REPOST: Seems it needs to be said again!

I am Married, in an open relationship and I am NOT seeking to be owned by anyone on-line or other wise.

I do seek play mates from time to time but I am only submissive in the bedroom.

The most important things in any relationship, Mutual trust and respect

When I started out in this life style it was more about kinky sex then anything. Now after almost 4 years it has become so much more. I have met many people in the life style the one constant is, that true life style people are the most pleasant and caring people I have ever known. There are those players that are rude and crude but I over look them they are not real and who and what they are doesn’t matter to me.

Many of the people I met early on when I first started out in the life style know me from back in the beginning of my journey and most haven’t a clue about who I am now. I have learned so much about me and who I am. Most of the changes I have went through are resent and because of one man that I met not to long ago. He has brought great joy into my life. With his caring and patients he is helping me to discover parts of me that I kept hidden so long from my self and others. I’ll be forever grateful that this man came in to my life.

You never know what someone will bring in to your life until you let them in and allow you’re self to trust in them and I am so glad that I let this man in to my life.  I will always have wonderful thoughts of him and what he is doing for me.

A man and a woman were sitting beside each other in
the first class section of an airplane.

The woman sneezed, took out a tissue, gently wiped her
nose, then visibly shuddered for ten to fifteen seconds.

The man went back to his reading. A few minutes later,
the woman sneezed again, took a tissue, wiped her nose, then
shuddered violently once more.

Assuming that the woman might have a cold, the man was
still curious about the shuddering. A few more minutes passed when
the woman sneezed yet again.

As before, she took a tissue, wiped her nose, her body
shaking ever more than before.

Unable to restrain his curiosity, the man turned to
the woman and said, "I couldn't help but notice that you've
sneezed three times, wipe your nose and then shudder violently.
Are you ok?"

"I am sorry if I disturbed you, I have a very
rare medical condition; whenever I sneeze I have an orgasm."

The man, more than a bit embarrassed, was still
curious. " I have never heard of that condition
before" he said. "Are you taking anything for it?"

The woman nodded, "Pepper."

Seduce me, Invade my mind. With sensual words, define All the things you desire to do to me. Whisper them to me softly

 In TO: affection and touch from the one i am with

(receiving), anonymous encounters

(everything to do with it), bare bottom spanking

(receiving), being fucked with a hand on my throat and threats being whispered into my ear

(everything to do with it), being pushed up against a wall in a passionate kiss

(everything to do with it), being told i'm a good girl

(receiving), being treated like a beautiful princess but fucked like a dirty little whore

(everything to do with it), bisexuality

, blindfolds

(everything to do with it), blow jobs

, bondage

, chocolate

(everything to do with it), cuddles

(everything to do with it), d/s

, erotic literature

(everything to do with it), forced exercise

, genuine and deep submission, the heartfelt kind that comes from trust, respect, lust, and mental and emotional connection

(everything to do with it), group sex

, hair pulling

(receiving), hearing that voice in my ear - soothing - threatening - teasing - coaxing

(receiving), hitachi magic wand

(everything to do with it), hot oil massages

(everything to do with it), kissing so hot and intense that it makes sex seem like an afterthought

(receiving), lingerie

(everything to do with it), lips-so-close-to-your-ear-you-can-hear-and-feel-every-little-movement-and-you-want-to-cum

(receiving), massage, touching, caressing

(everything to do with it), multiple orgasms

(everything to do with it), pulling my hair and leading me places i say i don't want to go but secretly do and i'm glad you made me

(receiving), restraints

(receiving), saying what you mean and meaning what you say

(everything to do with it), sex

(everything to do with it), sitting on daddy's lap while he whispers dirty things in my ear

(everything to do with it), talking dirty

(everything to do with it), threesomes

(everything to do with it), vampire gloves

(receiving), waking daddy up by grinding my ass against his cock so he'll wake up and take what belongs to him

(everything to do with it), whispering softly in a low, menacing voice this close to your ear and making you so hot you can't stand it any longer

(everything to do with it).

Curious about: body paint

(receiving), butt plugs

, double penetration

, edge play

, fucking you hard with hands around your throat while whispering threats in your ear

(receiving), kidnapping roleplay

, taken further then you thought you could go

(everything to do with it).

I have been playing around with my submissive side for a couple of years. I’ve been a little submissive for a couple years if that makes any sense to you all. I feel I need to be really pushed and see where that goes. I most often pick Dom’s that are really patient and tolerant of my not quite submissiveness and it is time for me to let go and find my true self once and for all…. Am I sub or not that is a question I need answered. When I am in the moment I feel that I am but at other times I am not sure. Does me just having to asking these question answer my question in it self? If you have answer please feel free to replay. …. Kat

My husband and I have always been in an open swinger’s relationship. To someone that hasn't lived that lifestyle it might be hard to understand the love we have for each other and deep friendship we have. He is my soul mate, lover and best friend. He is in tune with my needs and desires he fills most of them as I do his but from time to time someone will come along that can fill those desires, those needs in other ways that we both feel compelled to investigate.

I am a 49 year old female, I say I am a sub but I have been told I am a switch. I seek Daddy Dom types and Doms that are more in to the sensual side of BDSM. 

I am fairly new to participating in BDSM scenes, enjoying new experiences as they unfold, observing and learning.  In everyday life I tend to be more of a switch but I need balance to keep me in perfect order.

I enjoy sensations of touch, however I hate pain I am a real pain wimp but still am willing to take a harder spanking if it's built up properly

 I have my quiet, reflective moments and also enjoy conversations. I enjoy life, love to laugh, and want to live without regrets. Friends are important and precious.

Finally I am glad to have found this I am willing to try a lot please work with me and teach me. I enjoy making new friends and I hope to make many here. Feel free to write me

I haven't written in my journal for a while, I really haven't had much to say. I guess it was more that I didn't have anything good to say LOL not that I do right now either but I have been spending more time on this site for what ever reason so I thought it might be time to write something.

I took a quiz this morning and here are the results. Not to surprising but kind of interesting. I remember taking a quiz some thing like this one about a year or so ago and I scored as a sub then.

Traditional
Pisces Traits

Imaginative and sensitive
Compassionate and kind
Selfless and unworldly
Intuitive and sympathetic

On the dark side....

Escapist and idealistic
Secretive and vague
Weak-willed and easily led


OMG that is so me, what am I going to do??

Seduce me

Invade my mind

With sensual words, define

All the things you desire to do to me

Whisper them to me softly

With your words caress me

Embrace me seductively

Capture the essence of my imagination

Fill my mind with sensations

Embrace me gently

Kiss me softly

Explore the realm of my anatomy

Through passion and intimacy

Through sensual telepathy

Let your motion arouse me

Through the scenario of foreplay

Make love to me; seduce me, your way

Deep thrust and intense penetration

Invade the boundaries of my foundation

Like a piston you move so freely

Fulfilling me, pleasuring me

Until I unleash

This liquid release

And like a waterfall it flourishes

As your movement nourishes

My mind and body….

Take me to the edge and push me over. Catch me as I reach the bottom and raise me up again. Mold me with your hand and your will. Teach me, Mentor me, guide me and surround me in your embrace.  
 

I feel that too give yourself your whole being, mind body and soul to another is the most powerful and liberating feelings a woman could ever have.

His teachings has inspired me....It is the touch of his hand that makes my thoughts flow.....

Learn something new about yourself and keep growing in who you are, never stop discovery and growth.

I have joined a few area groups around here, in Columbus and other areas of the state and I plan on attending functions with these groups in hope that I find someone well suited to me and that has the time and patience to train me.

I have been given much to think about from many on this site both subs and Dom’s.  I have heard both side and I have learned much over the past 11 months here on CM.

My mind, heart, body and soul feel that …….. I am a submissive one that will someday be totally owned and controlled my whom she chooses to serve.

The key to my submission will be unlocked some day by one that knows my heart and soul and will make promises to always take great care, pride and ownership of these gifts I will freely give.

Just remember you don’t have to agree with me and my ways because there is one out there that knows and feels the same as I do. We all have our right to agree and disagree and I respect those that feel different then I do.  I would expect them to have the same respect towards me.

Found out I am not into sadistic and mean Dom's........live and learn, or just stop all together

I read this in a profile on another site from a very wise teacher friend of mine.  I just wanted to share.

A dominant needs to be comfortable with what it essentially means to control another. Good and true dominants are responsible, directive and above all, decisive.
A true dominant accepts responsibility for the relationship, and should always deemed it quite important there should be a balance, that the submissive desires to serve as much as the dominant desires to dominate.

I want to taste everything in this life. I want to drink in every moment
I want to take in everything, I want to feel everything. I want to feel too much, want to live too much, I want to love too much. I want to feel it all, So much that it hurts. I want to recklessly love someone. Throw down my heart and throw all caution to the wind, Even if there's a chance that my heart could get broken

Happy New Year to all that I have come to know here. I wish you happiness and prosperity.

Someone wrote me and asked me this today, I wanted to share this with all who are interested. Hope he doesn't mind me sharing.

Six basic areas of BDSM - Service, restraint, pain, slutting, role-play and costumes. Which interest you? How much and why?

First, Service is an interest to me or I wouldn’t be here. Why service? Because it’s pleasing to me and the one I serve.

Second, Being a Slut turns me on I like being a naughty girl. I like being shared and everything being a slut entails

Third, Restraints bring out something in me…. I like the feeling of being unable to resist. We have 4 tie downs that stay on the bed. I also have rape fantasies

Forth, Costumes are fun I like to dress up what good girl doesn’t?

Fifth, Role-playing is something I do in my everyday life, play the wife, the mother, the grandmother the daughter, lover, slut and good girl.

Sixth, Pain for pleasure or for servitude is the one thing that is newest to me and not really experienced as of yet.  Only one thing I can think of is hair pulling, I have a spot at the nape of my neck the went pulled not to hard, not to easy either...in the right spot at the right time sends me into a wild orgasm

I want to wish everyone the best Holidays ever and to say things are looking up a little around here. I hope you all have all that you need and someone to share it with........ Kat

This form allows you (the submissive/slave/bottom to list what experience you have had, rate your willingness of each bdsm activity and note any nuances or comments you wish to make. Simply print it out and then fill it out for your Dom/Master/Top.

This checklist is be filled out by a submissive/slave/bottom and provided to their Dom/Master/Top before playing with them. This will provide a starting place to identify limits, negotiate consensual play and find common ground for play. Dominants may wish to work through the checklist, to get a better handle on their specific interests. Switches should go through the checklist twice; one persons Dom and Sub interests may be very different.

For each item, you need to provide two answers:

Experience

Have you had real time experience with the activity?

Indicate YES or NO next to each item. Write N/A if it does not apply to your gender.

Willingness

Are you willing/open to try an activity?

For each item, indicate the degree to which you are willing to try that particular activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0-5 (see rating scale below).

If you write “NO”, it means you will not do that item under any circumstance (a hard limit). There is nothing wrong with indicating”no” on an item. However, if you write “NO” next to almost every item, you should probably find another interest to pursue.

If you do not understand what an activity is, mark that item with a “?”.

Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with your current sex partner(s), but not with casual play partners

Rating Scale

0 Utterly no desire to do that activity and don’t like doing it (in fact, may loath it) and ordinarily would object to doing it, but you would permit the Dominant to do it if they really wanted it (sometimes called a soft limit)

1 Don’t want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn’t object it if was asked of you

2 Willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you

3 Usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/occasional basis

4 You like doing this activity and would like to experience it on a regular basis

5 Is a wild turn-on for you and you would like it as often as possible

Note any additional information or nuances which might be important for your Dom/Master/Top to know in the comments section.

There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the submissive/slave/bottom is the recipient/target of the activity.

WHo can Name the Artist of the following Songs??

1. Must be doin' something right ____________________________

2. The Reason __________________________

3. You're Beautiful  _______________________

4. A Little More You
 ______________________

OK here is another example of the disrespect we females receive from men………. You (a Female) email back and forth with a man a few times, you chat a couple of times online. You talk about what you are looking for what you like and discuss maybe meeting sometime to see if you click. They (the male) ask if you would meet them……. Remember you have only emailed and chatted a few times to this man…….. You say no I am sorry but I don’t meet this soon. Then you get this as a reply.  “You must be a fake like all the other women on Collarme” I for one wouldn’t meet and man that has no more respect for women then that……. Any man that truly respects woman would understand her concerns about meeting someone she doesn’t know before she is ready.

Where are all the respectful men, that’s what I would like to know??? Do they exist?

OK, Just because someone doesn’t feel the same as you about this life style doesn’t mean they are a phony. I get tired of the people that write to say to me that the way I write about myself and the things I talk about in my Journal makes them to believe that I am nothing but I fake to this like style. Well… I don’t need anyone to tell me what I am…. I know myself and I know I am an open and honest person. I might not be what these people are looking for, but I don’t have to fit everyone’s idea of what this life style is……. I just want someone to appreciate me for me. I don’t need to prove myself here to anyone. I could give out references from people I have met to those who say I am a fake, but I won’t, because I don’t want to start a relationship with anyone that thinks they have the only way to live any life style…….. We are all different and all have our own out look on things. So with that said……. You can write and say whatever you feel you need to me, but just remember that I am who I am and I stay true to myself and any opinion you have of me is just that… Your opinion.

A so called man wrote this to me, I’m sure it was a copy and paste job. After reading this and checking his profile I knew we wouldn’t make a good pair so I politely wrote him saying I didn’t think we wouldn’t make a good match and wished him luck in finding the right female for him. After the poem please read his nasty reply he sent then blocked me so that  I couldn’t reply back.

Roses are red,

  And violets are blue;

I just wrote…

  A poem for you!

You sound so sweet,

  And cute as can be;

I’d be very flattered…

  If you chatted with me!

What I have to offer…

  Isn’t for just anyone;

Only a woman with class, intelligence…

  But who is still fun!

One who captures my heart,

  As well inspiring dreams;

Who can be my everything…

  Together.  A team.

Just some ideas,

  It is way too early to say.

But we are off to a good start.

  Let’s keep it that way!

What the future holds,

  No one can see;

But in time you’ll appreciate,

  What a good friend I can be.

OK.  So I am not a poet.  But knowing the kinds of things these morons will write, I figured you deserve to read something different,

I am fairly new to Collarme.  Actually, the first few days.  So far, it is so so.  Not sure it is a wonderful way to meet people, but I'll try a little longer.

I am an engineer by education and profession.  I design medical equipment for the most part.  X-ray machines and things like that.  Occasionally, medical restraints, too.  Yeah…I like that part!

I’d like to hear a little more about you.  Your profile made a very nice first impression.  No hurry.  I am patient,

Phil.

This was my reply to him

“You seem like a nice guy, I don't think I would be the right female for you, but thank you for writing. Hope you meet that right female.”

And this is what he wrote back

Well, at least now I know...you are as stupid and obnoxious as you sound in your profile.

I should have expected as much from a woman who'd post a photo of her fat ass online...

Any one wanting his id on here please feel free to write me.

I love it when people show their true colors

Ok I am going to bitch a little……… Sorry No I am not always sweet.

I am sick and tired of people that can’t read profiles or can’t use their computers to search locations. Here’s a map link I am in between Ashland Ky. and Huntington WV. I am in the most southern point of Ohio in a little place called South Point…….. get the point??

http://maps.live.com/default.aspx?v=2&cp=40.381276~-81.934337&style=h&lvl=7&scene=2915553&vendor=google&pkw=ohio%20maps|771050011&s_kwcid=ohio%20maps|771050011

Night falls, passions ignite. 
Orgasmic pleasures await me tonight. 
Slowly he removes my shirt. 
Begins to nibble, lick, kiss my neck. 
As his hand runs under my skirt. 
Fingering me gently at first, then fast and hard. 
Scratching the vinyl of the backseat of his car. 
Slowly he enters me, I take every inch of him. 
Moans escape, the hunger coursing through my body so 
intense. 
Losing all control my head falls back, eyes close. 
My mouth opened slightly, his name softly spoke. 
My back arching as ecstasy takes its hold. 
Faster, harder, longer, more. 
He takes me as no man has before. 
Ramming me, pounding me, making me scream; 
taking me as I've only dreamed. 
Thrusting harder he sends me beyond anything I've 
experienced before. 
Thrashing, orgasmic pleasures filling me to the core. 
I float back down to earth, still trembling, I stare 
into his eyes. 

Then smiling I ask..so, one more time? 

Tonite I feel very lonely
And I/m thinking bout you again and again
I'm thinking if you are here beside me

You'd make me happy with your smile
You'd make me warm with your hug
You'd make me beautifull with your kiss
You'd make me strong with your words

Some Days I think I am as full of shit as most of the other people I talk to online

Ok I have read many profiles on here... One thing that bothers me is the profiles that say "Looks don't matter". That is scary to me...... Now I am not saying looks are everything........ Personality is just as important to me as looks. You can look good and be a prick and/or a bitch from hell!
But to say looks don't matter is miss leading to many.  I think it’s better to be open and up front with people as to what you are really looking for as far as personality and physical looks…. If you don’t look good to me then it’s not going any where I can tell you that up front……… we all have our likes and dislikes and there isn’t any thing wrong with telling people what you like…….. Don’t give me grief over this post……. I like tall, dark, good looking men over 5’ 10, I like a man that is hung (7-9 inches), I like well built men, I like men with big blue or brown eyes and dark hair. I like younger looking men…. Over 50 is ok if you don’t look like my grandpa. I like a man with a nice smile…….. Is this the only men I will see? No, it’s just the type of man I prefer. If you have a big old pot belly and don’t care what you look like to others then you won’t get much attention from me. Now I know some start ass out there is thinking….. She is a 47 year old Thick Chick……. Yes I am……. I am cubby and plump what ever you want to call me…….. But many men find me sexy as hell. Not everyone man is into thick chicks and that is ok they don’t have to be. My point is…….. Everyone has a look that they prefer and why not be honest and tell people……..

I am NOT a slave I am a SUB...... I have been asked whats the Difference???

a submissive female differs from a "slave" in that a slave's goal is purely surrender and obedience. A submissive female usually seeks some gratification in exchange for her submission.

 Heres my two cents for today.......If you are being honest in you attempts to meet others then you need current pictures.

Wondering can one really get to know someone online, I am very distrusting, I guess because there are so many players. But I do know that you can’t learn some ones soul online, in my opinion you have to be able to look into some ones eyes to see there soul and know who they really are inside

Today has been very uneventful but I daydreamed about Saturday evening and early Sunday morning it was Fantastic!!!!!!! I unexpectedly had my world rock by mind blowing, leg quivering, pure lustful SEX!!!! Damn was I surprised, it came out of no where from an unexpected source. I know many people in this life style say it isn’t about the sex but, YEAH it is sometimes. Just a reality check, have a great week all.

TRUST!!!! I had a resent break though one day while lying in the arms of my husband. At that moment I felt at ease, I felt safe, I felt comfort, and I felt loved. That’s the feeling I always want to have, every minute of everyday. I feel the only way to have those feeling is to have trust and respect for the person you are with. I don’t have that with my husband I wish I could say I did and I will work on that. My husband and I live an open relationship sexual. Something I always thought I wanted and fought to get.  I have no doubt about us loving each other. But, trusting each others, No, I know we really don’t when it comes to complete trust in each other. It’s ironic that I have to come to site as this one and other lifestyle and alternative sexual site to discover the true meaning of love and trust.  Can a married couple really have a strong enough trust to live a completely open relationship in this or any life style?

It’s like the old saying; “if you play with fire you’re going to get burnt”. I don’t know what I will do with this realization I’ve come too, but if you are interested stay tune and see what happens.