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Capitalist

Male Submissive, 38, Denver, Colorado
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Capitalist - Male Dominant, Adelaide | BDSM Profile on Collarspace

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About Capitalist

I am into riding my motorbike (GSXR 1000) and have recently taken to making movies of me racing. The sensation of riding a bike is far greater than driving a car. It's hard to explain, but it can be summarized as, you never really feel like going for a drive, but you always feel like going for a ride. Besides riding, I'm working towards a career in investment banking, or being a hardcore economist. At the moment I am working as a programmer, and kicking it nerdcore.

I am a man who suits the 1950's lifestyle more than anything else. Besides this I find it hard to characterize what I need beyond a certain level of control, mentally and physically. I've been called an "alpha male" by some friends, which really caught me off guard, as I didn't think of myself as it at all. I just do, what I want, regardless of how outlandish/crazy it may seem.

Seriously, if you send me a message, I've got some fucking awesome stories to tell you.

I am sort of aggressively truthful, and sometimes quite intense in conversation. I oscillate between extremely serious and intense, and extremely unserious (that's a word, look it up!) and jokey. So don't be afraid if I suddenly ask deep hard questions, that just means you got me in a serious mood. Some people have told me I write and talk as if we've known each other forever, regardless of the fact that we just met.

I have an aggressive friendly personality, and an extreme somewhat offbeat sense of humour.

If you'd really like to know what I am like more, read my journal entries, particularly the ones on my personality, and how I came to be.

The girls in the photos are girls I've at least had some sort of a relationship with. Some long term, some I bumped into in a club. You can see parts of me in some of them, and the last ones are photos of me. There's some interesting stories behind some of the photos, if you're interested, just ask!

I am looking to move in the future, and there are many places I may move to. Particularly the industry I work in is heavily centered around Sydney, London, New York and Hong Kong. So, there is a good chance I will be moving to at least one of these places in the near future, though any country is possible. So if you're from another country, I'm cool with that too. Especially if you're from one of the places mentioned above.

Everything else you'll find out when you send me a message.



Tips for writing me a message:
The more you write, and the more polite you are, the more points you get.

If you reference one of my journal entries, and expand on it, then you get super points!

Due to how bad the online scene is in I rarely login to CollarMe, so if I haven't been online for a while, message me, and I will appear.

The fucking test

 

You Scored as Dominant

 

Sadist - 100%
Dominant - 100%
Exhibitionist / Voyeur - 93%
Experimental - 79%
Switch - 64%
Degradation - 61%
Bondage - 46%
Submissive - 43%
Masochist - 21%
Vanilla - 11%


So I did the fucking test that everybody seems to be doing, and the results weren't too surprising. I guess I am somewhat surprised with the exhibitionism/voyeurism score and the switch/degradation/submissive score.

 

I've sometimes felt like switching, but not often. I tend to think this is more a facet of my need for instant gratification at times. When I absolutely must cum right now, I am driven to search for any and all avenues, where ever they may lie. However, I've always found the entire idea about me being a switch somewhat hilarious, and I could only imagine topping from the bottom. I've always maintained the idea that sexuality is somewhat fluid and relativistic/contextual. In the right situation, everyone is probably both submissive and dominant.

 

I guess we're all in a superposition of being both dominant and submissive.

 

Perhaps someday I'll meet someone who I could switch with. At the very least, my natural tendency is to be dominant, and apparently a sadist.

The story behind the first 3 photos on my profile

 

Almost every day, some girl messages me asking me to tell her the story behind my first 3 photos on my profile. I don't quite know why, but that photo has captured something which alludes to an amazing story. So, instead of writing various versions of this, I've now written one concise large explanation.

 

Here's what happened... I was at a friends bucks night, and he was reasonably conservative, doesn't drink, do drugs, smoke, etc. For his bucks night we were going to go to a strip club, as is the norm. However, he did not want to go to one, we think his fiancée may have put a hard word on him. Now, this was annoying, and try as we might, he wouldn't even venture in the general direction of the area of Adelaide where most of them are. However, despite not drinking, he wanted to go to this club called Fumo Blu on Rundle Street so we went along, when we got in most of the others ventured off trying to pick up, while me and the others took over an area of couches and such at the back in the corner. Where it was somewhat secluded.

 

Once we were sitting and having a good time, this average girl came over to us. My friends were amazed at how attractive she was, when I felt she was pretty average. They immediately tried picking her up, giving it all they could. However, she was having none of it, she had a big mouth on her, and she started paying them out and acting like she was amazing. Who could blame her, they put her on that pedestal. She bent over towards one of my friends, and another seized the day and gave her a little pat on the arse. It was the softest pat ever. At which point, he then ran off to celebrate. He felt like he'd taken advantage of her, been a man, showed her who's boss. Instead, he'd merely gently patted her, and it just made her feel more in control. She said she was engaged to be married in a few months, to some Asian guy. Unfortunately for him, I think we ruined his girl, but better he find out now, than later.

 

As she began to pay them out and obviously pretend like she's some kind of amazing beauty, I became annoyed and decided to put an end to it. I was having none of this, so I jumped in pointing out her large manly jaw, thin lips, flat chest, stumpy legs, and essentially breaking her down. Of course she initially tried to fight back by acting like a black woman and trying to have a go at me, but I've quite a way with words, and have years of experience being a bully. I am also good at instinctively feeling out a girls insecurities. So, I kept going, everyone was laughing, particularly at her. She kept trying to come up with come backs, but each one was worse than the last, and I'd immediately shut her down. The laughter at her, was drowning out everything she was trying to say.

 

At which point I noticed a sudden realization come over her face, she was standing in the middle of a reasonably large group of guys, who were laughing at her. She looked nervous and actually started laughing a bit herself. But you could see she was trying not to. As everything that was being said were just ultra critical payouts of herself. Eventually she stopped trying to attack me, and decided to try and defend herself. At which point I knew I had her. Now she wasn't trying to attack, instead she was trying to validate her position, which implicitly required me to acknowledge that she was attractive. She could have showed me that her tits were a cocaine and ecstasy dispensary, and had been voted the best in the world, and it wouldn't have mattered to me. There was no way she was going to get my validation that easy.

 

Then she threw a Hail Mary to get my validation. She walked over, bent at the waist, and pushed her tits, which were concealed behind this tight dress of hers, right in my face, while touching my leg. She expected me to react with amazement or surprise or something. But my expression didn't change, nor was I impressed. However, she was now in a vulnerable position. I reached out and pulled down her dress so that it went under her titties. Flopping them out for all to see in the back of this club. This got cheers from my mates. She was stunned, but with the cheers, she went with it. They gave her their validation, but she was now in a position where she wanted mine. She scarcely took her eyes off me. She then decided to pursue the plan of shoving them in my face again, as if she was naively hoping that I might perhaps see them up close and rescind my comments.

 

Instead I did what any man might do, I lent forward and sucked and bit them, while waving and posing for the flashing cameras. She took this as some sort of tacit agreement that I liked them, however once they were out of my mouth, I merely reiterated my statements, and said it tasted like gristle on a gamy old piece of meat. At which point a male relative of hers appeared. He was a small man compared to me and my friends. He was telling her to "Stop being such a slut". They'd inevitably gone out to pick up, but she'd gotten more than she'd bargained for, and there was nothing he could do.

 

Since she was now turned around facing him, I decided to stand up, towering over both of them, bend her over, and give her a proper spanking. The kind my friend should have given her before. She was wearing a small skirt, with simple panties underneath. From them looks of them, I don't think she expected to be putting on a show tonight. I lifted them skirt up, and spanked her hard 3 times. She immediately stood up from the sudden pain, and tried to move away. Her brother, defeated, skulked away.

 

I still felt like we were missing out on having a stripper, so I decided to turn her into my friends bucks night stripper. I waked over to her, and proceeded to push her on to each of my friends laps, getting her to grind around, while talking to us. The buck wasn't having any of it, but the others enjoyed. She commented on them getting hard, and poking her ass. It was odd, but the rest of them didn't seem to know what was going on. They just stood or sat there, with their hands by their side, like she was an actual stripper, and they were afraid they'd get kicked out by the bouncer. They'd ask her "Can I touch your breasts", to which she'd obviously reply "No". Of course she'd say this. She wanted to be made. She wanted them to be assertive. Take control. But for some stupid reason, they were incapable of it. When ever they'd ask, she'd say "No" in a coy way, and I'd go of course you fucking can, then I'd do it for them. Every time I did, she'd look at me, lick her lips and say "You're a bad boy", a phrase which grind on me as it felt so lame. This happened over and over again.

 

After this kept on for about 30 minutes to an hour, I was starting to get annoyed at how nobody seemed to understand what was going on here. They totally missed the understanding of what was happening between her and me/us. She was giving over control, begging to be forced, strutting around, in an attempt to please, and bask in the attention. Eventually she stood up and came over to me again, she kind of grind on my leg, trying to get me happy and entertained again, but I'd had enough. I was bored now, and I wanted something else.

 

I said turn around, arch your back, and stick your arse out. For me, she did, immediately. I lifted up her skirt again, and I think she thought she was going to be getting another spanking. But I'd already done that, why do it again? This time as I lifted her skirt, I ran the fingers on my left hand to the top, where it met her underwear. Her disgusting black granny panties. I ran my fingers across the top of them, and right to the center at the back. I feel like what was going to come next was pretty obvious, but she was shocked, as were my friends. When my fingers hit the middle, I hooked them into her panties, and whipped them down to her ankles like lightning. In that single instance, she went from sticking her ass out, to showing a large group of guys her cunt, full on.

 

Her immediate reaction was to bend down further, keeping her legs locked straight up, and grab her panties and pull them up. Which was brilliant, because her cunt became even more exposed, even more open to the world, and it invoked my immediate reaction of putting my left foot on her panties to keep them down. Then running my hands up her body to lift her skirt almost over her head. There she was. Exposed. Caught in bondage of her own devices, from her own clothes. She now could not stand up easily due to her dress restraining her, nor could she pull her underwear up. All she could try to do was bend at the knees and sit down.

 

As she started to do that, I felt like I wasn't quite ready for this to stop. So I ran my right hand over her pussy lips, and stuck a finger in. This meant she couldn't sit down, without having to push herself further on to my finger; She couldn't stand up due to her dress; She couldn't pull her panties up; She couldn't even reach back and stop my hand. She was 100% bound, in front of all of these men, as their camera phones, and a Digital SLR, snapped away furiously. Flashes of light everywhere.

 

After a minute or so of posing and fingering, I let her go. She then pulled me aside, and asked me to join her in the toilets. While I would have fucked her, I'd have rather fucked her in front of all of those guys, than in some filthy toilets. I'm not turned on by toilets, nor do I like to have sex in them. They're disgusting, I told her this. I told her it even repulsed me that she would think that I would like this. She tried dragging me into the toilets, and I stopped her. At no point would I do that. She gave up trying to drag me, and instead sauntered seductively, hoping I'd follow. I watched her go, then went back to talking with the others. Mostly they wanted to talk about what just happened, and show me their pictures.

 

When she came out, she gave me her number, and started to hit on me. Fawning over me like some stray puppy dog, grinding on me, looking for any affection. I would have shown her it at this point, and perhaps introduced her to the scene. But very quickly after that moment, she began to act out. Bratty. Demanding drinks. Stomping her feet. Acting like a child. Being insolent. I think because the night had start to wind down, people were starting to leave, and she had lost her place at the center of attention, she was trying to do anything to provoke me. However, I don't tolerate bratts. While she was hoping for more attention, I was giving her the attention as a reward, not as a punishment. Now she was merely garnering my fury, the punishment of which was to ignore her, and cast her aside. I pushed her out of the group, ignored her, and eventually she came up to me, said she's going home, and that she'd love it if I'd call her.

 

In the end, we had a lot of fun.

 

My main profile pic was taken by the friend with the DSLR, taken just at that moment I began to rip them to the floor. Some people have asked, are there more photos. There are, there's a lot more. That DSLR was snapping away like crazy. However, I haven't uploaded them because they weren't as tasteful or as beautiful. In addition to this, you could often see someone in the background, make out a face, or similar. And there was no good way of cropping them out.

 

The second photo on my profile is of her after I released her from her bondage, and allowed her to pull her panties back up. She immediately turned around, came closer to me, smiled, gave me big puppy dog eyes, and said "You're bad".

 

The third photo on my profile is of me taking the ice from someone's drink, getting her to pull her top down, and then icing her tits till they were cold and sore. I can't remember exactly at what point in the night this happened, but it was somewhere around the middle.

 

Never tell me "I'm bad", it grinds on me, and feels so lame. It reduces the beautiful thing we have going, to some weird faux play.

Is anyone else getting an extreme amount of submissive girls from all over the world between the age of 18 to 27 checking out their profile?

 

I haven't been on CollarMe for a long time, but this never happened so much before. I think I even wrote about how annoying it was a few years ago, that almost the only people who viewed my profile were people listed as "dominant". Now, all of a sudden, the tables have reversed. I guess now I know what it feels like to be inundated with messages like all those winging submissives who cant take everyone who keeps messaging them. Quite frankly, I like it. It's no big deal. This gives me a new found disdain for people who complain about the amount of people viewing/contacting them.

There must be something wrong with my profile, since I get more "dominant" women and men (just checked, profile is straight, and not seeking men), than submissive women. Though I seem to get a lot of submissive men browsing too.

Perhaps there are a lot of confused people out there, or perhaps everyone has the same experience?? ?
Saying things without saying things.

It's amazing the amount of profiles that are out there, where people are regurgitating the same drivel, over and over again. It's a tempting and easy trap to fall into. I regularly find myself saying things without saying things.

The first thing people say:
I'm looking for someone intelligent, or something along those lines. The implicit assumption in this statement, is that they are intelligent, and couldn't possibly connect with anyone below their level. The problem being, there is no measure of intelligence, what is intelligent? Since most people consider themselves to be above average when it comes to intelligence, and given the Dunning-Kruger effect, I guess the people who are implying they are smart, are actually more likely to be the stupid ones.

The second thing people say:
I do not give people permission to use my profile for blah blah blah. The implicit assumption here is that people are so interested in you, that they're hounding you to be apart of their study, and want to use your content. This content would be used by a lot of people with or without your permission and your little message, isn't particularly legal. However, you know what is? The Terms of Service for this site, which explicitly cover this sort of thing. Given someone really wants to, your little message is not going to put them off, especially in comparison to a far more legal document. So why even say it? Because it's another way of saying something, without saying anything.

While there's many others, they annoy me less.

Lastly, some people select far too many likes/dislikes, and write far too much in their profiles. Why write things like "I enjoy music", this is not an exceptional statement, and in no way does it really define you. However, if you said "I hate music", then that would be an exceptional statement. One which would define you. You like shopping and clubbing? Awesome, why don't you also talk about other things which a large amount of people, especially people who are like you, are into. That's one way to make sure you don't stand out.

So...
If you're intelligent and you've read this, put in your profile that "I no smart, please no use big words", so we know you're smart.

If you want to tell people that other people are interested in you, from now on just state "I would like you to know that people find me interesting, and I have left this message for you, in lieu of a disclaimer".

And if you have no defining interests beyond those which are generically associated with the group you identify with, then just say so. However, OMG YOU LIKE MUSIC? I LIKE MUSIC TOO! WE SHOULD TOTALLY LIKE GO CLUBBING AND SHOPPING!
If you want to find out about me, before talking to me, feel free to read these personality profiles, as they reflect me 100%.

My MBTI type is ENTJ:
http://www.personalitypage.com/ENTJ.html

http://www.personalitypage.com/ENTJ_rel.html

My Enneagram type is 8:
http://www.enneagraminstitute.com/Typeeight.asp
A large proportion of women on here list themselves as submissive or similar. However when you talk to them, you find their kinks aren't extreme (such as sexy nurse role play), nor is their need/drive for submission particularly extreme.

As such, you are defining yourself as submissive, yet you are barely characterising yourself as more submissive than an average girl off of the street. Most regular relationships are skewed towards the female taking a relatively low level of submission. House hold duties, sexual duties, etc. This is the norm.

When measuring your own submission, you should not be measuring yourself in relation to someone who is dominant, but in relation to someone who is like you, but normal. In this case, your "submissive tendencies" seem absolutely normal and boring. You'd have better luck finding someone on another site, or in an average pub/club.

If you do not NEED sex to be something extreme, or if you do not NEED to relinquish control of your life to an extreme level, such that normal people would be shocked, then you're not submissive enough/kinky enough to be on here. Instead, you likely want a regular relationship, and thought this might be an easy place to find it.

Perhaps you think everybody on here takes this whole "submission" thing a little to seriously, well, for us, it fucking is. This isn't a passing fancy, this isn't a cute little play thing, this isn't about plastic hand cuffs you got as a joke. This is deeply psychologically ingrained, and why a large amount of real Dom's on here, will come off as someone who is psychologically analysing you. You know why? Because we're can't afford to waste time, and we're sick of finding normal girls, which aren't worth a fucking thing to us.

This is not a choice. If I could have a relationship with a regular girl, life would be a whole lot fucking easier.

This is my life.

The same thing goes for Dominants, just the other way around.
One simple question, and I am forced to think far too much.

"When did I get into BDSM?"

Now this is the hard part, it is hard to define when I was into the scene, but ever since I was a child, I've played sexually with girls. I would find myself tying them up, or I would organize games of truth or dare, where I was looking to push others with my dares. As I grew older, up until about 14, this kind of play subsided and I turned to masturbation. Where my thoughts would vary through all sorts of scenarios like rape, voyerism, etc, nothing was off the table. They always seemed to center around certain themes of power though.

It's interesting because until this question, I had scarcely thought about it.

So when I got the internet, I guess it was just natural that I began gravitating to this sort of porn. I found I was able to more easily ejaculate to it. Even when I tried to fight it, I was never the victor. This is in line with the ideology I have developed these days.

My first grown up sexual experiences were at 17, I don't count the stuff when I was younger. They were with a few gothic girls who I dominated, a girl who wanted a daddy dom, a girl who liked to be play raped, and similar. Since then I've branched out more and more, as I've began to learn about myself, and take a more c'est la vie approach to life.

So I guess you could say, I've been into the scene, since I was a child... but more formally, since I was 17.

I wonder if this is a part of my inherited personality. If anyone has any more information on this, I'd love to hear it.

Perhaps I look too deep into simple questions, but this one really made me think, and really made me question myself.

So, when did you get into BDSM?
Everyone's talking about "I don't play any games", "I'm the real Master", "I will force you down", blah blah blah. It's mostly abstract talk and doesn't reflect anyone. I guarantee both parties will be nervous, both parties attempt to minimize risk, both parties aren't sure how the relationship will go, however perhaps that's some of the fun.

Bringing this back to marketing theory, this is a bad idea. When your customers (slaves) perceptions of your services (skills/relationship/looks/etc) deviate heavily from reality, you find there is a gap in expectation versus what you've delivered. This is bad, since what you've provided might not necessarily be bad, and might be exactly what they want. However, you have defined expectations for them which are too high, and so you will always fall short. People notice this mostly with new movies and games when they get their hopes up, and business has noticed this quite a lot with fast food (McDonalds is crap, but when you get there and it's so cheap and tasty, you've a greater sense of satisfaction/your needs being met).

Psychologically this means your internal perception is different from your external perception, and you become anxious, and will ruin the encounter.
I like to open up to anonymous people online, far more than anyone else in my life and feel that release. I find it therapeutic.

I believe it comes from that sense of purpose and belonging that, my feelings and ideas are also represented others in a group I am apart of. Masters and slaves need to go out and do things like this, else they are likely to not question their sexuality/personality/psychology, and are likely to feel alienated from the world.

I've found this results in some Masters/slaves feeling sad, disillusioned and less Masterful/submissive. This doesn't necessarily mean you need to go to munches/etc, however you need to do things which make you feel an integral part of a community which accepts and encourages you. This is something I notice a lot of people online don't do. Mostly due to their fear of exposure or similar.

For those of us who live more publicly than others, this is a lot easier to achieve and explains why those "lifestyle"/"pros" might seem more Masterful/submissive.
For some reason, western society has primarily deemed it a social faux pas to be less than dominant. Such that, young men, and even women, read many books on "becoming more dominant", "getting what you want", and similar. This is a ridiculous proposition as it assumes that a relationship is a zero sum game, that when someone is a winner, someone is a loser. Which is completely false, as both partners must benefit more than they would if they were to be apart, to stay together. Also, it assumes that there is something wrong with submission, that service is somehow less than commanding, when in actual fact both are perfectly fine goals and (as discussed before), benefit both partners. Lastly, it assumes that there must be someone to command and someone to obey, in a M/s relationship, this is "more" true, however in any other relationship this is blatently false.

Which is a really good point, which more people need to understand. Especially since, those who attempt to play a role they are not suited for, find themselves not fitting in... anywhere. They aren't Masterful and they aren't submissive, they attempt to become a different personality by supressing their unconcious, which results in them being disingenuoius. When the unconcious takes over, forcing them further into the position they didn't want to be in. The Id wins.
I understand myself better than most people, and after I talk to you for a while, I'll understand you better than you do. Whether you know it or not. Though, I am always learning more about myself.
Too many people seem to have a problem with CollarMe. The problem is due to people overly emphasizing their submissiveness/dominance. As such, when they go to meet the person in real life, or the relationship generally escalates, they find themselves quickly stricken with anxiety, which they rationalize as "I'm not like this, I am going to stop this". In all likelihood, you are like this, but by lying about yourself, you've fucked yourself up.

Here's a guide for the first message you send me:
Give me an accurate representation of yourself. Tell me your flaws, and your weaknesses. Be accurate. Don't describe yourself as ridiculously submissive. The more accurate a perception of yourself you know I have, and that I know you have, the more power I will have over you.

If you can't do this, when we go to meet, you probably won't show, and you'll turn out to be just like the people on your profile you profess to not be like.
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