the first floor and just need to install a wood floor and some carpeting and repair the decks.
Career - I'm an engineer and manager at a large corporation.  It's unseemly to brag about ones income. But, I'm in the top 1% in my field.  My employees give me wonderful support and feedback on surveys.  But the politics and the bureaucracy are stifling.
Childhood - I came from a very modest family.  In fact, I was the first person from both my mom's and my dad's sides of the family to graduate from college.
Childhood - I grew up on a small farm.  I worked in the family garden, rode horses and spent free time hunting and fishing.  I haven't been hunting in more than twenty years.  I don't think I could kill an animal any more.  I even go vegetarian a few days each week.
Intelligence and Genetics - I have an IQ that puts me in the top 1% of the population.  
 
I just want to be loved by a sweet, submissive woman.  I've had lots of fun and enjoyed my life.  I don't need any new adventures.  I don't need to prove anything to anyone.  I've done everything I've ever wanted to do and I'm totally content.  All I need is you. 

A submissive asked me what qualities I desire in a submissive.  Here's what I wrote:

My last three lovers/submissives keep sending me passages from the first and second books telling me that I am totally like Christian.  I read the sections and think that it's just good lovemaking/sex. 

I fell into D/s a little by accident.  In my opinion, the reason the D/s lifestyle and the books for that matter are so popular is that men and women are simply discovering their true nature.  A real man is powerful, dominant and physical when making love to his submissive.  Intellectuals have convinced normally rational people that we should ignore 100,000 years of evolution and be asexual.  Men and women are equals in many ways, but not when it comes to their relationship as a couple.  There can be only a Dom and a submissive, The degree to which they identify and claim their D/s roles is a function of their own "wiring." 

Now to answer the question; I have a high IQ and EQ.  I'm tall, strong and a physical lover.  I expect my submissive to be strong, physical and to still understand that she is mine and follows my lead as a woman follows the lead of her dance partner.  I know more about a woman's body than anyone except perhaps a capable gynecologist.  I will hold her tight, tease her, make her submit to me and basically do what I want with her.  If she follows my lead in the dance, she will find her own place with me and feel complete.  I will enjoy making her cum as slowly or as quickly as I choose and over and over and over again simply because I enjoy feel her hormones and my hormones flow together.  Woman are amazing.  I've made one cum as many as 40 times and always at least fifteen or twenty times.  She's lucky because it will be an amazing experience for her.  But, let's be clear, I'm in control and have my own agenda.  I have a different cuisine picked out each time.  I am benevolent and she will be fulfilled.  It's all in keeping with the way our bodies have evolved and the magic of evolution.  A real man can make a woman melt without toys and acoutrements.  They just keep things a little more interesitng over time... like spices in a dish.