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deprivedlilone

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i absolutely hate having to fill this part out... hmm where to begin. i train dogs in detection and protection. its my passion and it takes me all over the country. i've always been interested in alternative lifestyles and once i had my first taste i became hooked. i'm obnoxious, caring, considerate and too trusting. more often then not i get burned by people cuz i always expect them to do the right thing and make good decisions and am amazed when they don't. one would think i would learn but never do. i apparently need protection from my self.... i am however almost always smiling. i have to make decisions and manage people everyday so when its all said and done i like to give up all control to someone else. the power exchange is a rush, when you willingly submit to someone body and mind and they truly cherish you for it that is the best feeling in the world.

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9/1/2013 10:58:42 AM

I often get asked about the fact that I am a dog trainer and a sub. Yes my role in my job mimics that of a Dominant and their sub. I tell those that ask the similarities are amazing and it makes for very interesting training conversations with Doms that are interested. Here is a piece of an article a friend wrote that really hits some good points.

"Lets be honest: There are good trainers, okay trainers, and bad trainers.
Regardless of tool used, good trainers have happy and trained dogs and poor trainers don't. They might have one of the two; happy or trained.
A good trainer is not limited by what is in their pockets, or what equipment they use. The only tool that they need is their mind. With their mind they can motivate, they can condition, they can control and they can train. They possess feel and timing; knowing what to give, when, and how much. 
They can see what they like, and motivate the dog to give them more of it. They can minimize what they don't like, by building an alternate behaviour or emotion, or just asking that it goes away. They make their dogs believers- that they are the best in the world, and that their relationship can take them through thick and thin. The weakest dog will look strong beside them, and the strongest dog will look proud, and contained. 
They know when to push for more. They know when to settle for less. And they know when to call it a night. They know when to rush in and help their dogs, and they know when to let their dogs work it out. 
There are no recipes for training dogs. Nor are there any absolute rules. We must sometimes break our own rules to reach our goals. Some dogs need to be allowed to have certain bad behaviours that we never allow, because taking it away will make the dog a shadow of his former self. If that badness is the only oomph that the dog has, it needs to stay until more oomph is created. Specific badness is sometimes needed to grow confidence, however, your control must be taught at the same time so these dogs don't explode on you once your confidence building is a success! And I would only advise doing this under the advise of a veteran, successful trainer.
We must know not to insult a strong dog with gushy crooning praise, unless it is done at home, in private, when they might secretly love it.
We must know to believe the praise that we speak to an intelligent dog, otherwise we are lying to them.
We must know the give and take when getting a control-freak bitch to cooperate with our own agenda. 
We must also know how to make that same control-freak bitch love us, when she doesn't need us. She must want us, and we must be worthy in order for that to happen.
Training a dog is a relationship, the same as it is with a child, a partner, or anyone else that is intimately in your life. While there are rules, everyone might need to be broken in certain scenarios. And what worked brilliantly on Monday might be completely wrong and offensive for tuesday - only your feel and timing will guide you on the difference.
The relationship is everything. If you have a good relationship with your dog they will be happy, and clear in understanding regardless of what tools you do, or do not, use. If you have a poor relationship, you can make the kindest tool a weapon, or the most violent tool a reward. "

Ihope some of those that I've had training discussions with enjoy this and can relate.


8/30/2013 1:49:52 AM
"in my opinion, actual heroism, like actual love, is a messy, painful, vulnerable business." John Green

8/23/2013 4:30:19 AM

If my body type doesn't appeal to you just move on. I don't need your insults.

Thank you MasterT77 for the kind words "you are big enough that it would certainly be an embarrassment to be seen with you in public....Contact me if you're serious about bringing yourself down to an acceptable weight and serving a Dom that isn't going to tolerate anymore laziness out of you...." Seriously lazy? I work 60hrs a week 1/2 of that outside in our lovely 100+ Texas heat. Anytime one of you asses who feel compelled to comment on my laziness and weight want to come to San Antonio and see if you can keep up with me I'm game!


8/21/2013 12:26:33 AM
I have no interest in married or attached men... please be respectful and not contact me.

8/14/2013 4:06:00 PM
I keep reading in Doms profiles and journals about all the games and fakes out there. the same is true on our end. you'll converse with a Dom exchange numbers and set up meetings and then just as meeting time draws near... puff they disappear. if you're lucky they'll give you some excuse but most of the time it's the silent treatment. it's so detrimental to one's self confidence. if you lose interest just say so. it's about building trust and that starts with honesty. you may not have interest in a sub but dropping her with no reason as to why is just making it harder for the next one who comes along who might actually be genuine.

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Rainevd
 
 Age: 41
 Philadelphia, Pennsylvania