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The sobs, cries, and whimpers of real pain form a language of beauty that rival the highest works of art or literature. There is a subtlety of abuse that ranges from the barely warming kiss of the hand or paddle to the sharpest punctuation of the skin-splitting cane.

A single needle worked into a nipple or clitoris over a period of hours leaves almost no mark, yet produces a near insanity producing cascade of sensations.

While the slavery may be sexual, it is the bonding between the heart and spirit of the sadist and subject that is critical. It does not beign with sex. You will not receive any sexual gratification in the exploratory stages - you must earn your sexual abuse.

Shall I write my art upon your back with my single tail? Shall we spend an evening leisurely exploring your ability to beg for relief as I apply and remove crushing clamps to your most intimate points?

Let us begin the adventure... DON'T STOP READING HERE; YOU WON'T UNDERSTAND UNLESS YOU READ THE FULL JOURNAL BECAUSE LIFE, LIKE ART, IS CONSTANTLY MOVING.
5/18/2010 6:39:54 PM
Are there those who want, need, crave; the full kiss of the crop and cane, who know where their fulfillmet lies?
7/14/2009 7:15:12 PM
She needs to:
be intelligent, and educated, and aware,
and not think that rabbit fur floggers are S/m,
and have a spiritual aspect,
and not have to report our every doings to her "girlfriends,"
and not be afraid to accept pain,
and to have respect for discretion on both our parts, and,
in the end to be real, and human, and forgiving, and understand that we are only passing through, and that the best we can do, is, in fact, the best we can do.
6/9/2008 5:40:10 AM

The question has been raised about the differences between the “service slave” relationship that I wrote about recently, and a corporal punishment (cp) relationship.

I believe the difference to be subtle in some respects, but significant in others.

The service slave appears motivated by a desire to diminish the ego primarily and to reinforce low self esteem. The cp relationship is not nearly as destructive, and is often a woman who simply finds she can relax better and accomplish more when there is physical feedback, from an outside power source, that is greater than what she supplies herself – sort of something to fall back upon for support.

A cp relationship also can provide simple structure, from tasks that must be accomplished within time limits to long-term goals that require a step-wise achievement.

5/5/2008 8:27:46 AM

Submission Without Sex?

A recent Profile that I stumbled across reminded me of a very special sub-set of the M/s dynamic; the service slave; or submission without sex (more or less). These can be delightful relationships, especially if one is into the creation of deep humiliation.

 

It seems to come across most often as part of a slave constellation where the slave see herself as profoundly unattractive (often unrealistically so), and most often a bit older. This also occurs in younger slaves, but I’ve noticed that when it is, it is often accompanied by moderate to severe gender identity issues or other sexual ambivalence problems. But ours not to reason why; ours but to give the slave the abuse she wants and needs!

 

This is a slave that thrives on contempt. You must make clear that you DO NOT find her attractive, and do not intend to provide sexually for her. Since she will be your property, of course, you need to make it clear that you will use her as you see fit, however. As I have expressed to a slave like this; “There may come times when I require sexual drainage, and may choose to use you for this purpose, if for some reason I do not find it worth my time to use a more fitting slave.” Thereafter, I would occasionally do just that; perform a quick and brutal deep throat for “drainage” purposes only. You must not use her genitally or anally, as she would derive pleasure from that

 

This is a slave that needs to be used, and used hard. If you choose to have her work outside of the home, she must work hard and provide all of her earnings to you. She must have a full load of difficult housework as well, and make sure that there is as little use of labor saving devices as possible – remember that a scrub brush works just fine on the floors. Loan her to friends for work; as long as you can trust them not to sexually gratify her.

 

I like a uniform; and NOT the classic “French Maid” style, which emphasizes the sexual attractiveness of the wearer. You want something like a calf length dress and high neckline and no makeup. Underneath, utilize appropriate breast and genital bondage and torture devices if consistent with her jobs.

 

Make sure that she is present when you use other slaves, to emphasize that they, and not she, are your sexual favorites. The more sex you can withhold from her the better, and while it is exceedingly difficult to restrict female masturbation, you must try. Make her sexual release as difficult and as humiliating as possible – give her 60 seconds on her knees to manually masturbate herself, and if she does not cum in that time; restrain her hands for a lengthy period. Provide ample verbal humiliation while she furiously fingers herself. Mock her afterwards.

 

More to come on this as I reconstruct past experiences – but one thing I can certainly say. Handled properly, your house, car, boat, etc. will never be cleaner!

2/28/2008 12:28:56 PM

Mothers and Slavery

 

            If there is one thing that any and all reasonable people have in common; it is the absolute belief that children have no place in the S/m life, should not be exposed to S/m, and that all adults have an unwavering duty to protect children from exposure to this potentially mentally disruptive lifestyle that they have no maturity to process.

 

            That said, what of the very common situation of mothers, particularly single mothers of small children, who need to pursue their destiny as slaves?

 

            My experience has been that compartmentalization is key. Both the Master and slave must accept that their will be times when the slave’s duty of care for her children will trump her ability to serve in the way that both she and the Master might prefer. This is a simple recognition of reality, and no more threatening to the power dynamic than to say we don’t play in public, or that we don’t permanently harm our property, or such. I am no less the Master because a slave may have to care for her children.

 

            Next, I think that 24/7 is essentially impossible when there are small children involved. Children are too omnipresent, and see, hear, and absorb too much, for them to live in such an environment. Even if that were not entirely so, it is impossible for a slave to relax fully to give her full service if she fears that her children might be peripherally exposed.

 

            I remember a situation with a slave who had several small children. She had shared custody with her ex; who took the kids every other weekend. I knew that within an hour of the appointed drop off time at her ex’s; I would find her, naked, in my garage, with her face pressed to the concrete steps of the door to the house. The next 36 hours were an absolute frenzy of debasement. I took special pains to devise tortures that left little external marks, and certainly no marks that would show outside of normal clothing. In fact, that exercise in necessary discretion forced me to teach myself many techniques that have proved invaluable ever since – such as pussy caning, restricting the strokes to the pudenda and uppermost inner thighs only, the single needle worked circularly around and around and into a nipple or clit, the use of sport creams and pepper extracts to torture sensitive membranes, the use of nipple and clit clamps, etc. We’d spend Sunday afternoons in after-care, gently rehabilitating her emotions so that she could be the prim and loving mom her kids expected when they returned at six o’clock.

 

            If the opportunity to put the kids into safe care for a day or two isn’t available,  more creativity is needed, but surely a parent, ex-spouse, or even paid babysitter can take the kids for a few hours; and a few hours may be all the stress relief that is needed. It takes about twenty minutes or so to tightly bind mom’s breasts, apply spreader bars to her ankles, and then suspend her by her breasts for a good fisting to orgasm. Even allowing her the necessary few minutes to undergo a forced throat rape afterwards is easily accomplished on a lunch hour.

 

            In fact, just knowing that time is limited can make every moment more intense and delicious.

 

            As an aside, I’ve noticed that moms who give in to their slave needs tend to be much more debauched than average. Perhaps it is due to their “vanilla” life, where they are on a pedestal of motherhood; but they seem to need such extremes as severe pain, humiliation, toilet training, etc, more than average.

 

            Approached logically, one can see why young mothers may even need slave experiences more than older women. Slaves in general are stressed because they are overwhelmed by choices and responsibilities in their lives. Children are the epitome of such responsibilities. Allowing mom time to express her slave self results in a draining of stress in every aspect of her life, and makes her a calmer and more accepting mom.

 

            I don’t generally like to make “rules;” but there really are some simple ones to make the young mom a great slave: a) keep the kids absolutely out of it; b) make her secure that this is so; c) and use her hard.
UPDATE - I have heard from a number of mothers and others on this subject, generally agreeing and speculating on the dynamics of the mother-slave; especially in regards to the extreme depravity often seen. I think it is fairly straightforward. Begin with the typical slave personality: Overwhlemed by choice, fearful of responsibility, and an overwhelming desire to turn over such responsibilities to a Master. Then, add motherhood, in which the Slave-mom becomes not only burdened by choice and responsibility for herself, but also by the need to care for and be accountable for her child. Sensory (or perhaps slavery)overload! No wonder a slave in this situation needs the most exquisite of tortures to find her release.
Perhaps we need to talk next about the types, limits, and practices of tortures and abuse that are suitable for the mother-to be.

8/3/2007 9:21:29 AM

A friend just told me that she thought my last entry was “discouraging” to think about. Not at all. It’s like the realization that life is hard; once you make that realization; life becomes a lot less hard.

Accepting reality is the first step towards enjoying it.

I love the interactions and people I have met here. So unpredictable – along with the usual batch of messages was a correspondent suggesting hair spray on a freshly shaved pussy as an exquisite torture – where else would one find such gems!

8/2/2007 1:25:17 PM

Zen and the art of CM

 

I have come to the conclusion that successful life and happiness on CM requires a very Buddhist-like orientation.

 

One must have no plans, hopes, dreams, expectations, ego, feelings, or demands, to be happy.

 

You will receive three word responses from correspondents who assure you that they are looking for in-depth conversation.

 

Innocent remarks will bring forth torrential abuse.

 

Most of the people with whom you converse will probably not be of the gender, role or state of residence that they indicate.

 

Most of the photos that will be sent will not be of the senders.

 

People, including those with whom you are having good conversations, will inexplicably block you or simply disappear.

 

Most planned meetings will fall through. You will spend a lot of time arranging public meetings with “no shows.”

 

An author once jokingly referred to the fact that you could trust things found on “the always prestigious internet.” Maybe that’s the key; accepting that everything loose somehow rolls towards the internet and that expecting the normal rules for human interactions to apply is the basic mistake that will lead to unhappiness.

6/26/2007 12:59:01 PM

I was recently amused to read a lengthy discourse on anal “training,” purporting to be the best method of introducing a woman to anal sex. All in all, quite long and involved, starting with a well-lubricated little finger, lots of slow movement, and then progression, always with her full permission and cooperation, to eventual (if the man was lucky) entry.

 

Good for vanilla, but in a D/s relationship, to paraphrase Nike, just take it!

 

The slave must be introduced to anal servitude early in the relationship, and I believe the best way is to simply take her dry and forcefully, in order to keep the roles in proper perspective.

 

A little groundwork and positioning will help make it most effective and painful for the slave, and therefore most enjoyable for the Master. The best position is doggy-style from the rear, on the floor or other firm surface. She should have her wrists tied behind her, legs spread with a spreader bar, and neck collar attached with a short chain to the same spreader. The neck to spreader bar is a key point, as it will prevent her from arching her back to get away from the invading cock. It also prevents her from straightening her legs, which would cut down on the depth.

 

Then do it. Press firmly until she screams, then hold as long as you like before backing off a few millimeters. Irregular staccato thrusts make it harder for the anus to relax and will increase the pain, but use good sense in not overdoing the pressure. When full depth has been achieved, long strokes will pull the anal mucosal and produce an agonizing tearing sensation. The position is so humiliating and the pain so excellent that you should expect her to be completely undone. As you may like, pull her head up by her hair so that you may slap her face or breasts. Insist that she tell you how good it feels between screams and to beg for more. Take your time and pause frequently so that your own orgasm will be delayed. If you are really determined, you can pull out of her to take whipping or caning breaks and to observe the anal damage. Emphasize to her that you intend to take her this way frequently, and that the pain will not decrease until her body learns to keep nothing back from you. Instill in her that you intend to absolutely break her in this manner.

 

Interestingly, you may find this exercise less physically pleasurable than using lube, but the point is the breakdown of the slave, not your temporary fun.

 

You will have to decide whether to cum in her ass or to have her finish you orally. I personally vary according to the impulse of the moment. I tend to prefer the former, because, at least on the initial training, I like to end by releasing her hands, having her scrape the cum, blood, and secretions from her ass with her fingers, and then, after giving her thanks, licking them up. I am well aware of the “conventional” wisdom that this is a “dangerous” practice, but have never experienced, nor even heard of, from a trustworthy source, of a deleterious result. The mental effect of this humiliation is never anything less than spectacular, so be prepared for a good deal of aftercare to deal with the dehumanization that you are producing.

 

After she is well trained, and there is no longer any question of her promptly and pleasurably giving up every part of her body on your demand, I vary the positioning more and will use lubricant. One of my favorites is to lift up her dress in the kitchen and bend her over the counter. Another fave, and I do love the dilemmas, is to use a massive amount of lube, then demand that she hold all the secretions in her, or face a severe caning. That’s almost impossible to do, as the lubricant liquefies and the stretched ass has minimal holding capacity.

4/2/2007 12:57:36 PM

Several have questioned my statement that the M/s relationship does not begin with edge play (although that ought to be obvious), and have asked, then, how does it begin?

 

It is my belief that it begins with a great deal of talking. The Master has to know the potential slave’s entire life story, particularly all the sexual details. He needs to know when she first had inklings of submission, and how the theme has played out in both fantasy and reality. Besides giving the Master the tools which he needs to work, it also begins clearing the blockages that might prevent her power transfer to him. Part of our ego is the secrets we keep; as the ego dissolved, there is less and less to become secret.

 

The physical aspects of the relationship may begin in many, many ways, and no two programs are ever the same – but the real-life relationship doesn’t begin with needles and blood! In general, I favor action programs that combine a physical component (this is what must be done) with a psychological component (inherent in what you must do are certain side effects that will direct your power towards me).

 

As I have written before, slaves generally seek servitude at least in part because they are overwhelmed by the number of choices in a free life. Therefore, it is important to immediately begin cutting down these choices.

 

-                     Slaves should not possess money, because in a capitalist society, money is freedom. Slaves certainly should never have access to cash, the ultimate in freedom. When shopping at the Master’s behest, a credit card is better, because every expenditure in every locale will be permanently itemized.

-                     Slaves should not carry any identification. If she needs to, such as when shopping with her Master’s credit card, she should be given it just before, and it should be taken away, just after. When they are together, if she requires ID or a ticket, he should carry it.

-                     Changing a slave’s name can be very helpful in accelerating the enslavement process. And not with something dumb, like “kunt” that you can’t call her in public without looking like an a-hole yourself. Perhaps it’s an homage to “The Story of O,” but I have always been to partial single letter names, “k,” or “m,” or the like.

-                     Slaves need to be kept substantially naked in private. If it’s cold, at least keep her bottomless with a warm sweater on top. Of course all slaves are to be kept shaved, so their nakedness is complete. When she is taken from the house, and I like to see slaves get out often and avoid cabin fever, she preferably wears a vaginal dildo or butt plug, or both, so that the loss of her nakedness might not cause her to forget her servitude.

-                     I insist on a lot of crawling on hands and knees. It takes a little practice, but it is really very easy for her to learn to back onto a toilet while keeping her hands on the floor, or to take a shower while kneeling.

-                     She enters your space, such as your office or your bed, at your invitation only. She should be made to sleep chained next to your bed at least part of the time to reinforce the nature of the privilege of sharing your space.

-                     Whenever an opportunity comes up to give her a choice – DON’T do it. Even though it’s a lot of effort. You may wish to make her do as much physical work as you like; but you must decide how the laundry should be done, what should be made for dinner, what entertainment you will see together. You can be tremendously set back by something as simple as letting her pick her own clothing.

-                     Speaking of clothing, I once almost instantly bonded a very intelligent and proud slave by the simple expedient of throwing out all of her clothing. We bagged up everything and left her with only a single dress, without underwear, and a single pair of shoes (Obviously I couldn’t take her shopping naked.) . We drove to Goodwill and I had her hand everything over. Over the next several weeks, I bought new everything for her. After our first shopping trip we burned that last dress and shoes.  It cost a few thousand dollars, but she immediately became the meekest and best behaved slave one could imagine. Clothes mean a lot to most women, and it is a wonderful letting go of the old life. For the first year, each new season entailed my purchase of a new wardrobe for her, and she was again mentally stripped bare each time.

-                     Good grooming must be enforced. Hair and nails are always to be proper. Skin is to be kept moisturized. Shaving must be complete at all times, unless the Master has chosen to keep the pussy shaved himself; she must make sure that no stubble appears.

-                     Deference must be shown to all of your friends and other possessions. It sounds silly, but long before I even consider introducing a slave to beasty sex, she is to bow before and show proper respect to my dog.

-                     Slaves love physical touch. As you take away the mental confusion in her life by limiting her choices, you need to replace that bad stimulation with good pet-like rewards. She should kneel on the floor by your side while you work or read. Stroke her hair and face. Caress her shoulders and tell her that she is being a good slave and that you appreciate her. Later, when you are at a more advanced level, you may occasionally wish to hear the music of her tears. but not at first. When the time comes, she will be glad to bear your pain for her amusement.

 

No blood, no burns, no pain. Just service. And by the way; you will see if you have a “true” slave, and those of you who know me know what I think of that term. A true slave becomes calmer and happier with each deprivation of freedom, and anxious to give up more. Those without the calling will chafe under the rules and eventually fall away. I am sure that I will hear of many other good techniques from my correspondents, but that will do for now.

 

3/12/2007 2:10:59 PM

A very well-spoken correspondent has asked for some observations on obedience. It’s an interesting topic, since one would think that obedience would be a given in a Master-slave relationship, but it’s not necessarily so.

 

The lowest level of obedience is a slave’s obedience in doing the things that she wants to do anyway. To be bound, to give her orifices, to accept certain humiliations; these are the kind of focusing acts that virtually every slave needs in order to feel order in her life.

 

Non-Masters are always surprised, thinking, “Well, no one really wants pain, so I must be really mastering her to get her to accept it.” Not at all. Fairly early in relationships I will nearly always ask a potential slave to perform some minor act like passing a needle through her nipple – and they almost always do it immediately and without hesitation. That’s not real obedience.

 

Especially in domestic discipline situations, it’s easy for a relationship to get stuck on a rule-punishment level in some variety of the “brat” game. The slave misbehaves or refuses in order to provoke discipline from the Master, the Master reacts, and the slave appears chagrined; but is already well on her way to her next disobedience by the time the punishment ends. She really wants to obey, but acts out because she feels that she cannot ask for the pain and punishment that she may need.

 

I view this as an honesty issue, rather than an obedience issue. Slaves have needs and the necessity of expressing them. While I have played the brat game, I would infinitely rather have a slave ask for the release of the cane than for her to attempt to provoke me into using it on her. I like punishing for the beautiful clear experience of pain that I inflict, to see the trembling and hear the crying that comes from the deepest level of the soul.

 

A higher level of obedience, and much more fulfilling, is the training to obedience as to what she doesn’t want to do. The art is in finding out what that really is, because it varies so much. For some, it can be language, such as remembering to ask the Master if he would like his cock sucked on the schedule he has laid out for her, for others, it could be taking severe pain, for others, it can simply be being left alone under scary circumstances. The trick, although it really isn’t a trick, is to have the sense for that slight, but genuine, hesitation that precedes the obedience that signals something really hard to do, and then working through the task over and over until the hesitation is eliminated.

 

The highest level, and one rarely achieved, is where the obedience is so automatic that all tasks become equal, so that she obeys that which she fears desperately with just as much speed and outward calm as those that she delights in. I think the highest level I ever achieved was when I once trained a slave to say, no matter how much suffering she was enduring, from the bottom of her heart and with absolute sincerity, that I could increase the pain, and even torture her to death, if it would amuse me. Of course, she also had faith that I would never do so, but submitting under those circumstances is true obedience.

2/1/2007 1:05:03 PM

A recurring issue with slaves that requites intense intervention for success is weight control. Anyone who peruses these pages will see that a very large proportion of slaves and submissives are overweight. Slaves are inherently out of control people; they require slavery in order to impose order on an internal world that is in chaos without that control. Here are a few thoughts on weight control:

 

If the prospective slave is more than about twenty or thirty pounds overweight – don’t bother with significant weight reduction. More than that amount of weight will have stretched the skin so much that significant weight loss will likely result in an awful baggy mess that can only be partially rectified by plastic surgery. It isn’t worth it; really fat slaves need to be toned up a little bit and then accepted (or rejected) the way they are.

 

A prospective slave with a lesser weight problem can be both a challenging and very rewarding project. Firstly, the fact that she has “only” a 20-30 or less pound weight problem suggests that she has been mightily fighting it in her own confused and dysfunctional slave way for many years – therefore she’s ripe for the imposition of order. Secondly, the fact that that you will accomplish what she could not will strengthen your control. Lastly, in this weight group, she will look a lot better when done!

 

Overeating is such a firmly ingrained habit that I do not think you are likely to be successful by “ordering” compliance. The will to eat is too strong. You must physically isolate the slave from food. This means caging (less practical) or chaining the slave so that she literally cannot get to food under any circumstance. A collar chain (locked, of course) will work, but I prefer a labia ring, padlock, and chain. A very nice kick-off to the weight loss regime can be the piercing and placement of the ring, if your slave is not already so pierced. There is a slight side benefit here – as my friends know, I am a devotee of “dilemma” type tortures, and your labially pierced slave will always have the ability to tear the ring out of her labia to get to the food. I have heard of it being done but never witnessed it.

 

Next, you have to break the habit of eating; which is easily done. It’s actually faster to put the slave on a high protein, high fat diet (Atkins, South Beach, etc.) than it is to starve her. A particularly effective way to get stated is with a two day “fat fast.” Four times a day, feed the slave 1/4 of a regular sized block of cream cheese. By the way, by “feed,” I mean “feed by hand.” This strengthens the slave’s association that you are the one who controls the food, just like the alpha in a wolf pack. Provide plenty of water in her dish and a multi-vitamin each day. Allow easy bathroom access as the diet will induce quite a bit of urination at first. You cannot unchain her except when you are physically present to prevent eating.

 

Once the diet is underway, you need to break the association between pleasure and eating. Food should always be provided in the floor dish, and should be as unappetizing as possible. Very bland foods such as dry boiled meat and a few vegetables will keep the weight loss going well. Weigh every few days and provide praise, but remind her that it is only your control that is leading to success. After a couple of weeks of high protein, I like to wean the slave onto a diet including such items as oatmeal, dry dog food, or the like.

 

To further break the eating-pleasure association, the slave should be given only a few minutes for each meal, and should always be tortured while eating. You may wish to whip or cane her while she desperately licks at the bowl, but my personally favored method is be behind her and to put her face down to the bowl while forbidding her to eat; then telling her she must beg for a dry anal rape if she wants permission to eat. If she doesn’t beg well enough, remove the food and tell her that you may give her another chance later (but don’t do so until the next day). If she begs well, let her eat and immediately violate her as forcefully as possible. Hopefully you have provided food that is hard to get down, like a large piece of meat or something very dry, so you will have ample opportunity to see her stop, cry out, resume, repeat, etc. If she displeases you at any time, or sometimes just for fun, take away the food and indicate that she must wait until you decide to re-supply it.

 

It will likely take a month or two for the desired weight loss. This begins the most difficult part of the process, the prevention of relapse. You must continue to control the food, and she is absolutely forbidden to eat anything that you have not fed her, or otherwise granted your permission for. Always maintain food control – take her to a restaurant and order whatever you want, but deny her any. Make her cook something at home that she loves (you must supervise to prevent “sampling” while cooking), and then make her put her portion down the disposal. Practice taking her food away from her or denying her meals for no reason. When she begins to react with indifference to such treatment, it is actually a positive sign.

 

Beyond a few weeks, it is likely no longer feasible to keep her restrained 24/7, so expect some cheating. Impose a random weighing process. If her weight has gone up by more than a pound or two, you must go back on the restraint system. You should also be extremely severe in punishment; whatever she hates most. It could be dog food on which you have urinated, highly salted food with water restricted after, whatever it takes to make her fear the consequences of your displeasure over her uncontrolled eating more than any amount of pleasure she could derive from it.

 

Eventually, she will settle down to your desired weight and interventions will become less necessary. At the same time, she is likely to enjoy her new weight and appearance, and know that she cannot possibly maintain it without your control, thus strengthening the relationship.

1/9/2007 2:19:20 PM

            Some of my correspondents have told me that my journal entries have tended too much to the extreme – that the real life day in a day-in day-out M/s relationship is about a lot more than such edgy scenes. Well, of course! The things that I have written about have been high points, not the daily fare.

 

            Something that is part of the daily life is the imposition of rules and rituals into the relationship. I don’t go with the extremes of Gor and the like, it’s too much of a fantasy for me. Remember that slaves feel internally out-of-control; they seek the imposition of external controls in order to feel safe against their own internal chaos. Therefore, the imposition of rules helps keep them calm. Some things that are easy to do on a daily basis are:

 

            On Your Knees -- I have an entryway that is immediately flanked by a fairly large closet. I marked about a four by four foot square area on the floor just inside the front door, at the closet. On entering, she must put down anything she is carrying and undress, hanging her clothing in the closet. I moved a small dresser into the closet to hold clothing better adapted to folding. The only place in the house that she is permitted to stand without permission is in that four by four area. If I wish her to wear something special (like lingerie or clamps), I will leave the items and a note to that effect in her area, but otherwise, nakedness is the default position. To leave the square, she crawls on her hands and knees. She may then put away the groceries or attend to household activities (using a small step-stool, but always on her knees) to do so. She may crawl to me and kneel beside me, if I am at home. All home chores are performed kneeling, which markedly increases their difficulty and keeps her occupied (try doing the laundry on your knees, for example). Unless I am planning some special bathroom games, she may use the toilet by backing on to it, in a kneeling position, and staying down on her hands and knees, She showers and performs all personal hygiene in a kneeling position. She does not arise, unless ordered to do so. When it is time to leave go to work or otherwise leave home, she returns to her square, where she may stand and get dressed.

 

            Always Filled -- Speaking of leaving home, a fairly simple adjunct is to require that she always be both vaginally and anally filled with suitable dildoes when leaving the home. A double dildo harness will hold both underneath clothing (obviously panties are not considered part of acceptable slave clothing) quite easily. We keep the dildoes and harness in dresser near her square. When she comes home, there is a note telling her if she is allowed to go to the bathroom and remove the dildoes and clean them, then return them to the dresser. When it is time to go out, she must lubricate them and re-insert them. For amusement, one can vary the amount and type of lubricant allowed. Saliva will dry out almost immediately, causing the dildoes to stick and irritate the tender membranes severely. Water based lubricants like KY will last longer, but not indefinitely. It’s easy to see from the expression on her face, with each movement, how dry she is becoming.

 

            First and Last -- Somewhat unrelated to the above should be the ritual that the first and last thing in the slave’s mouth each day should be the Master’s penis. It’s good discipline for her to have to wake up first, and then gently worship me while I awaken. Likewise, it’s good for her to have the responsibility for lulling me to sleep. For advanced practitioners, the morning caress can be combined with toilet duties, which further focus the slave on her submission. Practicing first and last is good quiet time for the slave to concentrate fully on pleasing her Master, without any outside distractions.

 

 

11/22/2006 6:55:59 AM

            In honor of the upcoming Holidays, and food, some recent observations on the Capsicum family and figging:

 

            Jalapenos are ideal for figging, easy to obtain and work with, and quite hot. I carved a section of a jalapeno wall lengthwise, so that it looked a bit like a lollipop – that is, a large area on one end tapering into a lollipop-like looking “stick.” I inserted the tapered stem into her urethra and the intense burning began immediately. Leave the skin on the outside of the jalapeno so that it keeps its strength, as you don’t want it to break off and enter the bladder. The ferocious muscular contractions of the burning urethra will try to force it out. For a while it was fun to hold it in place and move it gently in and out to increase the burning, but I wanted something a little less hands on so that I could use her in various ways while the burning continued. I found that some light clips used to hold the inner labia lips together are perfect for retaining the pepper in the urethra. An additional bonus developed, the large area on the end of the pepper slice, which I had intended only to prevent the slice from moving backward into the bladder, was now trapped inside the inner labia, so that the mixed pepper and slave juices now seeped down, inside the labia, towards the vagina. The burning thus spread throughout the pussy.

I told her that I would remove it after she had made me come orally, but then removed my cock from her reach every few minutes to prolong the event. When I assessed that the sobbing had reached its peak, I gave her a nicely earned success. The burning took about half an hour to subside, although it was several hours before she could urinate, which reactivated the burning somewhat.

 

            Also on the subject of jalapenos, I found that they work anally quite well also. Cut grooves in the outside skin of the jalapeno so that the juice can escape. I found that a zester made just the right kind of grooves, but with patience you could use a small knife. Then insert partway into the anus and burning will begin in seconds. The advantage of this technique is that no special care needs to be taken to prevent the pepper from pushing up in into the rectum, as it is small and will eventually be expelled. That happened eventually, and was quite amusing. Although it lessened the anal burning a bit, it allowed the juice to spread around the lower part of the rectum and produce a more generalized burn. It is also fun if you’re into “dilemma” like scenes, as the slave must decide whether to try to push the burning pepper out past the vulnerable anus, and the grunting and straining to do so while burning is fun.

 

            Oral jalapeno can also be used for a “hot” oral sex experience, but it takes delicate timing. I finely chopped two or three peppers into an almost paste, then using a mouth gag, placed them in her mouth and took care to rub it well into her lips, tongue, cheeks and soft palate. After a few minutes (the tear production was spectacular) I then let her rinse with water and spit out the paste. I waited about ten minutes before taking her orally. It was a little too hot, and I should have waited a bit longer. Also, I’m not really a fan of penile irritation, so this was not a real success. Perhaps it would be better if you were into mutual pain, but I’m more of a one-way dom.

 

            My greatest pepper triumph so far has been vaginal habanero. As most know, the habanero is the hottest pepper generally available in the United States; many times hotter than the jalapeno. I found some dried habaneros and immediately realized they were perfect for vaginal use. Simply push a dried habanero deep into the vagina, up against the cervix. The dried pepper will immediately suck onto the wet walls of the vagina and stay in place. Be sure to use a dried habanero, because a fresh one won’t attach itself (I tried) and will get pushed out unless you use the kind of labial clips I used with the urethral jalapeno.

 

            The burning is insane, and the slave will squirm and strain to push it out – generally to no avail, although the pepper will eventually become fully hydrated from vaginal moisture and she will be able to expel it. In the meantime, your enjoyment will be extreme. Also as with the experiments above, the mixed vaginal and pepper juice (and the irritation greatly increases her secretions), will run out and inflame the outer vulva. I tired using some light panties to help catch the juice and concentrate it around the pussy, which did work, but found it was much more fun to see her exposed pussy pump and work. It also caused a moderate swelling of the labia. Anal penetration while the slave is burning and crying is fun, but be careful not to get any of the pepper juice on you. That stuff is really hot.

 

So, as the holidays approach, remember that food has many uses besides overeating at the dining table. Enjoy!

10/3/2006 8:45:19 AM
Is it possible, or better yet, is it desirable to have a completely non-sexual S/M relationship?


I know that it is possible, and can even be quite intriguing, to have a non-sexual S/M encounter. I recall a middle-aged masochist who was a wonderful conversationalist and extremely interesting person. She needed to confess and be corporally punished for her extremely lurid sexual imagination and auto-erotic activities. We would arrange to meet at her place, where, on my arrival, she would be kneeling, facing away from the entrance, fully clothed.


I would pointedly demand to know about her self-directed sexual activities and thoughts. She would confess her adventures with self-breast bondage under her clothes at work and out of the house, her wearing of vaginal and anal dildoes, and her streaming (and very hot) fantasies of rape and torture. I would lead the conversation along as she obviously became progressively more aroused. Finally, I would announce that she "needed" to be beaten for being such a filthy slut in her heart, and direct her to undress without leaving the kneeling position (which, unless you've tried it, is more difficult than it sounds and somewhat humiliating in itself). She would invariably be wearing very sexy lingerie, which I would berate her for as she removed it.


I would have her hold her hands over one another, palm to back of hand, and then across her face, while I administered the beating. I generally began with a light warm up, such as with a light paddle, and then progressed to a "thuddy" that was sure to leave significant marks. For a special treat, I would occasionally use a cutting cane and break the skin. I believe she orgasmed, quietly, during the beating; but I am certain that she screamed loud and long. It was conducted very impersonally, with her never looking directly at me throughout. (The hands over face helped with this, as, if desired, I could move into a side position to place welts on the front of her thighs or belly if wanted. I always liked to give her at least one or two on the front, where she would be easily able to see them later.)


At the conclusion, which I varied in time to keep an element of surprise, I left her crying in position while I silently left. We would usually meet a day or two later for coffee and she would never refer to the session, but would exude a marked lightness and calm. Within a few weeks, she would again appear anxious and nervous and I would ask if she required another "get-together." The answer was generally yes.


I think that because the intellectual give and take was so good, and because she could take an unbelievable amount of punishment, that I didn't miss a sexual angle to our relationship.


On another level, I have experienced encounters where the absence of a sexual component was a negative. Once in a while, a fellow dom will ask me to punish his slave while he either watches, or while he uses her. It can be very pleasant to whip a slave's ass while she orally services her master; especially to see the frenzied activity when you convince her that the only way the punishment will stop is when the master is satisfied. It is also very pleasant to place a slave in a hands and knees position, and then pull her head up and look into her eyes, while whipping her breasts with a crop, while the master enjoys her from behind.


I know that the absence of a sexual component can be a negative because, in these encounters, on several occasions, after the Master has used the slave, he has offered me her throat for use; a very elegant gesture. As I am generally aroused by the punishment, these have been very relieving and enjoyable. When a slave has been thoroughly used and beaten, her neck becomes limp and, with a good grasp of her hair, one can manipulate her head and neck very easily and effectively. On other occasions, the Master has not made such an offer, and in keeping with proper etiquette, I have not made a request. These, in general, were less satsifying sessions, and I didn't feel the same sense of mastery over the slave. 

Is it a disservice to the nature of the relationship for it to be non-sexual? One of the best antidotes to topping from the bottom is to maintain the slave in a position where she must "earn" her abuse; if we give her the pain that she desires without "paying the piper," do we set ourselves up for a disordered master/slave relationship? Can a masochist female ever truly respect a sadist who does not take what he wants from her?


So, in the end, would a non-sexual S/M relationship be a good thing, or would it deprive the participants of a dimension of mastery and servitude that can't really be reached in any other way?
9/25/2006 10:41:24 AM
9/25/2006

            A question has come up in regard to the very frequent problem of the control of masturbation in female slaves. After much investigation and numerous discussion with both masters and slaves, I have come to the conclusion that there is no effective mechanical means of preventing this “theft of services,” i.e., there is no effective chastity belt or other device that will effectively prevent a clever slave from orgasming without permission.

            As always in a proper sadist/masochist relationship, the correct solution is a psychological one, by instructing the slave on a practical level that the physical pain of disobedience is far greater than the physical pleasure of cheating.

            The slave in a good master/slave relationship is quite transparent. If they don’t immediately volunteer that they have broken a rule, they generally act in such a manner so that minor questioning reveals the truth. I dealt with a confession of illicit masturbation, which had been expressly forbidden, in the following manner.

            To heighten the intensity of the later punishment, I began with a pleasant treat, sending the slave for a full manicure at her favorite salon.

            I obtained an older, but substantial, bentwood cane-seat chair from a thrift store and cut away the cane seat, leaving the bentwood frame. I then screwed a toilet seat on to the top, the commercial kind with a gap in the front of the rim, as opposed to the more usual home style that makes a complete oval. I admired her manicure, then took an emery board and placed a fine edge on the nails of her right hand, making them quite sharp. The slave was then seated on the seat, facing backwards towards the chair, with a tight belt around her waist. The belt was attached, with about a foot or so of slack, to her right wrist (the importance of right and left will soon become obvious), and her thighs were bound to the chair so she could not stand up or move away.

            Her left hand was then bound to the top of the frame of the back of the chair, not so tightly as to make it immovable, but tight enough so that she couldn’t slip the bond. Therefore, you can see that her right hand was capable of reaching her pudenda, but her left hand was out of reach of her right.

            I asked if she had been guilty of masturbating, and of course she confessed, promising that she would never do it again. I asked her if she enjoyed touching herself, and, honest slave that she is, she answered, “very much.” I then told her that I would allow this pleasure. I placed a moderately large amount of lubricant on her sex and told her to begin. She did so immediately and soon was working up a good head of steam.

            I then told her to use her very sharp nails on herself, and of course, like the typical slave, immediately began exaggerating her suffering, crying over her alleged agony. Just like the slave’s promise that she would never masturbate again, this was useless – slaves will say anything to avoid punishment at the moment of truth! I instructed her to dig deeper and harder, that I expected to see blood. More drama, without much more productivity followed, as I knew it would.

            I gently took her left hand, tied as it was to the upper back of the chair, and uncurled her fingers, telling her that she clearly needed more motivation to do as she was told. I took a pin (needles are too sharp for this) and inserted it under the fingernail of her little finger and pushed it in the tiniest fraction of an inch. I then told her to dig harder and deeper with her right hand, and there was a very slight improvement. I told her that the time for avoidance was done, and pressed the pin in about a quarter of an inch. She began screaming and crying and masturbating furiously, digging her nails nicely into her skin.

            I reminded her that I knew how slaves exaggerated their sufferings, and that I was going to impose an objective measure of suffering on her, so that she could be confident that no amount of piteous begging would cut short her punishment. I placed a single (half) paper towel on a dinner plate on the floor under her seat, and told her that when the towel was fully covered with blood, that is, when there was no more white on the towel, that she would be finished. I continued to work the pin until it was about half way up the nail bed. I then placed a second pin about an eighth of an inch to the side of the first and began again. I observed to her that we had plenty of time, as I thought I would be able to get at least five pins into each nail bed, and with five fingers, this might take a while. I then moved on to her other fingers.

            It took about three or four fingers to get an absolute frenzy of uncontrolled self-abuse. I think I had about ten pins in by the time she soaked the towel. I left her to sit and contemplate for about a half hour before asking if she would ever masturbate without permission again.

            It took about a week before she was able to use her left hand to grasp anything, which is why I selected the left for punishment. Even today, all I have to do is to ask if she requires punishment and gently press on one of her fingernails to get the most magnificent shudder and to sees tears begin to form.

           

NDbbw26redhead
 
 Age: 25
 Alabama, Senegal