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What Is A Daddy Dom?

A Daddy & "Daddy's lil" girl" Ds relationship does not refer to the ages, real or pretend, of the participants. Nor does it imply closet desires. A Daddy Dom does not replace one's father. He is however a Daddy. This relationship is not about age play specifically (beyond the occasional school girl fantasies) and this relationship is not based on any need to have sex with children.

A Daddy Dom does have the ability to make you feel like a "little girl", however, a very cherished "little girl". It is a feeling that is like no other, it is the safest place a "little girl" has ever been, and it allows you the freedom to be all that you are without fear of reprisals.? Daddy Dom is a feeling, an environment that two people have created.? A Daddy Dom is so named because of the qualities he possesses and the service he provides.

So, what are these qualities? What is a Daddy Dom?

A Daddy Dom wants to be the center of your universe. He wants to be able to provide for your every need and care. But more than that he wants to be able to shape and mold you to the image he thinks you should become. He sees in you someone who can achieve a much higher, much greater status. He believes more in you than you believe in yourself. What he wants in return is to be able to bask in his image of you, the image he has created.? To achieve these goals he relies on a combination of love, respect, and discipline.

His love for his "little girl" goes without saying.? He loves her as much for who she is as for who she will become with his guidance.? She is his prized possession. His eyes light up when she walks into the room and he takes great pride in her successes. After all, he helped to create her. She holds the most tender part of his heart and has the greatest power to hurt him.

This love would not be possible without respect. A Daddy Dom needs to feel pride in his "little girl". He needs to know she can hold her own in the outside world and still submit to him. He holds the greatest respect for the gift she has given him and takes great pains to increase it?s value. It is extremely important to him to know she can be with any man and she chooses to be with him.

He knows that this makes discipline a priority in their lives, more important than in some other D/s relationships. In order for the "little girl" to really trust, she must know he means what he says.? If his "little girl" is going to be the best she can possibly be he must stand firm. He uses his experience in life and his knowledge of her to provide proper direction and punishment when the need arises.

If he does not enforce discipline, this respect becomes a tenuous thing. If his submissive finds that she can manipulate him out of punishing her, she begins to lose respect and the ability to empower becomes impeded. He understands that it becomes increasingly difficult to be possessed by someone you do not respect.

This takes great strength on his part. It takes strength to control her, and to shape her to his needs and desires. It takes strength to be her confidant, her shoulder, her anchor. It takes strength to let her out into the world when all he wants to do is hold her safe in his arms. And it takes strength to do what is necessary when she needs to be disciplined.

A Daddy Dom provides something else that is very important to his submissive...acceptance. She is safe in his arms because he knows her, everything about her, and he still loves her. When she goes to him she knows that this man knows all of her dirty little secrets and it doesn?t matter. To him she is beautiful.

Daddy Dom and sadistic Dom are by no means mutually exclusive.? Many Daddy Doms embrace their sadism while understanding and feeding their submissive's masochism.? This balance is necessary to many "little girl" because it allows all parts of her to be nourished, leading to an incredibly fulfilling relationship.

I think most Dominants have a bit of the Daddy in them, taking on the role of male authority figure in the submissive?s life and using their power to enrich that life. A Daddy & "little girl" Ds relationship verbalizes that feeling, and adds a dimension of warmth, caring, and ritual that it?s participants crave.

There is something infinitely magical about a Daddy Dom. Perhaps it is something only a little girl can understand.

A TPE (Total Power Exchange) relationship, sometimes described as an absolute lifestyle d&s relationship (that such relationships can actually be neither "total" or "absolute" is agreed; these are ideal states to be worked towards but which will not be achieved, which is why TPE may be better seen as a process or goal than as a state), is a relationship in which no impediment to the exercise of the owner's power is accepted (some may, of course, exist, and what prudent owners do is to avoid direct collisions with these impediments, while working to overcome those that can be overcome (since the laws of gravity can't be overcome, a sane owner isn't going to ask a slave to fly (w/o appropriate equipment, of course), nor will a sensible owner try push a slave into things that are hard limits for hir (but the owner might push a slave up against what the slave thinks are hard limits but which sie can in fact overcome)). Such things as safewords, contracts, negotiated limits, and anything else which recognizes / acknowledges / formalizes limits on the owner's power are inimical to TPE.