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I have to admit, I like "the new normal" that is our post-pandemic lives. Our company embraced working from home and now I am only in the office a day or two each week. That has enabled me to more fully embrace the female led lifestyle as I am home much more frequently and can take advantage of subhub's willingness to be of service to me. I used to leave for the day and have a list of chores for him to perform in my absence. Now, I get to enjoy watching him work. I thought I had his full submission before, but now that he is subject to almost constant supervision, he has become the servant I always wanted even if before I didn't know it was what I wanted.
To that end, we've made a few changes, upgrades really. We bought a better, steel chastity cage for him. He says it is more comfortable and it is much more visually appealing to me than his old plastic CB model. It's also easier to keep it clean so he is now going longer between releases. Really, now I only release him when I want to use him. And he is now in steel cuffs and collar. He likes those less than the leather ones I used to have him wear, he says they feel more bulky with less give to them and so he feels like they are in the way as he does his chores. But I like the look so they're here to stay for now. Plus, he no longer has to take them off to do dishes or shower and so can go longer periods in them.
It's a nice visual. Him naked except for his steel cage, cuffs and collar, working around the house while I sit in my office. And having him at my beck and call 24/7 has helped me more fully embrace my life as his domme.
And lest anyone misunderstand, his submission to me is still mostly domestic/service-oriented. This isn't about me using him for sex throughout the day. He is constantly cleaning, cooking, doing laundry and dishes, fetching me a drink or a snack, and generally making my life easier. But yes, I'll admit that seeing him do that throughout the day, and prancing about in his birthday suit, does get me worked up more now. So he is getting some benefits as well. |
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One positive to come out of the pandemic is more work from home time. This means I get to enjoy the fruits of our FLR more frequently. It's like having a personal assistant at home as well as at work. The difference being I can take more "liberties" with my home assistant and not have to worry about being reported to HR.  |
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The last 3-4 months of 2017 were devastating for me. I won't go into details here but suffice it to say, things went wildly off track, my personal life was turned upside down and I just needed some time for myself so I was off CS for most of that time. I've been trying to get back into the swing of things here...slowly...and just check in on a few of you with whom I exchanged letters and became friends to explain myself.
When what should happen today but I had to "Rule Six" someone. Out of the blue, I received not one, but TWO abusive e-mails, back to back and from someone I had never met or talked to before. Obviously I won't name names but it was most assuredly uncalled for.
DAFUQ is wrong with some people? |
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It happened again! Yet another clueless idiot with questionable reading comprehension skills offering to serve me.
Guys, I don't know how much more clear I can be when I say in my profile that I'm not looking for another submissive. If you are thinking of writing to me and offering to serve alongside my husband, or even hopping to supplant him, please save us both the trouble and move along.
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Yesterday marked the one year anniversary of our experiment with chastity. Although subhub might disagree with me, I think it is going pretty well. LOL I think we'll keep it up. |
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Happy New Year! New year, new torments for subhub. I want to see if we can both endure longer periods of chastity for him. So, he doesn't know it yet (but will when he reads this I guess) but last weekend was the last time out of chastity for him for a while. Right now, I'm thinking Valentine's Day will be his next opportunity for release. Denying him will be easy...denying myself might be tough though. LOL |
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They are predicting a reasonably substantial snowfall for this weekend. Looks like we'll be cooped up. I think that's the universe's way of telling me it's time for an extended session of torments and pleasures for subhub.  |
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Lately, my curiosity has been piqued as to cuckolding. Let me be clear right up front: I have NO interest in cuckolding my own husband (so PLEASE don't contact me offering your services boys. I WILLblock you if you do and you won't get a second chance.) Rather, I want to hear from women (ONLY) who are currently cuckolding their partners. I'm curious how you are able to make it work. How do you manage any jealousy issues? How has it affected your relationship dynamic? Is/was it an ongoing thing with you or did you just try it a few times then stop?
I read so many profiles where couples express interest in this and I can't imagine it for myself. I want so much to learn what makes others in this lifestyle tick and this is one I just can't fathom so help me out ladies. Why? Is it worth it? What are the gains and trade-offs in your relationships?
Ladies only! |
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So subhub has had his chastity cage since March and now wears it more or less full time. (He is only let out if under direct supervision.) Let me tell you ladies, there are LOTS of reasons to do this with your own husbands. One hidden delight I never anticipated? He no longer leaves the seat up. 
But seriously, we have been enjoying the added dimension it brings to our relationship. |
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This is one of my favorite weekends of the year. Every year at the end of June, our local toy store holds a two-day summer blowout. Everything in the store is half off. Grabbed a few additions to the toy bag earlier today. If subhub is lucky, he'll get to experience them soon. |
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This website is really pissing me off today. Ever since the "maintenance break" last weekend, it has been slow to load and frequently times out. SO......if I am slow in responding to anyone, I apologize. A girl can only take so much before she gives up and tries again later. Grrrrr...... |
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It's been some time since I've made an entry here. Actually, it's been a long time since any activity, really. Seems as spring arrives my free time to engage people on here goes down. Even with subhub doing the bulk of the housework, there never seems to be time enough to get everything done. Getting the outside in order, entertaining friends, vacations (and stay-cations) and all of it keeps us busy. I don't know how I ever managed it before subhub became responsible for the household given how little time I seem to have even now. |
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I touch on this in my profile, but lately, the problem is raising its ugly head again. In fact, it seems to be becoming more common. So let me be much more explicit with all of you lovely boys AND girls. (It is not just a problem with the men on here.)
I expect to get more than a one line e-mail if I am going to correspond with anyone. Especially a one-line question with no introduction. It really doesn't tell me much about who I am talking to or give me any sense of context whatsoever. Frankly (and I really don't want to come off as a bitch here but rather just to explain myself), short, one-line e-mails very quickly cause me to lose interest. I put effort into every communication on here and try very hard to establish and then hold up my end of friendships. (It doesn't always work out, but not for lack of trying.) I write detailed letters to get my thoughts across. I expect a two-way exchange with people on here and therefore want more than just one-line e-mails. Furthermore, I am loathe to share any sort of intimate details about me, my subhub or our relationship until and unless I learn more about the people with whom I am talking.
SO...with that said, if you are truly serious when you contact me then why don't you tell me a bit about yourself first? That will give me some idea of what sorts of things are of interest to you and where we might find common ground. Plus (and I cannot overstate the importance of this) it will give me a sense that there is a real person behind the profile and that you are serious about wanting to learn from each other and not just trying to get me to "talk dirty to you" or are merely a story collector.
And of course, to those that ARE my friends on here, this should help explain why I cherish you all so much. Your efforts in helping me get to know you do not go unnoticed and I should say so more often. |
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So excited! Just got subhub his first chastity device (a CB-6000)! We'll be working on getting the fit right for the next day or two then.....Bwa-ha-ha! |
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I am noticing a new trend. (Or maybe I'm just now noticing a trend that has been around for a while?) What is with individuals setting up a couples account? Over the past few weeks I have run across numerous profiles in the couples section that are written by an individual looking for a partner. And I do not mean one person in the couple maintaining an account or those written by couples seeking to add a third but rather profiles where it is clear that no partner even exists. Just this morning three of the first eight new couples profiles were written by singles looking to become a couple. What are these people thinking? Personally, I find it off-putting. |
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Because of some poor behavior on his part, subhub has been put on an "Internet time-out", meaning he may not use the computer for anything but work-related uses. (So any of you that have tried to reach out to him and have not gotten a response, that is why.) I took away his privileges on Sunday and he is supposed to go without through Saturday. But he has been so contrite and so well behaved since then that I am thinking of giving him time off for good behavior. What does the crowd say (particularly the other dommes on here)? Should I stick to my guns or should I show mercy? Clearly my punishment had the desired effect on him. Depending on popular vote and how he behaves tonight, I may restore his privileges tomorrow morning. |
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Tonight was the first time I've made marks/welts on subhub. I have mixed feelings right now. Part of me is upset for having hurt him but the other part liked the fact that a barrier has maybe been broken and a wall has crumbled. We'll talk about it soon, I'm sure. |
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Sorry for how long it is taking me to respond to some of you lovely people. It seems that my New Years Resolution came with an unexpected consequence. So many of you have reached out to me and/or written me such extensive letters in response to my attempts to contact you that right now, I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed (in a good way!). Who knew so many of you would be so kind, so welcoming and so giving of your time and experience. I'm doing my best to return the favor by composing thoughtful responses to you all and it is just taking time. Please!...bear with me. |
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For the New Year, my resolution is to try to reach out to more Femdom couples to increase my social circle, learn more from the experience of others and offer help to those I/we can. I look forward to many new friendships this coming year and learning from the collected wisdom of the community. (And of course, any of you that want to help me with my resolution by initiating contact, that is equally welcome.) |
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I think it's time for subhub to create his own profile. He could benefit from the wisdom of others too. |
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So far, so good....the "do me" e-mails have seemed to trickle off to a minimum these days and now the people that I get letters from seem to genuinely want to be friends, trade ideas and just enjoy the camaraderie of others who enjoy similar pursuits.
I've exchanged letters with a few other dommes on here, mostly novices and have been happy to share some of my own thoughts and ideas and get theirs in return. I've also met a few submissive men who seem to genuinely want to be nothing more than friends (most already have dommes of their own and so are not actively pursuing anything/anyone else). They have already offered me valuable insights into the submissive male mind and have in a short time helped me up my game at home.
I would still welcome exchanges with others that have more experience than I do with FLR (which is going to be a lot of you). That is a new direction for me and my sub and so I could use some input. I'm also always on the lookout for those with devious minds that can help me devise new and interesting torments for my subhub.
And of course I'm still trying to find that BDSM-aware/friendly esthetician in the area. |
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OK......I've decided to make a minor edit to my profile, changing the bullet points on what you should consider prior to contacting me to a numbered list. That way, instead of flat out rejecting so many of you who apparently have chosen not to read, I can actually point out the specific point(s) you missed when you wrote me. Consider it an educational exercise.
Maybe this makes me a bitch in some of your eyes but frankly, I don't care. If you take offense at being called out for missing and violating the terms of a fairly explicit list then what you think of me is of little consequence.
The latest offender was guilty of missing points #2, #3 & #7 and was probably the prototypic example of the type of e-mail I described in the last line of my profile. |
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I like the new National Car Rental commercial...
"I've been called a control freak. I like to think of myself as more of a control enthusiast."
Yup. That about covers it. |
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I been enjoying the most humorous sight lately, courtesy of my subhub. With the subzero temps this week our normally cool house has become downright chilly, particularly the floors. Sadly, my boy's feet suffer terribly (and not in a good way) when it gets this cold so I have granted him permission to wear his slippers around the house until further notice. Nothing else though. So I have been treated to the sight of my naked submissive doing his chores around our house wearing only his furry moccasins. Silly + sexy = win for Me! |
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Does anyone know of a BDSM aware/friendly aesthetician in the greater Chicago area? I have a surprise planned for my boy but need to find someone willing to go along with what I have in mind. (Rest assured it is not anything illegal or unsafe. I just want to take him outside his comfort zone.) Send me a link if you know of anyone reputable and discrete. |
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