DapperWood

I will communicate with complete honesty my needs, desires, limits, and experience.

I realize that failing to do so will not only prevent my Master and me from having the best experience possible, but can also lead to physical and emotional harm.

I will not try to manipulate my Master. I will not push to make a scene go the way I feel it should. In other words, I will not top from the bottom.

I will keep an open mind about tying things that I am uncomfortable with and expanding my limits.

I will continue to grow as a submissive and as a human being.

I will accept the responsibility of discovering what pleases my Master, and will do my best to fulfill his wishes and desires.

I will not allow myself to be harmed or abused. I know that submissive does not equal a doormat.

I will be courteous and helpful to my fellow submissives.

I will share my knowledge and experience with others in the hope that they will learn and benefit from where I have been.

I will take time to help those new to the scene start out on the correct path.

I will be responsive to my Master.

I will not try to hide what my mind and body are feeling so that I may assist him in his responsibilities as my authority.

I know that Dominants are not telepaths, and will not expect my Mater to know thoughts or feelings which I do not share.

I will accept in the responsibility of a scene or relationship gone bad.

I will not place total blame on my Master when it is not warranted simply because he is the Dominant.

I realize that things may not work out as they should at times, and will do my best to put it behind me and move on.

I will give my gift of submission only to those that can responsibly accept and desire to receive.

I will not place anyone in the position of "Topping me non-consensually, nor will I give my respect to someone that has not earned it.

I know that D/s is not a contest, and will never think myself a "better" submissive because I choose to submit on a different level than another.

I will not be boastful of the experiences I have had as a submissive.

I will be obedient to my Master even if I disagree with what he is requesting.

I realize he has my best interests at heart and often knows better than I what I need in a particular situation.

I know that my actions reflect upon my Master, and will do my best to help others see him in a positive way.

I will not intentionally embarrass or displease my Master.

Above all, I will wear my title as submissive with honor.

I will never cause others to think that being submissive means to be a weak or sub-human. I will take pride in who and what I am and will never show myself in a negative way.

    This time in my journal I share with you all the creed I read every night before I sleep, I live by this oath and will never break it upon pain of death.      

So as I have been going through the site I see people, both subordinates (including slaves) and Dominants want some insight into their partners before they take them on, and that this subject can actually make or break a lot of relationships. And tonight I was at a meeting where the subject of personalities and leadership came up. Without getting into any details about how, the master of ceremonies determined that I am a realist, innovative, somewhat of a loner, cautious and slightly distrusting of others, secure, stubborn, and that I stick to my ideals. Now while I do not agree with all of the results, I felt amazed at how  accurate it was. So now in this journal entry I would like to give insight to those who read this, perhaps by doing so I can change some opinions of me.

To begin I do believe that I am a realist, I take things as they come and I try to work with what I have to make the most out of the situation. Does this mean that I am not optimistic or pessimistic at times, no it doesn't. As far as being innovative goes, I can't say for certain. I have moments where I surprise myself and moments where I believe that I can perform better. Being a loner and distrustingl I can believe, and I have my reasons for being that way. Though I would say that I am slow to trust rather than distrusting altogether. If you want to know more about these last two please ask me in private, there are some things that I will not broadcast to the world.  Concerning the last two I do agree 100 percent. I am stubborn when it come to my ideals, they have served me well and kept me out of trouble to this point so I have little intent to change them for anyone or any circumstance.

To finish out the meeting everyone was asked to write a small passage about what they think makes them a leader, I intend to share mine with anyone who cares to read this. Despite what I have been told in the past by friends, family, and a few others I do not know if I can be a good leader. I am too unsure of myself to even think straight at times. However I do know what I want out of life, and it doesn't require that I be a leader to obtain it. I just need someone to help me up when I fall, I can handle the rest from there. 

If you actually took the time to read this please message me, and ask about anything.

So from the looks of things I will have to rely more on the old fashioned way of meeting people, because sadly on here I have seen only three types of people. The first kind greatly annoy me, seeing as they're only here to wank their genitals off. The second kind of people have been o pestered by the first kind that they just go and assume that everyone who contacts them is not actually interested in the lifestyle. The final group of people are those conceited "Dominants" with their heads shoved so far up their asses that the only thing they enjoy is the taste of their own feces, seriously if your so self-absorbed that the only reason you'll like someone is if their paycheck is big enough for your ego then I actually don't believe you're a human or deserving of the same rights and treatment. This has gotten to be so bad that I have begun second guessing myself when I try to contact someone I think I could be compatible with, causing me to just glance over people, so in the end I'm going to have to hope that between rugby and studying that I'll have the time to go out and discover the scene that Massachusetts, and or Baltimore depending on whether I am at home or school, has to offer.  

Updated My profile tonight, Hopefully my patience will pay off eventually.

OK so I feel that I may have acted inappropriately to an extent with ranting. So for now let me try and redeem myself by telling whoever happens to stumble across this journal what exactly I am looking for. I am looking for whatever comes my way, and brings a mutual interest. As a younger person in this community I am intimidated by a lot of the people here and all I really need to start is someone to show me around, tell me what to look for and what to look out for, and maybe what I can expect out of some people.

WARNING: The following Journal entry contains violent and rude ranting.. have a nice day and go fuck yourself, It's all you seem to be good for.

My sincerest apologies to everyone on this site, but I honestly couldn't give two shits about what you want right now. I have set a new tone for myself as of late, screw getting a mentor the best way to learn is on your own am I not right. So hear goes the first part of my rant, listen if you want but I will guarantee that you won't like some of the things you'll read. first off to all the cunts who call themselves Dommes (no this does not include all Dominant women) it is a sad day when a Sadistic Male can outdo you for courtesy, because none of you were taught how to respect other people. And don't even begin to say that you don't have to, because if I hear that one more fucking time I will cut your tits off and feed them to my dog while you watch. You're all not even dominant you're just looking for someone to fool into giving you money. No real sub wants to feel insignificant or dehumanized (any sub that  says otherwise is one of the fakes you all are so worried about) They want the thrill that comes from losing control. So to wrap this point up, learn some fucking respect if you ever wish to see any from others. Respect is earned not demanded.

Now the next point I am looking to make today is to everyone who claims that they're looking for a partner. Well if your fucking looking then message someone, fucking respond to someone in your inbox, you never know that person who you think is a fake may actually be one of the truest people on this good earth. Looking means actively searching and asking questions and occasionally throwing some standards out the window. Trust me when I say this the best partnership is the one where each partner is willing to change everything just to make their other half happy. So throw your superficial tendencies to the wind, judging people by their looks and photos won't get you anywhere at all. So many of the idiot on sites like these aren't willing to give an inch, it's always meet my needs or move on. As stated above the whole fucking world doesn't revolve around you sweetheart sorry for the "shocking" wake-up call. Message someone random today that's my challenge to people today, they may surprise you.

Now this point I will make hear I have thought long and hard about, so you should pay the fuck attention so that I don't have to laugh at you later for it. TOYS, toys are great, they're fun, sick, twisted, and sometimes you can't even tell which hole they're supposed to go in. But, "Shocker alert" they shouldn't make or break a relationship. If a sub or dominant doesn't have toys... WHO GIVES A FLYING FUCK!?! they can probably do just as well if not better with their bare hands if they're experienced enough use your surroundings, get creative. TOys are nice but they aren't everything

So in the end there is something that I have to thank CollarMe for, if it weren't for all the fake photos, and stuck up cunts I would have never been able to find my dominant side and know it's there for sure. So I thank all the fuck-nuts out there for helping me in my journey of self discovery but, WAKE THE FUCK UP before I come by and and knock some sense into, literally if necesarry.

Latest update is going to be about me and what I feel like telling people. I have made it clear that I indeed have a submissive side, but let that fool no one. I am not a fool, fake, or easy to gain control of. I, every now and then, tend to achieve a state of mind similar to that of a "blood high". This means that depending on what music I am listening to, who I am around, and a plethora of other environmental factors that I will become extremely... I don't want to say irritable, its more along the lines of that my patience get to the point where it is almost non-existent and I start throwing people around. this is the only time I'm ever prone to violence in the least bit. I have my inner demons just like everyone else does this is just one of them. 

The Subject of this nights journal entry is centered around one thought that has been eating away at me for a while now. The one thing I notice when I do a comparison between my profile and those of others on Collar Me is a significant age difference. Most of the Dom/mes that seem like they are actually interested in taking on Subordinates are close to, or more than twice my age. This isn't a bad thing I could care less about how old someone is if they're doing something that they love doing, however the thing that makes me nervous is that there's always the possibility that I will be written off as someone who is only interested in getting off, this could not be farther from the truth. I swear wholeheartedly that this lifestyle is something that I truly am interested in pursuing. I am not on here looking for a quick fuck, or just to stare at erotic images that users post. The idea of giving fully myself and my trust to another person, and have them be in control of my actions and thoughts give me great joy. What I am hoping to strive for is to find Someone willing to take me on and to act as a source of pleasure, amusement, or anything else that they desire for them, I want to submit to a strong and willful individual with every fiber of my being. I will be at their beck and call, whenever they wish my services I will be there to serve.

Now for a humble request to be made. As I state in my regular profile description I am new to this lifestyle and only know the basics of how interactions between a Top and bottom are supposed to go, however I am having trouble figuring out how to address the Dominants that I feel would find me acceptable for their needs. And now with not a single bit of luck I come to whoever should read this, and first thank them most graciously for reading these entries and getting to know me, and humbly ask them to educate my ass! I am lost someone please teach me how to approach a Dominant and even have a remote chance of getting a reply, albeit some do have what they expect in a message right on their profile but others remain unclear. So I ask this of whoever is willing to help and if help is given it shall be repaid, just name thy price and I shall do my best to pay it in full or more so.

UPDATE: 

to add just a couple points to add to the rant I gave last night: 

 1. Shouldn't the terms of a D/s relationship be a mutual agreement and not demanded a requirements from the beginning, I'm sorry but if you want my respect I will need to be given some as well.

2. As I have learned it the interactions between a Dominant and a submissive is to be almost as if not just as sacred as that of a real romantic relationship, that would include discarding superficial wants. A D/s relationship should only be formed between two people who really "click" and work together well. That's what I am hoping to find by being a part of this community.

(5/28/12) 12:27 a.m.

For starters, happy Memorial day everyone. My prayers and gratitude goes out to those who have served and are serving in the military of wherever you hail from around the world, nothing is more admirable than fighting for what you believe in. But now to the point.

As someone with such little experience as myself I do find it terribly hard to do this, but there is one thing that gets on my nerves more than anything about this site is: "Tribute/ payment is required before I will even consider you". now while I may not have had any formal training, I was taught that this community is centered around the relationship between a Dom/me and a submissive. Physical and emotional attraction, and above all trust is what I was told were the key components to this lifestyle and that is part of what draws me to it (not all of what draws me to it I would be lying horribly if I said a powerful woman and or man didn't turn me on) but I digress. I hate this more than anything for many reasons that I feel I need to list to get my point across.

1. this is almost IDENTICAL to begging and Dominants who beg do not put across a very flattering image

2. I am not an idiot, I can tell when you're trying to just steal my money.

3. No matter what your profile says if you're making someone pay and contact with the genital areas is made then sorry but it is prostitution.

And the other problem I'm finding is the frequency of profiles like this, they come up in every single search I have made. People I really don't care how damn dominant you are. You aren't getting a cent out of me much less my respect. (Now I do understand that there are people who make there living of this lifestyle but as far as I know that is through the production of films and the sale of paraphernalia, Please feel free to correct me if I'm wrong on any part of this little rant)