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CuddlerNJ


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	About CuddlerNJ Summary: Male in North New Jersey, not far from NYC, who is very much into cuddles. In my 40s. Mainly seek platonic (non-sexual) touching and cuddles. Cuddles, snuggles, hair rubbing, massage, etc... Details: I am a male in North New Jersey, about an hour west by bus/car/train from NYC and about an hour's drive from CT and Westchester, NY. In my 40s I'm what I call a "Cuddle Enthusiast". Have extensive cuddling experience. I was told I'm good at it by all my partners. I'm very much into cuddles. I've been known to literally choose cuddling over sex, even when younger. Mainly, I seek platonic (non-sexual[]) touching and cuddles. Things like cuddles, snuggles, hair rubbing, massage, hand holding, etc... I mean what I say. When we meet for cuddling, it will be cuddling only* - there won't be any suggestions, pressure, or movement to do anything sexual from me. If you want more, YOU have to ask. If you don't ask, nothing sexual will happen, ever (and I'm perfectly happy with that :) . For mutual safety and comfort, I'm happy if we start (or even continue) to cuddle in public. There's an amazing park near me that is very conductive to cuddling mood. Open to one-off meetings but my preference is finding a stable longer term cuddling partner I like going to parks or otherwise being in nature, but NOT looking to be social in any other setting, being very introverted and asocial. I am intelligent and well read and well educated, can maintain conversation on many topics, and good listener. But I also can (and like) just silently being there with my partner, without any pressure to fill that silence, just relaxing into the touch. If it matters to you that we click interests wise, I am a geek, who likes history, evolutionary biology, and scifi/fantasy nerd. I'm NOT into anime however and not really much of a gamer. I like music, and as far as physical activity, enjoy swimming, hiking, and ping pong. For those who for some reason care about body types and looks: I'm in decent shape, slight dad bod I'm working on, and my height is pretty short (shorter than average female height). Clean shaven face and short cropped hair; but hairy torso if you are one of those who like running your fingers on body hair as part of cuddles. Fuzzy in general. The picture on my profile is either 1 or 2 years old, and gives an accurate representation of what I look like right now. I'm happy to video call on Google Meets, to either let you see me or just verify I'm who I say I am. As far as my preferences - I really don't care what my cuddling partner looks like, or the body type. See https://fetlife.com/users/18890371/posts/10600496 I will try to journal on CS as well but last time I checked a couple of years ago journals were not being posted. Clothing: whatever my partner is comfortable with. I'm comfortable with full range, from fully clothed to underwear to fully naked. I like skin to skin contact, personally, but my partner's comfort and wishes are the main consideration here If you aren't sure if I would or wouldn't cuddle with you, first of all you can just ask :) . I won't bite. Second, https://fetlife.com/users/18890371/posts/10600496 Things that I especially like when cuddling Just to be clear, this isn't an exhaustive list - I like MOST things cuddle/touch related. Having my partner run their hand/fingers through my hair (chest, head, hand/leg-fuzz) Massages (I prefer being massaged, as far as what I like, but happy to reciprocate even if I'm not nearly a professional at it) Head resting. Either my partner resting her head on me (no special preference but many of my sexual or cuddling former partners loved hiding their head under my arm for some reason). Or - if my partner asks and it's within her limits, resting my head on her chest/breasts, or her lap, in a non-sexual way. This is extra good combined with her playing with my hair. My partner doing cat-like rubbing against skin... OK not really sure what to call it. Imagine a cat rubbing its head or its torso against the human it owns :) Lightly scraping fingertips or fingernails on my/her skin, especially limbs. For some women, playing with her hair. Really depends on hair quality/texture/shape. Kisses (from butterfly to hickey-leaving, depending on what partner prefers) on the body. I'm a lot more into kissing the skin than on the mouth, for both partners. To me, this is more of a sensation inducing activity rather than anything sexual. I like being little spoon more than being a big spoon, if there's a choice. Being pretty physically small and short, it is rarely a problem physically - I'm often smaller than my cuddling partners. I am OK being a big spoon too! :) If my partner is into this and asks for it, I love ANR/ABF. OK this one is a bit unusual I guess, but you know how there's ASMRs of taking care of people like hair-cutting? I like this but as a cuddling physical activity done to me. I would let someone who knows what they are doing cut my hair and really enjoy the touches. Heck, I zone out and zen out at a real hairdresser half the time :) I once really enjoyed a completely silly role-play of me being fake-showered, using toys from my then-5-year-old kids :) Another one slightly unusual one that I enjoyed was being manipulated like a toy/doll, Basically I lay there inert and my partner positions/moves my body/limbs in any way she wants. As you can guess, I can combine role-play into even non-sexual platonic cuddles.So if you like that idea, ask me. Notes: [] - Baseline and main thing that I seek is touch and cuddles that are intimate but not sexual at all. However, if and only if asked by my partner, I am open to doing some* sexual things including giving her sexual pleasure, within whatever limits[] she asks. I will NOT be offering anything sexual myself, never mind pushing anything. This is only if she asks first and sexual stuff is NOT what is important to me. More details https://fetlife.com/users/18890371/posts/10600387. [] - My own hard limits are: (a) No penetrative sexual activity of any kind (preferably no touching my penis in a sexual way at all); and (b) No ejaculation on my part. Even if you ask me to give you an orgasm, it will be 100% one sided (you cum, I don't). We can discuss the reasons later if you are curious.

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